now have you ever liked a guy and he just never quite saw you through a romantic lens or maybe
he did see you romantically but he just never appreciated you I hate to tell you if that's
ever happened it's likely you were just perceived as low value now contrary to your initial response
that you might have a visual response to that it actually has very little to do with your physical
appearance your age or your career so in this video I'm gonna help you reposition yourself as
a high value woman that men deeply desire and it's something you can do pretty quickly keep watching
hey there my name is Adam lodolce I'm the founder of lovestrategies.com where we've coached over 10
000 women and helped them attract love with our proven strategy and here is the lesson of today
value is simply a perception let's take an example outside of dating let's take this pen right here
I want you to think to yourself all right how much is this pen actually worth you'd be like I
don't know 50 cents 25 that's I don't know this is a pen but what if I told you that this was
the pen that JFK used to sign the Cuban Missile treaty how would the value of this pen suddenly
change probably back I don't know million dollars this one this would be one of the most valuable
pens on the planet same pen it hasn't changed different value in your mind now that's just
some stupid example obviously this is a Marriott pen so this is not that particular pen but this
same exact idea a plus so now your value has gone down again all right with the pen the same exact
idea applies to attracting men and here's exactly how it works so you can reposition yourself around
guys and raise your value let's start with number six recognize your value long story short if you
don't believe that your high value woman nothing else in this whole video is going to work for
example the other day I had a client she is cool man like she's one of those people you meet you're
like wow you're awesome she's like trendy she's a writer in New York City and she explained to
me Adam but I'm 46 and no one would ever want to date me why would anyone want anything to do with
me so I said to her you know what you're right she said wait what so I said you're right no one
would actually want to date you and she was like wait what what kind of dating coach are you and
I said whoa before you get too mad it has nothing to do with your age no one would want to date you
because you believe that no one would want to date you in your age group all of your actions from
this point forward if you maintain that mindset going out to the dating scene and go out meeting
guys go on first days second days and so on and so forth every single action from this point going
forward will come from a place of neediness and insecurity so a lot of what we do when we start
working with clients is we start removing what we call false beliefs these beliefs about age
or about our careers or about you know I've been divorced two times no one would want anything to
do with that type of person once we can start to isolate and then move these false beliefs suddenly
it sets us free to go out there and actually raise our value and I know you want tactical stuff and
I'm going to give it to you later in this video but you got to start with your belief system when
you look in the mirror and you are like damn oh my God I am absolutely every guy on the planet would
want to be with me and you really believe in your core you're not just saying it because it's some
weird affirmation you have you actually believe it then suddenly it just opens your entire life up to
incredibly high value men and if you like a little personal coaching on how to change some of those
mindsets and identify your limiting false beliefs then I would click the link in the description
you can watch a free training jump on a free call with one of our love strategies and see
if our coaching is a fit for you if you raise your value in your eyes then suddenly you don't accept
low value behavior from other men your worth is what you accept from others number five is to be
comfortable just being imperfect what do I mean by this well have you ever met like a politician
before or seen them on television and you just feel completely disconnected from that
human being and it's because when you meet that person you know that they're just trying to be so
absolutely perfect and not say any of the wrong things because if they do then God knows what's
going to happen on social media or on the news or on the other hand have you ever just met a person
who's like kind of high value but they're actually pretty imperfect the way they talk or maybe they
make a mistake I always think of someone I don't know why Chris Pratt he's like a you know the
actor he just seems so authentic and he'll go on like tonight shows and just be the type of guy
who like goof around he'll snort when he laughs he'll he's comfortable doing that and when you're
comfortable being imperfect suddenly that actually raises your value around people versus those
people who are just always trying to be absolutely perfect and if they make a mistake they just
completely flounder it's okay to make mistakes if you go on a first date then it's okay if you Spill
the Wine on the table it's okay if you tell kind of a weird joke and you don't have a good story to
tell whatever it is humans actually connect with other humans through imperfection not Perfection
and there's actually a psychological effect that happens when we make mistakes in many cases and
it makes people actually like you more no relation to Chris Pratt by the way it's called the pratfall
effect people become more likable after making a mistake and this is especially true like with
dating if a guy is really nervous before a first date and then you make some type of mistake then
he's actually going to like you even more it's the pratfall effect so the next time you go on a date
the next time you go to an event the next time that you go out meeting new people be comfortable
being your true authentic self you're gonna say the wrong thing at times you're gonna spill the
water and that is okay it actually makes you more likable the next way to raise your value around
men is to make men earn your affection there's an interesting study that backs this idea up and it
basically shows that we are bound to like someone more if that person starts off disliking us and
then grows to like us then if the person has liked us from the very beginning especially when it
comes to dating so if a guy goes on a first date with you and he gets the sense that you're not
sure if you're really into him he you know you're kind of deciding if it's a good fit and then as
time goes on you kind of warm up to him this actually makes him like you even more throughout
the process because again it makes him earn your value and it makes him value what he works for
it's known as the gain loss theory of Attraction and it probably occurs because when we feel like
we've won a person over it kind of increases our good feelings about them now you probably think
of yourself well Adam that's all well and good but like what if he isn't trying to earn my affection
well then you gotta ask yourself what would a high value woman do in that situation she'd say that
magical four-letter word which is next and move on to the next a high value woman's love is not free
her affection is just not given freely to any guy who shows up in her life no it is earned and if
he's not earning it then he loses it as humans we value anything that we have to really work for our
emotional energy our time our resources and if he's not doing that then it's time to set your
sights elsewhere that's why we have what we call the little love steps if you're not yet exclusive
with a guy it's not an exclusive to find the relationship conversation then you my beautiful
lady are still single so if he's not investing in you then it's time to set your sights elsewhere
and then if he makes a further investment to win you back okay that's fine we'll see if he's really
there or not if it's legit and if it's not then he's gonna lose you because you are going to put
your time and energy elsewhere into a man who's actually earning your affection and the challenges
what most women do in this situation is that they say oh yeah Adam I totally agree a man's love is
toe totally earned and you know I turned down a lot of guys who aren't investing me and that
they say that until the right guy comes around who oh my God he's handsome he's charismatic
he's really confident he's successful it's like their perfect guy and then all that goes out the
window and then they get what we call oneitis they focus all of their energy on that one guy lowering
their value and then it doesn't work out so don't let it go out the window especially when you meet
that high value guy that you're really into lean into this principle make him earn your affection
and if he doesn't then you know what beat after me next now let me ask you a question have I yet
earned your affection in this video if so give this video a like subscribe follow wherever it
is that you're watching it now let's jump into the next way to raise your value around men which is
to set boundaries of what's acceptable behavior from a man long story short low value women don't
have boundaries a boundary is essentially just like an invisible line that separates you from
me me and low value guys will always try to overstep boundaries they'll always be trying
to figure out where it is that you're going what is that you're doing they'll try to control you or
Worse they'll do the opposite where they'll push the boundaries as to like maybe flirting with
other women or being inappropriate throughout the dating process or pushing your boundaries
about sexual advancement there's so many different boundaries that people will overstep or understep
throughout the dating process and a high value woman is not afraid to clearly and succinctly
set those boundaries even when they're talking to a high value guy this happened actually the other
day with a client and she was talking to this new guy they'd gone out about six times together and
she really liked him like she was into him when we have clients who are posting in our community our
private community and talking about the same guy over and over and over again at Mastermind events
then you know I can usually tell they're starting to really get involved with this guy but something
happened that kind of caused her to be unsure of whether or not this guy is good for her she was
just sitting at her house on a random Saturday she hadn't talked to him at all that day and he
came up out of nowhere and knocked on her door and you know they'd gone out five or six times
so it wasn't like massively inappropriate but it was also still like he came unannounced what was
he really doing and it turned out he just wanted to come and see her and she didn't know how to
handle this situation so of course I just said to her like look just set a clear boundary you don't
have to be mean about it or like go way over the top and yell at him or anything like that you can
just say look like I've really enjoyed getting to know you I really want to see where this goes but
in the future when you do come back can you just give me a heads up I prefer to make plans rather
than just have someone show up unannounced now a lot of people think that's where this ends okay
and it's actually not true that's only the first step to setting a boundary now we've
set a boundary and said hey this is the boundary that I've set now let's see if he oversteps that
boundary okay and this is where you can really get a lot of good information about a person does he
adhere to it and say look I totally understand I will like I make sense I'll take a step back or
is he the type of guy that you know he'll be like yeah of course of course and then two weeks later
he shows up your house again unannounced if he does that now we just have a boundary violation
and if someone violates your boundaries especially early on in the dating process it's likely they're
going to do it again do it again and do it again so be aware of guys who overstep those boundaries
don't be afraid to set appropriate boundaries throughout the dating process because you are
a high value woman and here is the craziest part of all this the more that you are appropriately
setting boundaries it actually raises your value high value guys don't want to be with
women who they can just walk all over it's okay to set those boundaries so long as you're just
clearly communicating why you're setting it and what is appropriate what's not appropriate
that's it the second way to be a high value woman and position yourself this way is to
always remember that you my beautiful lady have walking power I don't care if you've been with
a guy for two days two months or two years even 20 years if you're with someone and no longer is
the connection working for you or it's emotionally harmful or it's just not in line with your vision
for your life then you have walking power okay and high value women internalize this now the point of
this is not to just walk away the moment you have any type of Hiccup in your relationship hiccups
happen all the time and sometimes it's a burp sometimes it's a full vomit okay in a relationship
those things happen but at the end of the day it's really important to always remember you can walk
away from this situation if it's not working for you if you try to fix it but it's just not working
and you're just finding yourself just constantly having conflict after conflict complication after
complication it's just not working and you've been putting everything into it he's not doing
it himself what does a high value woman do they say look I need to stand up for myself I have
to find something that is actually going to work for me for the long term and sometimes that means
walking away from the wrong situation and this is why I'm such a big proponent of having a strategy
throughout the dating process is especially our clients when they find themselves in a committed
lasting relationship they always know in the back of their mind if something doesn't work out with
that guy if at the end of the day it's just not the right fit and sometimes it can take some time
before knowing that they always know they can go back to Little Love step number one they always
have that in the back of their mind and that in many ways raises their value to men because men
can sense that they sense that if they don't step up to the plate and they don't actually act like
a man should in the relationship then he's gonna lose her and that is the high value mindset that I
really want you to just fully embody when you're in relation chips and when you're out there and
dating and the final principle is that high value women meet high value men in high value places
let's start with one of the lowest value places to meet guys nightclubs now luckily most of our
clients are in their 30 40s 50s 60s and Beyond so most of them aren't going to nightclubs but that
would just be an example of a terrible place to go to mate high value men whereas if you want to
meet high value guys who really do step up to the plate then yeah maybe a nightclub is in the right
place or even a dive bar or your local bar that you go to just because your girlfriends go instead
be thinking in your area where are high value men where do they exist be looking at events online
are there philanthropic events that are going on around you are there parties that are happening
through your social group are there people you can reach out to who are high value people who
know other high value people are there other type of singles events you can go to that cater
to a certain clientele that's on your level being intentional and put that upfront work into finding
the right types of places that's going to surround you with high value people because I guarantee
it if you keep going to places where there's only low value guys you're going to end up in a
relationship with a low value guy if you surround yourself with high value men and high value people
guess what you end up with high value people so if you enjoyed this video and you are ready
to commit yourself to being that high value woman just leave a comment right there below
saying yes that is your commitment to being that high value woman follow these principles follow
these mindsets and let's get you out there attracting that man that you deeply desire