- Happy wife, happy life, happy husband.
No unboxing, no mess, it is a good day.
- Is that what you want, for your life?
Just no more mess.
- It makes me happy, it just does.
No unboxing, nothing, it's good.
- Tina, we'll see about that.
- Yeah, we'll see.
- What do you mean we'll see about that?
- You will see, you will see, keep going, keep going.
- Is it true, happy wife, happy life?
I think it's absolutely true.
- Yeah, of course!
- So what does that mean to you, Dan?
- I think it's knowing what makes your wife tick,
if she has expensive hobbies.
- Support her!
- Support her.
- No matter what!
- No matter what.
(laughter)
No matter what, yes.
(laughter)
But, no, I think it's having that relationship,
having that open communication.
I think for men, if we are, if the home life is a mess,
especially I think when we're going out there,
you know, building a business, building the empire,
but when we come home, you want a sanctuary.
You want a place where you can relax,
where you are peaceful, right?
- You can be who you really are.
- No, but you still who you are,
but it's where you can be relaxed.
If you've come home and sometimes,
if the wife is not supportive, or this argument,
this conflict, and all that, then it makes it difficult.
For men I think, especially.
I think women the same thing, right?
- Yeah, I don't want conflict at home.
- Right, right, you go out there, especially now,
a lot of women have their own businesses and career.
- Mmm, yeah.
- They're out there and then when they come home,
if they don't have that communication and interaction
with their husband, I think it's difficult.
- So then Jenny, how is it for you?
- I think the same, I think happy wife, happy life.
For me, it's happy husband, happy life as well.
I think it's for both of us because I don't see Dan
as more just a husband, I see him as a partner.
A partner, we can do business together.
A partner, we have fun together.
A partner, we can joke around.
A partner, we can do anything together.
So if he's happy, of course I'm happy.
And a lot of things I'm doing, quote unquote sacrifices
but if he's happy, I'm really happy for him.
So I love to do all this, I think same for him as well.
- Yeah, except a little less shopping.
- How about a little less?
(laughing)
- Snap. - Damn.
That's a burn.
(laughing)
- That is a burn.
Slice, slice.
- Boom.
Right, boom.
- Oh, yeah.
- I see, that's how it works.
That's exactly how it works.
- Is that what makes you happy, Jenny?
- Burning me like that.
- Yeah, when he's not happy, I'm happy.
(laughing)
- When I'm miserable, you're happy.
- It comes out.
- I'm miserable, you're happy.
- That's the truth, that's the truth.
- No, it's funny because the way we talk,
it's not so, like day to day communication,
we like to poke fun at each other.
Sometimes, a little bit sarcastic.
Versus like-- - See that.
- You know, sometimes, most of the husband wife thing,
oh, you're so handsome, oh, baby, I love you.
We never.
Can't do that, I can't do that.
- I don't think I've ever seen--
- Right?
You guys see, we kiss in front of you guys?
Very rare.
- One time, I think a couple times.
- One time. - Yeah, one time.
Your birthday. - Birthday, something
like that, a birthday kiss.
- Yeah, I give you a little treat.
- Yeah, I think that's also, it's a Chinese thing, right?
You kind of, what is it, you are more,
when you're in front of people, like Chinese culture--
- No PDA? - Yeah, like,
you're not like, even Japan, you're not like--
- Nowadays in Japan they hold hands.
- They hold hands, but they aren't like French kissing.
In the subway or something like that.
- That would be a really weird, I'm glad.
- Right? - That's not happening.
- I think it's because of that.
- I think we're just comfortable with each other.
- Yes, I think that's the one.
I sometimes see couples where they're a little bit
uptight with each other, a little bit--
- Have to keep certain images.
I have to do certain things.
- They're not very open, seems like that.
- So how are you able to keep that going,
that synergistic, or maybe that's not the word,
but that light, fun hearted and not serious all the time,
because I can imagine you can easily get there.
- I think we just set the tone in the beginning.
Like, wife, even when we first got together,
I'm just me. - But you say
you were not that with your ex-girlfriends, right?
- I wasn't like that with my ex,
I wasn't like that. - So it's all me.
It's all me, it goes through me.
- Yeah, yeah. - It goes to you.
No, I think just Jenny's lighthearted, fun.
So then I'm just lighthearted fun, right?
- OK. - That sets the tone.
- What I'm having right now, when I was 10 years,
like even more.
Even more.
Right now it's a little bit more mature, but even more.
- I want to see Jenny from 10 years ago.
- But I think that's part of what attracted me to her
was her smile, her like just fun vibe.
Because I was like serious like business.
And it's just like-- - You wore a suit
to our first date, like suit.
How serious. - Full on suit.
Like OK.
But she's fun and it brings the light and fun.
- So literally happy wife, happy life.
- Yes. - Literally.
- Literally, literally, for sure.
She brings a lot of balance.
And even when I, even during that time,
those first few years, when I'm working very hard,
like every day,
workaholic, but she would be like,
no, you stop, let's stop, relax, let's go watch a movie.
Because if she doesn't do that, I will just work
like long, long hours.
But she would force me to have like a hard stop,
no, we're not working, and I'm like, what do you mean
I'm not working, I'm working, you can see.
No, we're not working.
Turn the computer, let's go.
And after a few times, OK.
I get used to it.
- Now he's like, "Let's go watch a movie tonight."
Oh, I want to stay home.
Yeah.
The other way around. - It's true, it's true.
I think that's it.
- And then, on a certain level, we kind of influence
each other, so we're change more to, you know,
like two combined to one kind of thing,
so he is more open, and I am more serious, I guess.
More mature.
So not as like-- - And also from before,
would be less organized.
Less disciplined. - What do you mean
by less organized?
Less disciplined?
Let's talk about this right now.
What do you mean by that?
- That's just what it means.
Ask her. - Your room was a mess,
type of situation? - Yeah.
But you can always find the things you want, you know?
- Oh, right, right, yes, right,
I know where everything is.
- Don't touch it, don't organize it.
- No, even stuff like, she wouldn't have a list,
a to do list, right?
- Right now. - I said,
"Just keep a to do list."
- No, whenever he's like, "Here's a list,
"you got to do this for me."
I'm like, I hate that, I just throw the list away.
Say, "Don't tell me what to do, I hate that list."
- Very rebellious.
Seeing what I deal with?
- Yeah, but after a couple times,
I keep forgetting things, so I'm like,
"OK, I'll just take the list."
- I told you so.
I told you so.
But it's that kind of thing.
Like those habits, right?
But it seems, I can't do the, because I can't treat Jenny
like, you know, she's not my student,
she's my wife, because otherwise,
hey, you gotta be top performance, productivity.
How they do this stuff.
Boom, right?
- Whenever he asks me to do something.
- Attitude. - He's like, baby,
do this for me.
And after he's like, "Thank you so much, baby."
Really carefully treating me.
- Positive reinforcement.
- It's true because sometimes when you run a business,
always have that leader, that boss kind of attitude.
- You're working for it.
- You don't want to bring that to home, by the way.
Because I see guys do that.
- Listen to that. - You do not want to.
Because you got to change that tone.
You can't just be, yeah, do this,
why is it not done?
What's going on?
You can't-- - Because I don't
feel like to. - You can't--
- But did you do that in the beginning?
- Yes, yes. - A little bit.
- A little bit.
I didn't know, right?
Because I thought, oh, it's just the same.
And then I realized.
Not at home. - Doesn't work for woman.
- Horrible idea.
- Did she give you that feedback, is that what happened?
- No, I just kept telling her to do stuff,
none of it gets done.
So I thought, OK, this does not work.
OK, this does not work.
Got to change my approach a little bit here, right?
- I guess I was rebellious.
(laughing)
- Yeah, thank you.
(laughing)
Yes, right?
- I remember, tell you this one time,
we were fighting in the parking lot,
inside a car, I forget what it was,
probably some stupid reason,
and then I was trying to get out the car,
I was like, "I'm not talking to you anymore."
And then he just pulled me,
he was just trying to pull the hood,
but somehow he pulled my hair.
- Because we was in the parking lot,
we were, it's not safe.
- Yeah, that area was not safe.
- Not safe, so she wanted, she was all like angry
and stuff, she wanted to get out of the car,
I was like, "Don't get out of the car.
"Anything, keep in the car, we'll go somewhere else,
"we'll talk about it."
It was like the first big fight we ever had.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was a really big fight.
- Don't go, and she was like, "Don't fucking touch me."
- Don't touch me, I'm gonna get up out of the car.
And then he just-- - Grabbed her hoodie.
Yeah. - But he pulled my hair.
I was flipped, I was like, "You dare to hit me?
"You pull my hair?" - I wasn't trying to pull
her hair, I just pulled the hood.
- I was literally screaming in the car.
And then people were like,
"What the heck is going on?"
And then he was like, "Oh, I guess that's it,
"we cannot be together, this is too much."
Too dramatic for him to handle.
- Too dramatic.
- But later I found out he was just trying to help me.
- Yeah. - Yeah, so,
but it was funny, I just thought about it,
it was really funny, I was like, "Don't you touch me."
- No you didn't.
Right? - You can imagine, right?
- I would be walking by like, these people.
- Crazy people.
- But we had, but now we, I think at first
we fought maybe a couple times every couple months,
something like that, once a month?
And then now and as time goes on, we don't really.
- Can I share a story? - Yes.
- Are you sure? - Any story.
(laughing)
Any story. - This one time.
I forgot.
I don't even remember why we fought, it's so stupid.
I think there was something like I came back home,
he's asking me this and that, and I said I did it
or I didn't do it, I forgot,
and I was so pissed, and I just literally take off
my jacket and throw it on the ground,
I don't want to talk to you.
So I went back room, I just slammed the door really hard,
and he was like, "How dare you slam the door?"
He just walk towards the door, because I locked it,
he was so pissed.
- No you didn't lock it.
- I didn't lock it, right? - You didn't lock it.
- He was so pissed, he was like--
- It was the only time, that was my bad, though,
that was my bad, I lost my temper, it was terrible.
- He kicked the door. - I kicked the door.
- Smashed the door. - I kicked the door.
- And then I was like, "Fuck, what should I do?"
And then afterwards, we both like cooled down it off,
and then he was trying to open the door,
because the door is smashed and jammed--
- I thought it was locked, it wasn't locked.
- Oh, so you were just being dramatic yourself.
(laughing)
- It was one of the very few times like I lost my temper.
- Once, once, once. - It was the one time.
- Because it smashed the door, so the door got jammed,
he was trying to open the door and say sorry.
- Talk to me right now.
I don't know, my martial art background.
Boom, I kicked it.
And I just broke the door.
- And it was one kick, it was just one.
- The whole door. - Powerful kick.
- And afterward, he tried to open it,
the door's jammed. - Yeah, but it actually
wasn't locked, so I could have just opened the door.
Even I have those moments.
Not cool, not cool. - So what I'm trying
to say is-- - Not cool.
- Don't do that to your husband.
- Talk. - Just to protect yourself.
Don't do that. - Just communicate.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah. - Just communicate.
- It was just funny.
Are we allowed to share that?
- We can share that, it doesn't matter.
Yes. - Reviewed.
- Dead lock, breaking the door.
With one kick.
Make that a YouTube.
- We were just laughing, we were just laughing, yeah.
- But we learned, like relationships, ups and downs.
- And in the end, he spent some money to fix the door.
- It was a dumb idea.
- OK, but through all of that, because it sounds like
you two are the exact opposites in the beginning,
right, and you meshed together afterwards.
- Yin and yang. - But why did you
stick together in the first place?
- Because I think we just-- - Attracted by each other.
- Yeah, we attract each other.
- Well, like-- - We communicate so well.
I think that's more than-- - I think because of you.
Because no, because me, I was not like,
I don't feel like talking, I'm not talking.
- Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, I would--
- Yeah, but he was like, OK, let's talk it out.
What are you thinking?
- I always want to communicate.
- So I think that's-- - So more kind of
guiding to you be a better communicator?
More open, right, and then once we communicate
on this, now it's a lot of that, we don't even need
to communicate, just like one look and she'll know.
- Yeah, you two are just like. - Yeah, she'll know
what I'm thinking, right?
- Without even talking. - That's rare.
I think that's rare. - Yes, yes, yes.
And then also, it's because we, the first time
you asked me to help you with your first seminar.
Not your first seminar, but--
- Speaking. - Speaking.
Speaking engagement and suppose there is to be
an event planner to helping him out,
but then she just last minute just dropped off the ball,
so he's like, OK, I really need somebody to help,
can you help me?
And then I was no experience at all.
And I was still going to school,
I was like, "Oh, sure, weekend."
- That was the moment, I think that was the moment
where I felt, because before it was
the boyfriend girlfriend, right, you have that,
and I don't know, as a Chinese man, maybe,
you could say-- - You want to separate things,
right. - Yeah, in the beginning,
I kind of kept it separate.
Right, but then, deep down, I kind of want someone
to support what I do, right?
But it's not easy to find that someone.
So then when Jenny was helping me out at the event,
and it's the first time, oh, it was nice to have someone.
- You can trust, right? - I can trust,
that could help me. - Also, I don't know
what to do. - Kind of a couple,
building something together.
That's the first through I thought of.
OK, you know what, that's someone that
I could be with long term.
- Wow. - That was that incident.
- And from then on-- - From then on--
- I just follow him every time, yeah.
- Oh, here's a free worker, great, you know.
(laughing)
Actually not free.
Very, very expensive.
Very expensive worker.
But no, I had that and then from there,
more and more and more events.
So that's our story.
I think we deviated from the topic.
(laughing)
But it's good.
- I think they get the idea.
- I think it's a good video.
Comment below, is it a good video?
Do you want to see more of these videos?
Let me know. - And I have to
respect Tina. - Tina to come back.
- Yeah, you really do need to comment below
and let them know that Tina needs to come back.
So please do. - We want more Tina.
(laughing)
We want more Jenny. - No Dan, no Dan.
- Yeah, no Dan.
- Tomorrow, you'll see the channel has changed.
Jenny and Tina, that's it.
The channel has changed.
- We should make a channel like that.
- Jenny and Tina.
- So comment below and let us know.