hi there I'm Drew Badger the world's
number 1 English Fluency Guide and in
this video I'm going to give you my
number one secret to instant
conversation confidence so that when you
begin your conversations you can feel
very excited to begin speaking I'm going
to keep this video very short but I
thought I would just give a few examples
of how I begin conversations out here in
Japan with people I don't even know
every day when I'm walking around I try
to approach people it could be even just
very quickly like someone I see at a
train station or especially if I'm like
if I'm waiting for a bus or waiting at a
train station i might just begin having
a conversation with somebody so I might
find some reason to do it but the thing
that I use in order to get myself
excited and just prepare for the
conversation even if I don't know
exactly what I'm going to talk about is
I imagine the person is an old friend of
mine so even people i've never met
before when i walk up to them or if i
greet somebody especially if i go to a
convenience store or any store I walk in
I say hey like how are you and I and I
say this with a big happy voice kind of
like a more important reason I do it
also so people won't won't be scared I'm
kind of like a big foreigner that's in
this town of you know it's not very big
so people are often a little bit nervous
when they think oh no maybe this person
doesn't speak any Japanese so I have to
kind of make them relax make them calm
down a little bit but when I walk into a
place and I say hey like it's like
really great to see you I just walk and
I say oh hello and often i will look at
maybe the name tag of someone and i will
use their name and people typically are
in a robotic kind of way in you know
looking at people and they kind of do
their their normal routine like
especially people at a convenience store
in Japan they just you know they they
take your items they say hello welcome
to the store and they take your items
and scan them and they give them back to
you but if you try to begin a
conversation with them they think wow
like I'm now having a real human
connection with people so I've talked
about this before in a previous video I
don't remember which one exactly but I
was talking about advice for how to go
out and like just develop your fluency
in general just by meeting and speaking
with more people but with this video I'm
really
talking about the psychology of how you
do that and this is by imagining that
these are people that you've known for a
really long time so I don't just say
like hello I'm saying a like Hello like
I get like quite excited when I see
people and especially in Japan and this
is a bit more of a kind of generally
conservative place where you're meeting
people and people are not so friendly or
not so quick to develop really deep
relationships with people very quickly
but I like trying to do that so it's a
different thing than what people are
used to but also that makes it a bit
more likely that i'm able to make a
connection with these people into to get
them into a conversation of some kind
now if you're a little bit nervous if
you're thinking about how do i begin a
conversation or i don't know what to say
just begin with hello the point is just
to develop a sense or like the
confidence the courage to say hello to
people that you've not met before and
even if you're the one beginning that
conversation so even if I don't speak
any Japanese at all I would just say oh
hello and I'm just like being you know
very friendly and open and inviting with
people but I do that by imagining myself
as just having known that person for a
really long time so that's just a quick
tip for you today again it's not
something that like you need to think
about learning more vocabulary in order
to do it a lot of the real secret to be
to becoming a fluent speaker is to
change the psychology that you have the
ways that you think about things and
these are what's really going to help
you become a much more confident speaker
because there are many people I know
like personal students throughout the
years that I've had they know a lot of
information and even they know more
English than I know in Japanese so they
know more words or phrases that they can
tell me all about grammar points in
English and I say wow I don't know any
of that stuff in Japanese but the
difference is that I actually can get
out into a conversation and start
speaking confidently with people so it's
not about how much you know it's more
about the way you think about the
situation and can you get out and just
begin by trying to have a more a kind of
personal a human connection with people
and you taking the initiative about that
so you starting something and you
deciding it's a great idea just to say
like Hello like you haven't seen someone
in a long time I walk into a store all
hello how are you and people like wow
they're like really
is about that in most people like oh
like I'm doing well thank you you know
so they might think it's a little bit
surprising but at the same time it's
really an opportunity for me just to
develop that sense of being able to
start a conversation with anyone at any
time even if I don't know how it's going
to go so think about this this try to
imagine people that you see just give
them like a smile and say hello like the
worst they do is maybe not respond to
you but you know so what you're the one
that got practice even you know like
whether they say anything or not so
you're always winning in that situation
regardless of what the other person does
so this is a great way to begin a
conversation with instant confidence and
i hope you apply it i look forward to
seeing you in the next video and if
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