You’ve been spending time with this guy and you’re pretty sure he’s into you.
Not only does he make an effort to see you, but he’s not shy to get flirtatious, either.
In fact, he may have even dropped subtle hints about wanting to hook up, or maybe he has
already opened the door to that possibility.
So, how do you get him to commit if he’s pushing for sex?
Hey ladies, Amy North here.
For those of you who don’t know me I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, Canada
and today I want to talk about how you can spin the situation to make the man you’re
into commit to more than just casual sex with you.
Now I know this sound challenging, especially if he’s the “player” type, but believe
me, with the right tips this isn’t as daunting as it may seem.
Before I share these with you though I’d like to quickly ask that if you enjoy what
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Now, let’s get started.
If the guy you’re into is pushing for sex, then the first thing you’re going to have
to do to get him to commit instead is to NOT put out.
As tempted as you may be to hook up with him, doing so will get you nowhere if you’re
looking for a relationship with this guy.
Why?
Because if he’s just in it for the sex then you can pretty much bet on him losing interest
when he gets what he wants.
Instead of hopping in bed with him, make him work to win you over, and better yet, make
him commit to a relationship you!
If you’ve watched my other dating advice videos then you have probably heard me talk
about men how love the thrill of the chase.
This means that if you want to make him your boyfriend, then you need to keep him wanting
more and working to win you over.
It’s been proven that men value women who they have chase and make an effort to get
with, so instead of being another notch in his bedpost, make it known that you’re looking
for something more than a quick, casual sexy time.
Simply put, don’t sleep with him unless he’s willing to go steady.
That said, there really is no right or wrong answer for when you should sleep with a guy,
but for the sake of this video, if he’s pushing for sex then you don’t want to give
it up to him if you’re looking for something more.
If you’re worried about coming across as “square” or “lame” don’t be.
Sure telling him that you don’t put out without a commitment can seem awkward or embarrassing,
but if you tell him in a way that shows him your confidence then he’ll not only respect
your decision, but he may even find himself more attracted to you.
The next thing you’re going to need to do to make him commit to being with you is to
show him what a great catch you are.
Once he realizes that you’re something special and bring a happiness like no other to his
life then he’ll be more willing to commit to a relationship with you.
Now, this can be tough, especially if he’s really trying to score with you, but by being
your positive, outgoing self it won’t take long for him to realize that if he doesn’t
lock you down, someone else will come along and sweep you off your feet!
To do so it’s important that you find ways to be the best part of his day.
Maybe this means being the person who makes him laugh, or perhaps you’re the listener
he needs.
Whatever is it, when you can make a lasting impact on his day to day life he’ll be more
inclined to commit to you.
If you’d like to learn some tricks to up your odds and make him see you as his dream
woman then visit my site, www.coachnorth.com and watch the free video presentation.
You’ll not only discover some helpful tricks for boosting your physical odds, but you’ll
also learn my Devotion Sequence, which is a set of words designed specifically to make
any man wild with desire for you.
Trust me, you don’t want to miss this one!
Lastly, if you want the man you’re into to commit to you and not just push for sex
then you’ll want to become less available and show him that you’re busy enjoying yourself.
In other words, don’t meet up whenever it’s convenient for him, but instead show him that
you have your own life and that you’re not sitting around, waiting for him to call.
Why?
Because he’s NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND!..
And even if he was, you still wouldn’t be running to his beckoning call...
But that’s a topic for another video.
Now, you may be thinking, “But Amy, I like this guy and if I stop being free when he
calls then I won’t see him anymore and will ruin my chances of getting him to commit to
me.”
Well there’s a slight possibility that that’s true, what’s more likely to happen is this…
he’ll start missing you, and will even start to consider the possibility of dating you
to make sure that you’re a more permanent and present part of his life.
So, if you want to get him feeling this way then it’s important that you let him see
how busy, fun and exciting your life is.
When he does he’ll want to be part it.
To show him this, there are a few things you can do.
First is to use social media to your advantage.
By posting about all the awesome things you’re doing and sharing photos of yourself having
fun with others he’ll want to be a part of that, too.
Next, you’ll want to limit your availability with him.
This means that the next time he calls and asks to come over or hang out, tell him that
you’re busy then suggest getting together another day.
Even if you have nothing on the go, letting him think that you do, and making him wait
to see you will keep you on his mind.
Now I know I said “lastly” already but I do have one final tip for you…
If he’s really pushing for sex then one of the best things you can do is to avoid
any situation where sex could potentially happen.
This means spending time in public together rather than curled up on his couch, in the
dark.
By limiting the opportunity for sex to happen it’ll not only take the pressure off you,
but it’ll also give him the chance to experience you as a person, without having that temptation
lingering.
So, when possible try to make plans that involve doing fun activities together.
But sex aside, be careful not to give him the benefits of a relationship without making
him commit to one.
It’s one thing to spend time together, but it’s another to be his emotional rock and
support.
Remember, there’s a fine line between friends and lovers.
If he’s not willing to commit to you and only you, then you shouldn’t be behaving
like his girlfriend.
A key aspect of having a relationship with someone is having that person as someone you
can talk to and confide in.
Someone who will listen to your hopes and dreams, worries and stresses.
If you are already doing all this for him without making him commit to you then guess
what… he’s getting some of the best bits of a relationship without having to commit
to one.
In this case, if you want him to make you his girlfriend, then again you’re going
to have to pull back and give him a taste of what life without you and those perks is
like.
Once he realizes how much of a role you actually play in his world, he’ll be much more likely
to make you his.
Well that does it for this video, I hope you found what I shared helpful.
If you have any of your own tips for making a man commit that you’d like to share then
please do so in the comments section below.
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As always thanks so much for watching and, until next time, take care and good luck!