Hey, what's going on Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. On today's video, I want to talk to
you about the big test, the #1 test that every single woman has given a guy, whether they know
it or not. If you're new here, don't forget to subscribe to the channel, lots of videos coming
out teaching you how to be able to attract women. And this is one of those things that you have to
know. Because if you mess this portion up, then you're going to turn her off. That's why you have
to understand what this test is. What is the test? The test is seeing how you're going to
react in pretty much any situation. It could be a social situation, could be just on a date and how
you're talking to the waiter - anything where she can get a sense of your behavior. Your behavior is
going to be one of the most effective things at attracting her. She is always going to be
looking out. And either, like I said, inwardly or outwardly testing to see if your behavior is going
to be either some sort of erratic behavior, meaning too emotional, getting overly angry,
getting too worked up, or is it going to be the calm, cool and collected type of behavior. This is
something that she can see, like I said, anytime. She can see it when you guys are interacting with
each other, when you're interacting with other people and you're socializing. Let's talk about
the different ways that she might test you. She might do it inwardly. What does that mean? That
means that she might not be giving any sort of outward test or doing something in real life,
but in her head, she's looking for it. It's like a test because she's thinking about it. And she's
wanting to see if you're going to pass her test and making sure that you're not doing it. She's
keeping an eye out for it. And she's thinking about it, meaning she's always going to be picking
up and looking for if you're going to have that kind of erratic behavior. Before I get into more
of this test, let's explain why this is something that's not attractive to women. Women don't want
to be with a guy who can't control his emotions. When he's overly emotional, this is a subconscious
signal to her that he cannot protect and provide. Being able to be a guy who can protect and provide
is one of the things that she's looking for. So if we're going down to the theories and the studies
that have been done in evolutionary psychology, we have seen that one of the mating choices,
or the mating strategies more specifically, of a woman is to find a guy who has resources,
who has some sort of protection, who can help her through life. Remember that women have this
ability to get pregnant. Because of that, if she decides to ever get pregnant, she's going to need
help. She needs a man to be able to help her, or someone around to be able to help get food,
go out there, protect her, whatever needs to be done for survival. This is still ingrained in
women today. They're looking for behaviors that show that this person can provide protect and
have resources. And if you think about what I'm saying here, this idea of having erratic behavior,
getting overly angry, getting overly emotional, this is someone who clearly doesn't have his
emotions and life together. This person is very unpredictable for a woman to survive, she can't
have someone unpredictable, she needs predictable, she needs someone who's not going to get crazy
when times are tough, or give up when times are tough. She's going to need someone who is strong
mentally and emotionally. And that's why women will be testing for this, whether it be inward,
meaning in their head, or outward. Let's talk about some of those outward tests that I don't
think you're going to see as much. But if you're doing enough dating, you will see this. One very
simple outward test is her maybe giving you crap, giving you shit, teasing you a little bit and kind
of like poking and pushing your buttons a little bit. And it's a way to see how is this guy going
to react. Is he going to get all defensive? Is it gonna get all crazy? Or is he going to be strong
and in the moment and present and not go crazy? Some women, and if you ever see this by the way,
this is a complete red flag. Some women will actually act a little crazy, so to speak. Meaning,
they'll cause a lot of trouble. Maybe they'll try to get you jealous. Maybe they will just start a
fight with you out of nowhere. Again, I think this is a little bit more rare, but it does happen.
If this does happen you should not be with this woman. But just so you understand, if she's going
to be going to that extreme to test you, she's testing to see how you're going to handle her.
She needs a guy who's going to be able to handle her wackiness, her craziness or whatever it may
be. Some things that she might say to you to try to get a reaction out of you might be calling
you out on stuff. She might be asking are you a player? Do you talk to all girls this way? Maybe
you guys have been dating for a little bit, maybe for a couple months, and she say something to you
like oh, you still keep in touch with any of your ex girlfriends. Just all these little tests trying
to just trigger you, poke your buttons. When that happens, you have to make sure that you are calm,
cool, and collected - that's what's going to be the most attractive in order to pass that test.
How do we do this? And not just to pass her tests, but how do we be a guy who can be strong in his
emotions, and not get crazy at any little thing that happens? Well first, let's make sure that
you're not someone who's necessarily holding in your emotions - that's not going to be healthy.
But we can't be just vomiting them all out to her. In those moments, when you're staying calm,
cool collected, I want you to be in the moment and process what she's saying before you have
a reaction. This is something that's easier said than done, and it might be something that's gonna
take practice. In fact, I screw this up all the time. I think we all do as humans, it's like,
we just react to things because we're not thinking about it. But that's the point; we react too fast
because we're not thinking about it. So I'm asking you to stop for a second and think about
it. It's okay to have that emotion and things are boiling up, or maybe you're getting pissed and the
waiter's taking so long to bring the food out and you're getting really angry... take a moment, take
a breather, internalize it for a second. It's okay to feel that emotion. But don't let it outburst,
think rationally. That's not going to help in that moment. You can later on your own time
process those feelings, thoughts, emotions, and do whatever you got to do. But an outward burst,
being too angry, going crazy in that moment isn't going to do anything for you or her. It's going to
make her unattracted to you. And it's just going to be bad for you. In general, you have to know
how to keep in control of your emotions, you have to know how to keep it cool, calm and collected.
And like I said, the way to do that is awareness, bringing presence to the situation, seeing what's
going on. And here's your big thing here, your big technique - think before you act. And think before
you say something. It's okay to take a moment. And it's going to be okay to be silent for a second,
rather than having some sort of emotional outburst that you can just process and deal with later. We
work with a lot of guys through this process in our coaching program. And you can check out in
the description down below, you can go to Tripp Advice Coaching.com. And here in this program,
we're not just helping you get more dates and have an online dating profile that's getting
dates and going out and meeting women having a dating life that's just like super amazing,
but teaching you how to be a true man who can be better in society, more effective in his own life,
and in the world itself. And one of those things that we do is teach you how to be a guy who can
be calm, cool, collected, and not have those emotional outbursts and process emotions the
correct way. Check that out - link is down below - TrippAdviceCoaching.com. To tie this all together,
you got to think about it this way - women are going to be testing you,
people might even be testing you in these moments where it's going to be easy to have an emotional
outburst and get defensive, get angry, and you need to relax and be in the moment so you can
pass those tests and be a more effective man in society. And remember, if you're getting
too many of these outward tests from some of these women, they might not be a good fit for
you. Think about that in the long term. Hope that helps. And I'll see you on the next video.