- So if there's one concept that has changed my life more
than anything else on the whole personal development journey
over the course of thousands of hours of videos I watch,
over the course of thousands of books I've read since 2000
and like 10, 12 ish when I got into personal development,
it's this one concept that I share with you in this video.
And it is all about understanding
that when you shift your identity,
when you shift how you think, feel, and act,
when the way you see yourself, when you shift that
it creates a completely new reflection in your life.
And I'm gonna show you
in this video step by step how to shift your identity.
And I believe that if you look back in like six months
from now and you apply what I shared with you in this video,
you'll see that you live in a completely new reality
because you have completely shifted your energy
from the inside out.
Now the first off, let me say some
of the sources that I've learned some
of this information from, just so you know
this isn't just my intellectual ideas of coming up with it,
it's things that I've actually applied in my life.
And if you look to the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza,
he talks a lot about that of identity of a,
looking at like who you are being,
the energy state that you're in.
There's a book that's a classic book
called "Psycho Cybernetics" by Maxwell Maltz.
It's a book that was from a plastic surgeon that noticed
that when people were getting their face and all this worked
on on their body, they didn't really actually become happier
unless they changed their inner self image.
And what he realized is that there's an inner self image
that we all have that we do anything we can
to remain consistent to.
Now this also,
Bob Proctor is another person that teaches this
about understanding the identity shifting.
And what I've done is I've studied all these
different versions of it and compiled it
into this one easy understanding that I think will,
you'll remember for a very long time.
And if you start to apply it
it changes absolutely everything.
So first off, I learned about psycho cybernetics
when I was working a job selling women's shoes
at Nordstrom's back in like 2015 to 2000, no, 2015,
2011 and 12 was when I really started learning
about the law of attraction.
And one of the biggest changes I had is when I realized
and became aware of my old self image,
where my old self image selling the women's shoes
was that I was a mediocre sales employee.
Because every day we went into work, we could see
on a list who were the top salespeople from the day before
who didn't sell as much.
And that was like, it was a commission based job.
And I learned and read the book "Psycho Cybernetics".
And I became aware and asked myself the question,
what is my self image?
How do I see myself?
And I realized that every day I went into work
I saw myself as the middle of the list,
never, not really at the top too often.
I wasn't a top salesperson from the day before
but I also was at one of the bottom.
I was like, "Okay, I'm a average, mediocre salesperson."
And I then learned about this book.
I read it and I thought started asking myself,
"Well, how would the version of me think, feel, and act
that is that of a, the top salesperson?
And when I looked at that version of me
I could use my imagination to imagine
and be like, "Okay, that version of Aaron greets
every single customer that comes in the department."
I greet everybody.
I don't just greet people I think are gonna buy shoes,
I greet everybody.
Then I realized
that there was a certain way I carried myself.
I had even a different body language as that version of me.
I had a way of interacting.
I gave better customer service.
When I was wrapping up their shoes and stuff,
I did it with care and I put like tissue over.
This little stupid thing I used to do is I used to
put tissue in the bag with the shoes, I put tissue over it.
And it was something so small,
but none of my other coworkers did it.
And I knew that at the end of the sale when I was,
after they've already bought, and I give them the shoe bag
it was like they remembered that.
And I would do these little things like that.
And there was, I remember when I learned
about this whole identity thing,
I went into work and I started being this version of me.
I started carrying myself that way.
I started greeting more customers,
I started having a more positive attitude.
I started doing all these things.
And within a few days, I was consistently
at the top of that list
because I started to see myself as a top sales person.
I started to model the body language
of a top selling person.
I started to literally embody those emotions,
those energies and then very quickly
that became my new norm.
And years later, I then used that instead
of just being a salesperson, working a job I don't like,
I started using that to become a full-time YouTuber.
So what I did is I started to model the thoughts, feelings
and actions of that version of me.
And I started to literally be it,
within six months it was my dominant reality.
And the important part I want you to understand here
as well is, so psycho cybernetics,
and Tony Robbins talks about this too,
that the one of the strongest human desires there is
is to remain consistent to the way that we define ourself.
And I've seen this firsthand, by the way, with some people.
Like I, I have a friend recently who was vegan
for a long time
and then this person is now not vegan anymore.
But one of the, one, it was such a strong motivational force
for this person to shift from vegan to now eating
like healthy organic meats and stuff like that
because they identified so much with the belief system
and the values of I was vegan for so long,
this is who I am, I feel so guilty.
And then it was like this, I could just tell it
was such a big thing.
And one of the reasons, because they defined themselves
for so long as being this kind of way.
And one of the things to become aware of is what
is your self image?
And whether it's that or like some other area
of your life, you know, sometimes people may,
for a long time I had the self image of having
a nine-to-five job
and I wanted to not be in a nine-to-five job
but it was very hard for me to shift to that
because the nine-to-five job felt so familiar, comfortable
and I was so used to it.
Now here's the, here's the like metaphor and the diagram
that I think will completely change the way
that you look at this whole entire process.
All right, so this right here,
think of this as your identity.
Your identity is that of how you think, act, and feel
and also has your values in it.
Your values are like things that are important to you.
When I started to value
like being on YouTube, I started valuing expressing myself.
I started to value
like working for myself, being self-motivated.
And that value then allowed me to be,
like I changed my sense of identity.
Now think of your identity as your comfort zone.
Your identity is your comfort zone.
And the thing, and the reason a lot
of people don't shift their identity is they are afraid
of expanding your comfort, their comfort zone.
Now here's the thing, you're not leaving your comfort zone.
You're expanding it.
Your comfort zone is kind of like a box.
And if you're acting, thinking, feeling
and you're only remaining consistent
and like you're living reality equal to this identity,
you're gonna stay in this reality.
And maybe that's fine.
Maybe you don't wanna shift your identity
because you're perfect where you are.
But my guess is
if you watched a video on how to shift your identity,
you probably wanna know how to shift your identity
because you would like a new reflection in your life.
So one of the things that I had to do
and for a long time, by the way, I also had the identity
of having ADHD because I took Adderall growing up
and I was told that by a doctor.
And it was like, this is the way that I get through ADHD,
I have to, you know, take this prescription pill.
I drink four shots of espresso and I calm down,
you know, it had the opposite effect on me.
And I had to become aware of this identity.
And then I had to, I also reframed it.
I saw myself as someone with a lot
of energy and I would ground myself
in grass and do like things like that.
And it allowed me to then let go
of taking Adderall back in 2012.
So you get in life a reflection of who you are being,
who you are being is that of enclosed
within your identity of how you define yourself.
So the labels also, a lot of labels you'll have
will be in here.
Sometimes people, part of their identity is,
I'm just, I'm better single, I'm a single person.
And it's like, it's just easier that way.
Well, guess what?
You're not gonna expand to attracting love if you would,
if you identify with that story.
Some of the stories are also within your identity.
Some of us may have a painful past, and then we think
that now in the present moment, it also has to be painful
because it's an echo of that experience.
So think about this though, the money, okay?
The money and the love, the money and the love
that you are intending for, are desiring,
all you have to do is expand your comfort zone
to include these things.
So they're very close to you. You just have to expand it.
The only thing that's keeping you
from it is your current identity.
It's your current comfort zone.
You're thinking, acting and feeling equal to that.
So what you wanna do is you wanna become aware
of what your comfort zone is.
What is your comfort zone?
How are you thinking, feeling and acting?
And normally in life, you're getting a direct reflection.
You can look around to see what that reflection is.
Sometimes it's a little bit easier to see than others,
but like when I was working
that nine-to-five job selling woman's shoes
I was like, "Okay, my identity here is that I believe
that I'm only worthy of working a nine-to-five job.
My work ethic is that of working a nine-to-five job
I don't like.
I have accepted this as like something I have to do.
I have a label of being a nine-to-five job goer."
These were all things I became aware of.
And once I became aware of it,
that's when I then shifted it.
I made the choice to make daily videos
on YouTube and that changed everything.
That's why that's there is because I was focused
on expressing myself, adding value, putting that out,
expressing my comfort, or expanding my comfort zone.
And there's a couple different ways to
expand your comfort zone, but really all it is,
it's a choice that you make.
You make a choice that's not gonna feel comfortable a lot
of times because it's comfort zone and feel comfortable,
if it was within your comfort zone.
It was not comfortable
for me to make daily videos on YouTube back in 2017.
But when I started making them,
it then became my comfort zone.
That's the secret.
Once you make the choice to step
and expand your comfort zone,
it then becomes your comfort zone,
and then it doesn't feel so weird.
So one of the things you really wanna become aware
of is how are you showing up in the world?
What is your identity?
What values are you living by?
How are you thinking, acting, and feeling?
What labels have you attributed
to your life that you identify with?
You become aware of all of these.
And you see that a lot of times these have been on autopilot
for a very long time, since a lot of times childhood.
And that we just decided this is who we are.
And one of the most powerful ways to completely
shift your life is to simply expand it and to take action.
And there's two main ways.
Let me show you.
This is like something I've been teaching
a lot more recently
because it is so powerful and it's just what,
it's like a very simple way of understanding this.
But when you look at this, this is like your old identity.
This is your old comfort zone.
Think, feeling, acting equal to that.
Sometimes even there's some lower vibrational
emotions that maybe normalized there
like anger, fear, fear, guilt, shame.
And the key, there's two main keys
and two ways to really shift your life, one is meditation.
Meditation allows you to influence the subconscious mind
which runs 95% of our life.
A lot of our subconscious mind was primed from zero
to eight years old because when we were that age
we were just absorbing like a sponge our environment.
And then on the other side of this is choice, choice.
Making, taking action as a new version of you,
having the courage to do so.
A lot of times people will try to wait.
They'll wait until the fear is gone,
they'll wait until they feel better about it,
then they'll take action.
The the thing is, is the fear,
the way to get, you know through that is through it.
Not like waiting for it to change.
If I would've waited to feel comfortable
making videos on YouTube,
I still wouldn't have been making videos.
But now it's comfortable
because I had the courage to go into that.
So you can apply this towards any area of your life
by the way.
You use the power of meditation,
you use the power of choice
and this is what really changes your identity,
changes your values, and then you perceive
of new probabilities and synchronicities.
And if you wanna step-by-step process, by the way,
in a free video that shows you step-by-step
how to create this identity transformation.
I have something called the MAP,
the Magnetic Activation Process
for activating this version of you, it's completely free.
You go to aarondoughty.com/map, M-A-P,
or click the link and description box below.
And there's a training there, training video there.
And there's also like a five, there's like a PDF there
that shows you step by step how to do that.
So go to aarondoughty.com/map to check that out.
And then also there's a video right here
that shows you how your comfort zone is your identity
and I go deeper on all of these concepts right here.