Heya playa, have you ever developed feelings for someone and then wondered who it's safe
for you to talk to about it?
Well, that's the question that D00ZLEBUG had when they said: "Should I tell my parents
or friends who I like or is this a bad idea?".
Is it a bad idea to talk to other people about who you like?
Well, I'm gonna share my opinion on that right after this.
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One of the main fears that people generally have when it comes to sharing their feelings
with other people is that they'll use it against them and make fun of them for it.
Talking to someone about who you like is not an easy thing to do, you never know what the
reaction is going to be once you actually share those feelings.
If it's your friends that you're going to tell, there's always that underlying fear
that they're going to make fun of you, they're gonna tease you for it and they may even tell
your crush how you feel which may blow everything out of the water.
If it's your parents that you're afraid of telling, there's always that fear that they
may disapprove of it, they may not allow you to date or they may not want you talking to
that person.
Sharing your feelings about your crush to your friends or your parents might seem then
like it's something you should never do, however, my ultimate advice here is that you should
never be afraid to talk about who you like.
The main reason why is that if you ever want to truly date that person, people are going
to have to see the two of you together, see the two of you interacting, it's gonna have
to happen.
You can only keep it behind closed doors for so long.
And in this type of situation I don't think that the cons outweigh the pros, so let's
go through some of the pros and actually sharing who you like with everyone that you know.
If you talk to your friends about it, yeah they're probably going to tease you and make
fun of you in the beginning but as time goes on, they see that you're very very serious
about your crush, that you really want to go out with them and you're willing to do
what it takes to get there then they're eventually going to be on your side.
It's possible that you have a few friends that just want to troll you and because of
that what they'll do is they'll tell your crush, they'll tell your crushes friends,
they'll make it widespread that you like this person which may seem like a bad thing at
first.
However, it doesn't have to be.
The biggest fear in telling your friends is that somehow they're going to gossip and spread
information but if it does come full circle and your crush does find out that you like
them, and then somehow they end up asking you the best thing you can do in that situation
is to say "Yeah, I like you.
Want to hang out sometime?".
You're way better off moving forward with confidence rather than pulling back with fear.
If it does come full circle if your friends do try to do it to hurt you, well, use it
to your advantage.
Use it as a motivating step that you need to finally engage with your crush.
Plus if your friends know about your crush and they're onboard with the idea of helping
you, think about their network connections.
Maybe they know people who are closer to your crush and by them talking and finding out
information on how you can get closer to them, it might actually help you in the long run.
Ok, my friends might be on my side but what about my parents?
That might be a brick road that I can't recover from, why would I ever want to tell my parents
about who I like?
How can it help me?
Well, I think the most honest answer here is to be as transparent as possible with your
parents.
The more you share with them, who you hang out with, where you want to go, what you want
to do, the easier it'll be for them to continue to give you more and more trust.
If your parents see you're secretive or shy and you're not really sharing who you like
then they're probably going to assume the worst.
So, you can help relieve a little bit of their stress and you can relieve a little bit of
your own so you don't have to keep all these secrets.
It's super important to remember that your parents are on your side here, yes there will
be times where they don't want you to date until you're a certain age they don't want
you to hang out with certain people, they don't want you to go to certain places.
However, when you do need to rely on them to go meet up with your crush to take you
places they're the ones you're going to turn to.
And that's why the more open the dialogue is, the easier it'll be for you to navigate
to get closer to your crush without having to worry about them kind of bringing the lockdown
and saying no.
So yes, there are situations that may seem like if you were to tell your parents or your
friends about who you like it might backfire.
However, if you're able to approach the situation with confidence and openness, then I think
it becomes way easier to kind of take charge of how you feel and to not feel like everyone
else is going to hold it against you or work against you so that you could never be with
your crush.
What do you think though, have you told your friends or your parents who you like?
If you haven't, what's holding you back from doing it?
Leave your comment down below and we'll talk about it.
Now if you're in a bit of a predicament and you want to talk to me about your situation,
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