If you’ve ever wondered why a man stopped pursing you, why he stopped reaching out,
why he seemed to lose interest in you – then this is the video for you!
Today I reveal the 4 things you’re doing that could be the reason why he stopped chasing
you…
Hi, I’m Nаdinе Piаt, a dating, confidence and lasting attraction coach for women and
the founder of Healthy You Hеаlthу Lоvе.
I’m also the creator of 4 world leading love and relationship programs, including;
Unlock His Heart and Never Lose Him… if you’re not heard of me then this is the
place to be as I answer all of your unanswered questions about understanding men, wholehearted
commitment and lasting attraction.
So back to the juiciest part of the video… the reason why he’s gone cold on you…
Now I have to warn you numbers 2 and 4 might surprise you… so hang in there while I explain
them all… as a few of these points are interlinked…
So..
One of the most obvious and common reasons why he stopped chasing you is.
1 - You’re chasing him – If you’re the one initiating most of the contact then he’s
stopped making an effort because he doesn’t need to make an effort.
He already knows that he can contact you at a moments notice and you’ll be available…
because you almost always are, hence no need to contact you in advance to lock you in.
Women get into this chasing, initiating habit because of a few reasons, they’ve decided
that they’ve just got to have this guy and if they don’t lead and scramble after him
they don’t believe that he will make an effort with her.
Giving him some space to breathe and come to her is more scary than watching the Excorist
alone on a cold winters night in a dark zoom.
She’s petrified that we won’t want her unless she all but forces herself on him.
This breaks my heart to see women so disempowered, so insecure and desperate that they pretty
much sell their soul for some men.
And yes, by surrending and relinquishing control you may get the outcome you don’t want.
Yes, some men won’t pick up where you left off and he will let you go, though some will
step up and start to lead again.
The ones that don’t well, isn’t it powerful and freeing to know where you stand?
I don’t want you to be with a man who doesn’t legitimately want you.
I know this can sting, a lot, though isn’t finding a man who loves you to the moon and
back a better investment for you sanity and your future.
Now for my next point… the reason why he stopped chasing you is that…
2 - He’s Juggling…
He may be legitimately interested in you, but he’s also interested in someone else
or a few others and he’s trying to work out who’s a better match for him.
Women do this too.
I certainly have done my fare share of juggling dating and it doesn’t always mean that the
juggler picks the right person for them, which means that whether you’re the perfect woman
for him or not he won’t always pick you.
In the early stages of dating it’s best to keep dating others until something “sticks”.
Until momentum builds and until you feel that the relationship is developing and leading
to exclusivity, you need to stand tall, confident and know that the man for you is out there
looking for you and if this guy isn’t it, then be at peace with that.
Sure, at some stage, after a number of weeks have passed and nothing seems to be developing
you can ask him where he’s at, though initially get on with your life, engage in the things
you love to do and let it unfold organically, without pressure or a NEED to know if there
is or isn’t a future.
I know it would be helpful to have a crystal ball to save you having to be patient and
vulnerable, though rushing the dating process never works!
So take a breath, give yourself and him some space to work out those finer feelings…because
true love is always worth it!
3 - He’s Doesn’t Like Getting Attached (to anyone) – Incredible and extensive research
has been done on relationships that reveals why we’re attracted to certain people and
what was discovered is that all humans have a dominant attachment style.
Our attachment style is often though not always influenced by our upbringing, yet it’s most
certainly influenced by our significant relationships… and these intimate experiences sees us develop
our very own dominant attachment style.
We all fall into one of the following 4 Styles… you either have an anxious attachment style,
an avoidant, a secure or you’re an anxious/avoidant.
Which means if you’ve met a man who at first seemed to want love, he came across as very
loving and told you he wanted a relationship, though as things progressed he became more
distant, hot and cold, or he vanished all together, then you’ll know how confusing
and even painful this kind of interaction is.
This is a typical response to intimacy from a man who’s ‘avoidant’ – as soon as
feelings develop he will run from them these feelings... from you.
Sure, he may come and dip his toe back in, though never for long.
He’ll find excuses to avoid committing and reasons why you’re not the right woman for
him.
He’s essentially a loving sensitive soul who has so much fear that cripples almost
every real connection he has.
He’s so scared of being seen, of being hurt, of being real… and of course women can also
be avoidants.
Generally an avoidant can come across as mean and unkind because in many ways their actions
are mean and unkind, though they’re so focussed on protecting themselves that they can’t
see how their actions can really hurt another.
So what do you do when you’re dating an avoidant?
You can help them to be aware of what ‘s happening and encourage them to get some professional
support, though if nothing changes you’re guaranteed for a rocky and heart wrenching
ride which I do not recommend.
And what’s important to know is anxious styles tend to attract and endure relationships
with avoidants - so tread mindfully and I recommend you do some extra research on this
if this sounds like you.
Particularly if you could relate to point 1.
Next up…4 - You’re playing too hard to get – A perhaps surprising though not so
surprising reason why he stopped chasing you is because you didn’t encourage him enough.
With all the unhealthy advice out there telling women to always lean back, don’t let him
know how you feel etc. it’s actually keeping women single.
Yes, there are times when you need to lean back… as I covered in my first tip, though
some women need to reach out more, to entice him in a more obvious ways.
The only men who love it when a woman plays a rigorous “hard to get” game are men
who have huge commitment issues and/or have stringent rules about how he believes a woman
needs to act for him to want her.
Sure, a little bit of mystery is great, slowly building up interest and desire are all powerful
ways to build attraction, though if you take it too far the best kind of men will give
up.
The reason why men stop chasing is that his efforts are constantly met with too many no’s
or maybes when it comes to dating.
If you take a long time to respond to his messages, perhaps cancel your dates, or talk
about other men who are interested in you, and you come across as a bit of an ice maiden,
then why would a kind-hearted man who’s confident and understands his worth chase
you?
If you’ve not watched my video 3 Powerful Ways TO Make A Man Chase You then I recommend
you do.
I reveal the kind of chasing that most men want… and it really has little to do with
the “chase” - I have the link in the description below.
So there you have it the 4 Things you could be doing that stops men chasing you!
If you follow these 4 tips then one of two things will happen, you’ll see how much
be adores you or he’ll disappear and open up the space for you to meet someone more
suited to you.
I know that this may not be what you want to hear, though I want you to experience the
best kind of love.
Your heart is precious and unrequited love is like hell on earth.
Why would anyone want that?
So, take a break and allow love to come to you, yes, be proactive, though know that you
don’t need to make someone love you.
Ever.
So many women find themselves jaded and hating men or are down on love simply because they
invested far too much of their heart and soul into the wrong man for them and they decide
that all men or relationships are like this… they’re not.
Never ever forget that you deserve to be treated with care and kindness and there are plenty
of fish in the sea… and there is a reason why people keeping saying this phrase, because
it’s true.
Just stop choosing the sharks when you want a dolphin!
And You’ve got to know the difference.
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