Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we will learn about twelve signs a person likes you
but is trying not to show it. Now, let’s begin.
How do you know if or when someone has feelings for you? Let’s say you’re friends with someone who
has always felt like more than a friend. You spend a lot of time together and have good chemistry,
but you’re unsure what they think of you. Do they find you attractive? Are
they interested in you in a romantic way? Or are your feelings for them unrequited?
Ideally, it’d be easy to answer questions like these, but in the real world,
it’s challenging to decipher how people feel. Why? Because we work very hard to
keep our feelings as discrete as possible, especially around the people we like.
In a way, it’s strange that we go to such great lengths to hide our feelings from the people we
care about the most. Ultimately, we want them to know how we feel. We want to get closer to them
and may even want to be in a relationship. But until we know exactly what they’re
thinking — and how they really feel — confessing your love may be a risk you’re unwilling to take.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. This fear of rejection is something many of us have
in common. You may be afraid to put yourself out there because you’re convinced your crush
doesn’t like you back. You may be imagining the worst possible scenario, which makes you extra
cautious and maybe a little bit paranoid. So, what do you do? You stuff your feelings down. You
cover them up and wait for telltale signs that the other person likes you as much as you like them.
If you’re watching this video, you might be on either end of this common dilemma. You might have
romantic feelings for someone you’re afraid to express, or maybe you think someone has feelings
for you that they’re trying to hide. Either way, you’re looking for proof that someone in your
life thinks of you as more than a friend. On the surface, they might be acting like anyone else.
They seem casual and friendly, but if you notice these twelve common signs of love and attraction,
this person might be hiding how they really feel. 1. Maximizing Time
If someone likes you, they never want to leave your side. They want to spend as much time with
you as possible, even if it’s only a few extra minutes. Let’s say you’re spending the day
with a girl who might like you. It’s getting late, so you say that you have to go home,
but she creates an excuse for you to stick around a little longer. She might ask for your help or
walk you to your car. What she’s really saying is that she doesn’t want you to leave. She wants
to spend as much time with you as possible because she secretly has feelings for you.
2. Upgrading Their Look Everybody has a different
style. Some of us like to dress up for casual occasions, while others keep it easy and simple.
But if you notice a person’s style changing around you, it may be a sign they secretly like you.
This is especially true if someone dresses in more expensive or attractive clothing.
On a typical day, they might wear a sweatshirt and jeans. But recently, they’ve upgraded their style
with clothes that emphasize their physical beauty. If you notice someone dressing up when you’re
around, they may be trying to get your attention. 3. Rapid Response Rate
Someone who likes you might jump at any opportunity to talk, text, or hear your
voice. In other words, if you call or send a message, they’ll probably respond right away.
Keep in mind that someone’s response rate isn’t always an accurate indicator of how they feel.
For example, some people turn off their phones at work, so they might not respond if you message
them in the middle of the day. That doesn’t mean they dislike you. They’re just busy.
Even if they read your message, they might not respond, possibly because they’re playing
hard to get. If someone seems eager to hear from you, you may have been on their mind.
4. Digital Separation
When spending time with friends, glancing at your phone or answering a few messages is normal.
But these habits change around someone you like. When that person talks,
you hang on to their every word, and their devices disappear into the background.
If someone loses track of their phone around you, they may be equally infatuated
with you. They couldn’t care less about messages or notifications. They hardly
ever touch their phone because the only person they’re interested in... is you.
5. Accidental Contact Making the first move
is a scary thing to do. It’s hard to put yourself out there and show your feelings.
But even if you’re too scared to make a move, you might find subtle ways to make contact with the
person you like. You might brush their shoulder or graze their hand. You might bump into them
while walking and pretend it wasn’t on purpose. We use these forms of “accidental” contact to
gradually build romantic tension, so pay attention if someone is “accidentally” making contact with
you. Whether it’s a brush on the shoulder or a gentle bump, accidental contact is one of the
most common ways people show romantic interest. Someone may not be ready to make a real move,
but if they find subtle ways to make contact, they’re likely masking how they feel.
6. Petty Jealousy It’s hard not to get jealous when your crush
has fun with someone else. You would never tell them you’re feeling jealous because you’re not
in a relationship, and that would be creepy. So, you try to act casual. You pretend you don’t care,
but your jealousy sometimes gets the best of you. If someone secretly has feelings for you,
they may get jealous too. When you’re enjoying someone else’s company,
they’re probably not happy about it. They claim they don’t care and that everything is fine,
but you may notice slight changes in their mood or behavior. Maybe they’re a little more irritable or
sarcastic. They might ask you awkward questions or suddenly become cold. If their mood changes when
you’re getting attention from someone else, this person may have stronger feelings than you think.
7. Intensive Listening If someone likes you, they want
to know everything about you. They’re interested in all the little things nobody else cares about.
When you tell a story, for example, they’re sitting on the edge of their
seat because they want to hear, understand, and remember every word out of your mouth.
To figure out how someone feels, pay attention to how well they listen. If
they’re hyper-interested in everything you say, they may be hiding how much they care.
8. Awkward Fidgeting Most of us act a little
nervous or awkward around the people we like. We want to seem confident and smooth,
but that’s rarely the impression we make. Instead, we’re full of restless energy and self-conscious
about everything we do. We’re worried every expression looks wrong and every gesture
looks weird... and sometimes, you’re right. Keep an eye out for anyone fidgeting or squirming
more than usual. They might tap their fingers, play with their hair, or fidget with their
clothes. In one way or another, this person is constantly moving and adjusting themselves because
they care deeply about what you think. 9. Forward Body Language
Despite how much someone cares about you, they may not have the courage to confess their feelings.
They might be afraid to tell you directly how important you are... but sometimes,
their body language gives them away. When someone is attracted to you, their
body language will be open and forward. They’ll lean their body toward you or unconsciously drift
closer when you’re walking side by side. Their eyes will be locked on yours, and their hands
and feet will often drift into your space. All of these signs are reliable indicators
of romantic interest and attraction. Someone may be too afraid to express their feelings aloud,
but if you notice these physical cues, their feelings may be stronger than you know.
10. Protective Instincts If someone likes you,
they’ll become protective of you, even if you’re not in a relationship. To them,
you’re still someone special. Someone they care deeply about. If you get into a tough situation,
they may be the first person to run to your aid. For example, if someone talks badly about you,
this person will instinctively protect your honor. You may not need or even want them to protect you,
but if someone secretly likes you, your safety and happiness are always on their mind.
11. Flirty Banter If someone secretly has
feelings for you, they may create opportunities to flirt and build romantic chemistry. This might
banter about romantic subjects, making jokes and dancing around their feelings. They might
talk about what qualities they find attractive or tease you about the funny little things you do.
This kind of playful banter is common for people to flirt and show interest while keeping the
conversation light and fun. If someone in your life loves to banter, especially about romantic
subjects, they may be hiding how they really feel. 12. Constant Smiling
Spending time with your crush makes you happy. And when you’re happy, you smile.
You smile at the adorable things they do and say. You smile when they look
in your direction or give you a compliment. Almost everything they do makes you smile.
If someone likes you, don’t be surprised if they’re smiling all the time too.
You might be having a boring conversation or just sitting side by side. Somehow, the littlest
things put a beaming smile on their face. You may be wondering what they’re so happy about,
but the answer is right in front of you. This person is constantly smiling because
they secretly have feelings for you. Thank you for watching TopThink and
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