- With this video,
I'm gonna save you nearly $250,000
worth of seminars, workshops,
masterminds, coaching.
Everything that I have learned
over the past five years,
I'm gonna share with you
in three powerful lessons.
And this video's gonna save you time,
It's gonna save you energy,
and it's gonna exponentialize the process
of you creating your dream life
from the inside, out.
The first lesson I wanna share with you
actually comes from this book right here.
It's called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
And basically, what this book is about
is about the process of letting go,
not caring what other people think.
And it's the process of not caring
about things that really don't matter
and caring more about things
that actually matter.
So a lot of times,
we care what other people think of us.
We care and we try to change our lives
and we do all of these things.
And because we're putting so much energy in that,
we end up feeling empty
and we end up actually resisting the process.
So one of the most powerful things
I've also learned from this book
that I've used in so many areas of my life,
is he talks about, Mark Manson,
in the book, talks about something
that he learned from Alan Watts,
who was a famous philosopher.
And that is something called the backwards law.
The backwards law has this understanding
that if we feel and allow ourselves
to feel a negative emotion,
that is a positive experience.
But if we resist or we make it not okay
that we are feeling negative emotions,
then that is a negative experience.
And there's a couple different sayings
Alan Watts said that really kinda summarizes.
Think about this.
The more we try to get people to like us,
the more we will come off needy
and the more our energy won't be attractive
and the more it will actually resist
people liking us.
But when we're just being ourselves,
not attached to it, people tend to like us.
The more we try to control anything,
the more out of control we will feel.
Think about that.
The more we try to control things,
the more outta control we feel.
However, the more we let go of trying to control,
the more in control we actually feel.
It's an interesting paradox here.
Now, here's another one,
and the reason I'm sharing this one with you
is because many people that are
on the personal development journey,
they're trying to become the best selves,
they're trying to become better,
and what that ends up emphasizing
is that we're not good enough the way we are.
So this was something I had to learn
and it took me a while because
I was always so focused on
either making more money, becoming more abundant.
And I was always more and more, more,
it was changing the way I was.
And by trying to change,
I was emphasizing that who I am right now
is not good enough.
So one of the most important
lessons you can learn and instead of,
is to develop a healthier relationship
with self-development in general.
Because self-development implies
that we're not good enough.
Self-development implies
that there's something wrong,
and that energy keeps us stuck.
A lot of times, the reasons we feel stuck
is because simply, we are just attached
to a story or a belief about ourselves
that does not feel good.
And not only does it not feel good,
but we're attached to beliefs and stories
that maybe served us when we were kids
or back in the day,
but end up keeping us trapped now.
So letting go and allowing ourselves to feel
what we are feeling, has been a game changer
in the self-development journey.
I say that because it's like, self-development,
we're becoming something we're not.
And this is more of a process
of really releasing what doesn't serve us
and then allowing ourselves
to then just naturally be who we came here to be.
Now, when I look at my life as well,
something I wanna share with this,
is this was absolute game-changer
in me transforming my own life
on the self-development journey,
is that of,
when I started making daily videos on YouTube,
it changed my identity
and I changed who I was being.
Who I was being.
So the way reality works,
and this is the second lesson
I wanna share with you,
and let me start this off as well
by saying that I have been to different forums,
different group work workshops,
like even five, six years ago.
I'm in a one mastermind alone,
where every year, it is $36,000
for me to be a part of this mastermind.
It's more of a business mastermind,
but nonetheless, I'm a part of it.
So I've been a around people that are also like,
to be in that mastermind,
there's hundred people in that mastermind.
I've seen the mentality, I've seen the mindset,
I've seen what helps people get results.
I surround myself with people like this.
My inner circle is full of people
that are doing really,
like having a cool impact in the world.
So when I say what I'm about to share,
just know it comes with seeing this
in so many different people,
seeing this in myself,
and this, I think, may the game changer
you need to hear
for you to really make the transformation
in your life.
And that is the second lesson
I wanna share with you.
That second lesson is that
you can simply give yourself permission
to be the ideal person you wanna be.
And the way reality works is,
you must first be it,
then you will have that which you want
and you will be naturally doing
what is equal to that level of being.
What I mean by this is,
everything you see when you look in reality,
it is a reflection of who we are being.
And part of this comes with our identity.
How do we see ourselves?
Sometimes it's hard for us to change
because we are attached to an old identity,
an old way of being.
And because of that attachment,
it makes it hard to change.
I first learned about this
when I was working that sales jobs,
selling women's shoes.
I was seeing myself as a mediocre employee.
And I would go into work every day
and it would be a sales commission job.
We'd see who sold the most from the day before
and it would be a list
from the people that sold the most,
to sold the least.
And I realized, I asked my question,
there's this book called Psycho-Cybernetics.
And it's a very powerful book
that talks about self-image
and how, until we change our inner self-image,
our outer reality doesn't change.
But when we change our inner self-image,
everything changes.
So what I was doing at that nine to five job is,
I simply decided that, I realized,
I became aware that I saw myself
as a mediocre sales employee.
I was always in the middle, I wasn't the bottom,
wasn't at the top, I was right in the middle.
I was mediocre, I was mediocre sales employee
as far as my numbers went.
All of a sudden, I started,
decided to give myself permission
to be a top salesperson.
I would have the body language
of the top sales version of Aaron.
I would greet customers
as this top sales version of Aaron would do.
I would interact with people.
Just the way I would carry myself
was very different.
And as I started to be that version of me,
I started to consistently be at the top
because I changed my inner self-image.
Now, five, six years later,
I used it when I realized
I wanted to be on YouTube.
And what I did is I just simply decided
that I am a YouTuber now.
I make daily videos.
Because I imagined in my imagination
the version of me that was making daily videos in 2017
and I saw that that version of me
was making videos every day.
So I simply decided, I'm going to be this.
Didn't have a coaching degree.
Didn't have any type of college degree.
I didn't have anything.
I just started making videos
because I was on the self-development journey.
And I was so passionate about learning things
that I just decided that
I'm good enough to share this with people.
Even though I'm living at my dad's house,
even thought I don't have
a whole bunch of abundance,
I felt just like, gave myself permission to be.
And as I did that, everything changed.
Because the way we think it works sometimes,
is we must first see it to believe it.
We must first see it in our reality,
then we can believe it.
But the way reality works is the exact opposite.
It's reversed.
We must first believe it
and we must first be it.
And then our reality changes,
because all our reality is,
is a reflection of our inner reality.
This also gets down
to some spirituality stuff too
that'll kind of trip you out.
But let's move on to the third one now
that I think will completely transform your life
and is probably one of the most powerful ones.
And that is that everything in our life,
everything, has zero built-in meaning
other than the meaning we give it.
Now, there are so many books
that talk about this,
that it is crazy.
One of my favorite books is Awareness, right here.
This is something that I've learned at a Tony...
I paid $6,000 to go to a Tony Robbins conference
called Date With Destiny.
I have been through two or three different,
what do they call it, group awareness trainings,
where it's like,
you do this group work and stuff like this.
And basically, what we've come to learn is,
I'll tell you a little story about this
and how you can apply this in your life,
but basically, what happens is,
everything has zero built-in meaning
other than meaning we give it.
For example, I'm in Austin, Texas.
And as you can see, it's very cloudy today.
It may rain today.
Actually, it shows there's gonna be
a hundred percent chance of rain
at a certain point.
I cannot tell you how excited I am about this.
Do you wanna know why?
I just moved into this house yesterday.
I move into this house,
and basically, what happens
is there's this rainwater tin,
it's like 30,000 gallons of water.
Basically, it rains, and off the roof,
it collects the water,
so it's really good water.
I don't have a sewer system,
or not a, what do you call it,
the plumbing doesn't come in from the city,
so it's really good water.
Basically, I moved in a couple days ago
and the last owner filled it up barely,
just a little bit,
before he moved out and sold me the house,
and then I had to fill up the pool.
So I fill up the pool and then yesterday,
I go to take a shower and wash my hands and stuff
and there's zero water.
I'm like, "Oh my God, there's no water."
However, I look, and then I set the intention
yesterday that it rains today.
And also, checked the thing
and it showed that there was like a 30%,
40% chance of rain.
But it was kinda cool 'cause then I
set more intention with my assistant,
who's here helping me get all set up and everything.
And basically,
it has a hundred percent chance of raining today.
I'm excited because now I'm going to have water.
So that meaning I give it is actually excites me.
But you might have people over here.
Maybe someone's doing construction on their house
and if it rains,
it's gonna screw up the concrete they just poured,
it's gonna screw something up.
Well, they may generate negative emotion
because of the meaning they give to that.
And even think of this,
there could be two workers
and one person that wants to go home early
or not deal with whatever they're doing today,
so he's excited for it to rain so he can go home
and the other one's mad because they gotta get
the project done.
Do you see what I mean?
There's as many meanings
we could give to a rainy day as there are people.
But the same thing works with our past trauma.
With past things that we have gone through.
I learned this at
a large group awareness training
that I went to before,
even during my spiritual awakening.
And it was incredible because
we were talking about how our stories
create our life and there was this Venn diagram,
and on one side, we had "What happened?"
It said "What happened?"
And we talked about
what happened when you were a kid,
what happened with your trauma?
What happened?
And then the other side was our story
we tell ourselves about what happened.
And these two things overlay.
And what you'll notice is most of the things
that hold you back in your life,
most of the things that keep you stuck
are not rooted from what actually happened,
they're rooted in the story
you tell yourself about what happened.
And that story is what we stay attached to.
And we have a story about love.
We have a story about emotional intimacy.
We have a story about emotional availability.
We have a story about that of
how we show up in the world,
whether we can start our side project
or our business.
We have a story that is keeping us stuck
because we've attached to it
and we've kept it active.
And what we must do
to really transform our life
more than anything else
is learn how to become aware of that story
and then how to simply let it go.
In order for us to really transform our lives
more than anything else,
we must let go of old stories
and decide to be present
to this moment right now.
And one of the ways we can do that
is by following our passion.
Even in that mastermind that I'm in,
it's a business mastermind,
I pay $36,000 a year for,
one of the core principles,
and one of the things you could probably tell
in a video like this is,
when I'm focused on making good videos
and all this stuff, making great videos,
it's very important how I feel
and my passion about the video I'm making,
because that translates through the camera.
But at the same time,
you must be following your passion.
In reality, and especially now more than ever,
it's the very important to be following your passion
and be excited about what you're doing,
because it's very effortless
to put your energy in that.
And many, many different seminars I've been to,
many different books point to this,
but when you follow your passion,
you're in a higher state of consciousness,
a higher state of awareness,
and it's like everything then changes
as an outside reflection.
So what you wanna do
is you wanna follow your passion.
You wanna become aware
of these different stories
you might tell yourself.
You wanna become aware that you can just simply
let go of old stories
and realize that a lot of what you think happened
may have happened but it is just a neutral thing.
And when you become aware of that,
it then allows you to become free.
I looked at a lot of what happened in my past,
abusive stepmom from 7 to 15 years old.
Not allowed to have friends,
not allowed to watch TV,
just pretty much locked outside
doing yard work all day.
And originally, what had the story about that,
was that I'm not worthy, I'm not good enough.
I actually feel safe in someone else's frame
so I'd attract narcissists like my ex stepmom
because the story was
that women try to control me.
These were all things that kept me
trapped in that reality
because I was attached to the old meaning.
But then what happened is I forgave my ex stepmom
and realized she was just acting out the pattern
that she learned when she was a kid from her dad,
who was just like her.
And it helped me forgive her.
And then I changed that meaning.
And I realized also
that all that stuff that happened
led to my spiritual awakening.
It's interesting, I've looked at my,
even all my friends in my my friend group
and every single one of them has a trauma
that has led to them doing their passion
and their purpose in a very powerful way.
And without that trauma,
who knows if they'd be
living the abundance they are
or doing what they love.
So change the meaning and realize your past
does not equal your present.
Every moment's a new moment.
Every moment you are a new moment of you.
And you can just decide,
this is who I am right now.
Now, in order to really wire this all in too,
there is a free PDF you can download below
on raising and elevating
your level of consciousness.
It's a step by step process that shows you
how to shift your identity,
which is the key to this process.
So step 1, 2, 3, and the raise your vibration PDF,
download that below
and I'll show you exactly
how to go through that process.
And then also, if you haven't seen yet,
there's a video here,
which is the number one block to people
actually creating their dream life.
It's on procrastination, the shadow of it,
and how to transform it.
Watch this video,
I think it will completely transform your life.
If you're feeling stuck
or like there's something that's holding you back
from taking action,
there's something holding you back
from being the most authentic version of you.