Don't start again.
What are you doing?
Give me my phone, you idiot.
I can't breathe, I can't breathe.
I'm not even holding you.
I can't breathe.
I hope you fall down the stairs.
Stop it.
You are, what's going on?
What are you thinking?
Let me go.
(indistinct)
That was Jennifer and David
with their 12-year-old daughter at home.
Now at this rate they fear she will never
become a functional part of society.
Our 12-year-old daughter is very angry and reactive.
You have lost your phone today
for shoving by me.
Swear to God.
She lacks the willingness to follow rules
and hates being checked in on.
Her world, everything revolves around her.
Everything is fine until that switch gets flipped.
Once that happens things devolve to chaos.
What are you doing?
Give me my phone you idiot.
Don't punch me.
When she's angry she can't control her impulses
and she will attack.
Why do you flinch every time I move?
'Cause you keep hitting him.
'Cause you keep hitting me
and taking my glasses off.
Don't start again.
If I walk into her bedroom
she will slam the door on me.
Let me close the door in your face.
I would be afraid that if very angry
she could come into our room
and do something to us while sleeping.
One time we turned off the internet as a punishment,
she took my computer, my iPad, Jennifer's phone.
I didn't react at all.
She cam in our room
and trashed our bedroom right in front of me.
That evening my hands were visibly scratched.
You trying to do more of that?
David is more lenient with his parenting style.
I'm a little bit more of what I call the bad cop.
I hold my foot down.
I do not--
If you do not bring it down to me
then you are going to lose it longer.
If I don't bring it down to you
you won't get it,
and I'll just keep it forever.
I found that things are better for everyone
if I act instead of react.
Don't.
Our marriage has been effected
with parenting our daughter.
At the end of the day we go to bed numb.
I'm terrified 'cause I don't know what to hope for.
Okay, obviously this can't go on, right?
Why is she, in your opinion, the way she is?
What's your theory?
I don't know why she is the way she is.
That's the most confusing part for me.
I really can't figure out why she's so upset.
I mean I look at her as living a very privileged life.
How about you, do you have a theory?
My diagnosis is that she's an egomaniac
with an inferiority complex.
Okay.
So you think this is psychological.
I don't know the answer to that.
It seems--
Well you say you think she's an egomaniac
and is insecure.
Well, that's what it seems like.
A fear of failure,
and that's certainly psychological.
But where that comes from, Dr. Phil, I don't know.
And that's what concerns me.
By the way, I don't expect you to know.
This is a complex situation.
It seems to be layered.
It's certainly over y'all's pay grade.
It's something that's probably gonna be
difficult to figure out.
But I've observed some things
that I wanna take a quick look at.
And one of these is an interaction between you
and your daughter.
Let's take a look at this.
What in the world are you doing?
Okay, now you guys are in a physical struggle here.
You break the screen you're paying for it.
No I'm not.
Yes, you are.
Okay, now at this point
you're restraining her.
Now, she's trying to get,
okay let's stop this for just a second here.
She's grabbing on here like she's falling off of a building.
You have your arm around her neck
and upper torso here.
She's got her leg inside
like she's trying to,
if you just looked at this
and you knew nothing else,
you just looked at this,
how would you interpret this?
Terrifying.
I mean I would say that that's an abusive family situation.
Nothing I ever dreamed that our family would be.