if you are 22 years old and graduating from college if you're 22 years old and
not graduating from college if you are 22 years old you are entering first of
all some of the greatest years of your life a but b this this is the moment
watch this video twice if Mama's watching this send this to your daughter
Sally right now because you have to understand this next five year window is
when you don't go practical and safe this is not the time to get the job mom
wanted you to this is not the time to try to maximize as much money so you can
buy a fat whip this is the time to realize that you have a five-year window
and it's three for some it's 8 for others but there's a fine new window for
you to attack the life that you want to win not because it's the secret because
the world so Zen because it's hardest out there as a matter of fact I'm
probably more scared about your naivete how hard class is easy right what you've
been doing for the last 16 years is easy it's a bullshit game it's structured
it's easy the world this thing this thing is hard however that contradicts
what I'm gonna tell you right now which is this is the best and easiest five
years of your life because this is when you need to attack what you love and
what you want to do here's why you don't have all the baggage you may have
college loans respect it's Harnish you may have the expectations of your
parents mentally hard fake hard you may have a lot of other things but this is
exactly when you can live with four roommates in a basement and eat fast
food do you understand this is not when the baby's there some of your babies
this is not when you've been married and you promised this is not when the world
is sucked out all your dreams and hopes yet you still got this window and yet so
many of you are so hungry for short term short term gains like maximizing the job
that paid you $3,000 more but it's not as fun but you want that $3,000 for what
for what for a new iPhone for what you get to live life one
and this is the time right now to understand what's actually happening and
actually map your behavior to something that will impact you for the next 80
years so promise me promise me all you youngsters that are watching this right
now in the comments because I'll jump in and talk to you promise me that you
understand that the land grab of happiness starts right now that you
don't have to worry about getting that job what you should do is go and travel
and learn go and start that business that you've always wanted hook up with
those three teammates and start that band you've always wanted this is the
time to be massively risk massively risk oriented I know that this is when you're
supposed to grow up and go see the world but guess what
the world isn't what mommy and daddy told you the world is exactly going to
be what its going to be with or without the way you thought it was going to be a
ton of is gonna change the world changes every goddamn day
right now what you need to recognize is you can afford to this is what I want to
share it doesn't matter how far you might rise at some point you are bound
to stumble because if you're constantly doing what we do raising the bar if you
are constantly pushing yourself higher higher the law of averages not to
mention the myth of Icarus predicts that you will at some point fall and when you
do I want you to know this remember this there is no such thing as failure
failure is just life trying to move us in another direction now when you're
down there in a hole it looks like failure so this past year I had to
spoon-feed those words to myself and when you're down in the hole when
that moment comes it's really okay to feel bad for a little while give
yourself time to mourn what you think you may have lost but then here's the
key learn from every mistake because every experience encounter and
particularly your mistakes are there to cheat you and force you into being
more of who you are and then figure out what is the next right move and the key
to life is to develop an internal moral emotional GPS that can tell you which
way to go want you define personal success the the amount of misery that
you take in versus put out like like how much pain is coming in and how much
pleasure is going out to other people it's like a like a plant you know just
co2 and o2 like like like are is your account in the black oh as far as like
so if somebody hurts you if somebody punches you in the face and it hurts
like hell and you're really mad you're an unsuccessful life if you then go
punch five people of a face because you took in pain and caused five times as
much even if they're but yeah look if you're John wick and all those guys are
like Facebook sure so look this there's nuance there I guess that's why we love
those movies like the idea that you could solve the world's problems by just
punching more people than you got punch but but it but in reality so I think
success is defined by King you actually convert when somebody punches you in the
face can you actually then go put on a one-woman show about why did I make it a
woman just for the face-punching that I was like why don't you do that thing
where you switch pronouns like like every other time it's like a known for
it record so that's like if you get punched in the face then you a woman
I thought I thought the phrase one-man show would be so oppressive like that's
the patriarchy like coming down what it's a one-man show in my hypothetical
theatrical endeavor if we get punched in the face put on a one-man show called I
got punched in the face and it's like people that go into it that are having
bad days we didn't even get punched in the face or are like fighting cancer or
something that they come out going like I feel so much better now that I saw
that guys show thank God he got punched in the face I can't just wait for
inspiration to act that's the biggest mistake people make don't wait to be
inspired to do the action you have to do the action first and then you'll be
inspired so what I would do is I would sit there and draw out the comic and I
would come up with it but some days I'd come home from school sit down and go
I'm just gonna wait for the inspiration to him you know wait for the idea to
come fully formed and when I got a joke then I'll go draw it and I would sit
there for maybe three or four hours and then go
all right secured I had to get up and then I got to do the process I got to
sit there and just start drawing I don't even know why or how I'm gonna get there
and then two things would come together and it'll be oh there's an idea this is
the first panel just saying but and then it would come together always it would
not take very long I would fight that process so much because what was I doing
I was waiting for inspiration before I acted it's always the other way around
act first then the inspiration will come draw first then the inspiration will
come just start shooting then the occasional cut just start moving then
the inspiration will come don't wait so many people will wait or tell you
they're gonna write this novel or they're gonna do this they're gonna make
this film they never do it because they're waiting for all this stuff to
come to them it comes through doing it but you are very much in control of your
career it's not it's not an easy thing to do how did you learn how to do that
tell me about the process of learning how to be in control well I've always
been a control freak from a very young age and but I would have credit my
management for that like when I'm really really tired and I'm like can you just
decide I can't involve it right now no staying up to 5:00 a.m. until you
understand everything and then you can give me a yes or a No
with a good reason and stuff like that so definitely my maths good me as well
yeah oh no my management are great like and also like they want me to make the
decisions on everything small things big things where verge I mean so that and
it's my music and I'm the artist so why someone in a boardroom who's
never written a record in their lives should be making decisions for me no we
are the artists and we should be allowed to decide growing up what I've
discovered is that this world is a very vast a very wonderful and beautiful one
and there are so many things to discover but the most important journey I think
all of us will go through is the journey in ourselves to find our truth to find
who we are and what makes us happy and in our culture we are told that if we're
beautiful if we're skinny if we're successful famous if we fit in if
everyone loves us that we'll be happy but that's not entirely true I'm gonna
start with a poem that I wrote when I wasn't very happy I actually wrote this
a year ago but again as if you know depression it comes back it's a
reoccurring thing that you can't really sort away anyway Who am I Who am I
trying to be not myself anyone but myself living in a fantasy to bury the
reality making myself the mystery a strong facade disguising the misery
empty beyond the point of emptiness full to the brim of fake confidence a God
that will never be broken because I broke a long time ago I'm hurting but
don't tell anyone no one needs to know don't show all you've failed always okay
always fine always on show the show must go on it will never stop the show must
not go on but I know it well I give up I give up giving up I am lost I don't need
to be saved I need to be found basically it's kind of just the same reoccurring
thing of yeah and not knowing