Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on toxic girlfriend signs: it's not
you, it's her. What you are about to learn comes from my extensive, extensive
research as well as my training as a certified coach. And sadly I have had a
lot of real-life experience with toxic people so trust me when I say what you
are about to learn is going to leave you feeling very, very relieved. If this is
your first time watching be sure to subscribe and ring that notification
bell. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. And I help good
guys get the girl of your dreams so you're not gonna wanna miss any of the
videos I have coming. Now a while back I did this video which is Signs of a Toxic
Girlfriend and you guys really enjoyed it, but especially lately I've noticed
people are watching it like crazy and commenting and asking me about it. And
the truth is, during lockdown a lot of people are spending a lot more focused
time with significant others, even if it's just over like text or video or
something, and a lot of people are realizing "I don't really like the way I
feel around them." Or they're spending so much time away from them and they're
starting to feel really good not spending time with them and that is
leading a lot of people to ask "Are they toxic?" With this in mind I just knew I
had to make another video on this topic because as I mentioned earlier it is
such a relief when you do learn these things. Quick story for you. I have a
friend who is such an awesome guy, I just love this man. Sadly though he is married
to a toxic woman but he doesn't know it. She tells him all the time "Well, it's
just you. You just have to do it better." or "You just have to do what I say more."
and he honestly believes that it's all his fault.
He honestly believes that she's a really good person and he just
doesn't love her enough or he's just too hard to live with or he's just too picky.
He honestly believes it's him. Now have you ever seen in a movie or read in a
book or something when it's like the break-up scene and
someone says to the other person "Well, it's not you, it's me." Probably heard that,
right? Well when it comes to toxic people, this is something I tell my clients over
and over again, when it comes to a toxic woman it's not you, it's her. Toxic people
want you to believe it's you all day long because then they can get away with
it. And so sadly toxic people prey on really nice people. Now that obviously
does not mean you shouldn't be nice. Being a good person is a pretty good
life goal, right? It's not that you can't be nice. You can totally be a very nice
person and actually repel toxic people. Yes, I
said repel. That's pretty exciting, right? So as long as you have the
right skills, you have to have the right skills and able to in order to do that,
but as long as you have the right skills you can repel toxic people and be a nice
person. So I'm not saying don't be nice, but be aware that toxic people all day
long are going to try to get you to believe that it is you when
actually it's her. So with that in mind let's go over some signs of a toxic
girlfriend. If you are seeing these signs it's a probably pretty safe to assume
that it's not you, it's her. Toxic a girlfriend sign number one is that
she is never wrong. Have you ever known someone who's just never wrong? It
doesn't matter what you're talking about they're always right. It doesn't matter
if you're working on a project together or maybe if you're making a recipe for
dinner or her political views or who she thinks is going to win the football game,
whatever it is, if she can never be wrong that's a huge red flag of a toxic woman.
This is also true if you try and work on anything in the relationship. Maybe if
you try and explain to her "Well, when you say these things it makes me feel this
way and it makes me feel bad. Could you please stop saying those things?" But
she's never wrong and so she "No! No! It's you, it's not me." Whatever it is, if she's
always right, if she's never wrong, well then you can kind of guarantee she is
wrong because she's toxic. Sign number two of a toxic woman or
a toxic girlfriend is that she complains a lot. Have you ever been around someone
who complains a lot and you just felt like drained and exhausted? This is one
of the main reasons why you don't want to be in a relationship with someone
like that because it's draining. If you notice that she complains about you or
her job or her family or her friends or her hair or where she lives, if she's
always complaining that is a very, very good sign that she is toxic. The truth is,
you don't want to be around someone who drains you all the time, right? So if you
notice that she's always complaining even if it's subtle, she may not be
obvious about it, but if she's always complaining that's a good sign that it's
not you, it's her, she's probably toxic. Okay so this next sign, guys, is kind of a
pet peeve of mine. It drives me crazy because I see it all the time. This
sign is that she annoys you on purpose. Okay, so when I was growing up I knew
this girl and she would just randomly, completely out of the blue, start acting
like a random two-year-old. And she started talking like she was a little
bit of a two-year-old and being like super annoying and she would like bump
into you or mess up what you were doing or throw things at the guys or
whatever it was, she would just randomly, completely out of the blue, start acting
like she was no longer an adult and completely being annoying on purpose. Now
if you paid close attention you would notice that she did this whenever she
felt like she was losing control. This is so common in toxic women. If she is
annoying you on purpose she's trying to keep you in your place. So if in the back
of your mind you've ever wondered "Is she doing that on purpose?
Like why is she doing this?" there's a really good chance that it is a red flag
that she is a toxic woman. Quick question for you before we get to the next sign.
Would you like more videos toxic women and toxic girlfriends, how to
avoid and handle that? If you do, be sure to comment "TOXIC!" in the comments below
and I will know to make more for you. Our next sign, I want to say it's the
most obvious but actually most people miss this, and it is that she's
physically abusive. Okay, right from the start we just need to establish that is
never okay and if you ever feel like you are in any kind of danger get help
immediately. You do not deserve that and honestly so many people think physical
abuse is only something that happens to women, sadly it happens to men all day
long. So that's never appropriate. The reason I say that this can be a more
subtle thing is toxic people don't want you to know what they're up to. And so,
often they will be very very subtle about this. They may push you a little
too hard, they may "accidentally" hurt, you when in reality if you pay attention
they're doing it whenever they want to keep you in line. It's important to be
cautious about this because if you let it happen when it's small and
subtle it will escalate and it will get worse. So this is never an appropriate
thing, this is definitely a sign of a toxic woman. Trust your gut on that. If
you feel like maybe it wasn't an accident there's a really good chance it
wasn't an accident, especially if it happens frequently. Again, if you're ever
in any kind of danger be sure to get help. It's better to be safe than sorry,
right? So do what you need to do and realize that that is a sign of
a toxic woman and that is definitely her, not you. Our fifth sign of a toxic
girlfriend or a toxic woman is verbal abuse. Now this can be yelling at you,
that's a much more obvious sign and it's totally out of line, but often,
especially with toxic women, it's much more subtle. For instance, I saw a show,
and I just really like the show, but there's one couple in the show that
irritates me because the guy is the ultimate heartthrob, he's so
incredible, and the that he's in love with is totally toxic.
And one of the things she says to him is "Oh, you know, you're mildly cute." They are
married at this point, okay? And all she will tell him is "Well, you're mildly
cute." And he says "Mildly?" And she says "Yeah." That is as toxic as the day is long. With
her words she is verbally abusing him. She was putting him down and belittling
him. The woman that you're with and that ultimately you marry should make you
feel amazing. She should make you feel more like a man and more attractive and
more awesome. She should never, ever, ever put you down. So toxic women will often
be very subtle about it. "Well it's a good thing you're cute." And she will threaten
you and belittle you with her words. So just know that that is never appropriate,
ever. That is totally out of line and it's not your fault. Again, this is not
you, this is her. So tell me this. Have you ever felt like "Oh no, I'm like a magnet
for toxic people." Have you ever felt that way? I have, so let me just say there's so
much relief in knowing what it is that actually attracts toxic people. If you
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toxic women and toxic relationships be sure to let me know in
comments and I would love to hear how these signs resonated with you and if
you have ever experienced this in your life. If we're not yet friends on social
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well. Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day. [blooper beep]
Sign number two of a toxic woman or a toxic girlfriend- What? Oh. [laughter] What? I don't know.
Quick question for you before we keep going. Would you like more videos on
toxic women and how to avoid them and how to side-step toxic relationships- Wait,
what? [laughter] That was a run-on sentence. I don't even know what that was.
Quick question for you would you. Would you like some more- [loosening tongue]
Would you like some more [loosening tongue]?
Everybody wants [loosening tongue], right? [laughter] Never mind.
Our fifth sign of a- [loosening tongue to a tune] [laughter]
Our fifth sign of a [repeat loosening tongue to a tune]
That was a good face. [pause] [laughter]
Maybe I shouldn't do that. [laughter] It looks kinda creepy. You gotta do
something to lighten the mood when you're talking about anything this heavy.