Oh hey! Did you know that this phone is the most powerful tool in dating and attracting beautiful
women in 2022? And i'm not talking about this phone specifically.. i'm talking about the phone
in your pocket right now now. If you don't know how to use this phone, if you don't know how to
text a woman you're not only shooting yourself in the foot but you're also pushing her into the arms
of another man don't worry in this video i'm going to give you three golden rules for texting in 2022
and if you follow them properly you can be the only guy she's texting that you can't wait to
see make sure to watch till the very end number three is where most guys mess up and get ghosted
texting has changed it used to be a lot more direct and now it's a lot more connection based
i wouldn't say it's indirect let's look at why it was so direct in the first place you know you had
a nokia phone with only so many digits there's a limited way to express yourself you know it took
so much effort to send a simple message you would try to call them you would be straight
to the point nowadays you have a full keyboard you have emoticons you have memes you have gifs
you can send them links you can send them videos from youtube or any platform there's an unlimited
way to express yourself it's expected that you connect and that's what texting is all about
texting is a point of connection it's there to maintain and build connections let's get started
on rule number one there's a lot of gimmicks out there and rule number one is really drop
the gimmicks drop the scripts i want how she met you whether it's through online dating
or through real person interaction i want it to be congruent from beginning to end so if you met
her in person let's say and you start texting her and your energy was very different from the
text because you're using gimmicks that you found online and you're copying and pasting she's going
to feel that and it's going to feel inauthentic the creation of a connection is very unlikely but
if you're congruent and you're trying to keep the energy the same you're actually talking as
the person you are and you're not using scripts the energy is going to be the same and obviously
it's not just as simple as be congruent there's a process to it but you know hit us up later and
you can find out what that is one thing i like to do to stay congruent is play with context
if it's online then playing with contacts is just playing with her bio pictures little details that
i can pick out like if i can see that she lives 53 miles away from me that's a detail that's
that's context all that is stuff that i can use in the text message now you've got the raw materials
now you need the proper presentation if i met her in person what i like to do is i like to write
details after the interaction about her about what we talked about just so that it helps me remember
all those details because i have really bad memory try to stay off scripts and gimmicks it's always
better to send a tailored message i always like to remember it's an extension of the approach
it's an extension of you texting isn't just to say hey meet here unless you're talking to your best
dude friend okay rule number two is offering value you have to offer value the fact is
no one's gonna want to see you unless you have some form of value for them i'm not saying that
all relationships are transactional but in a way they kind of are because you're not going to hang
out with someone who doesn't give you value unless you're in a codependent relationship
that's a whole different topic you need to pump value in texting you need to have enough
investment for her to say hey you know what me taking this portion of my day to go see this guy
is a good idea a good way to think about value is it's all about giving and not expecting anything
in return a lot of guys sometimes when they text they ask a lot of questions they think that people
love questions and hey sometimes i do love questions i love deep intriguing
questions that show me that the other person is curious but at the same time i also require to
have some level of comfort with that person to answer that kind of question so i need investment
and the best way to do that is to offer value now value i like to think of it as the opposite of
questions think of it as statements assumptions and observations those are great ways to offer
value role playing is also a great way to offer value but it's basically saying something and
not expecting a response a lot of the times you'll be shocked because you'll get a response naturally
because that response isn't based off me going in my head and giving you a yes or no it's an
emotional response i answer you because i really need to emotionally let's say i ask you a question
are you from america you'd have to go in your head and say yes or no but if i was to say you look
like you're from america now i made an assumption and this triggers you emotionally it might trigger
you in a positive way or a negative way it really depends on the person but that reaction
elicits a response i always prefer an emotional response than a logical vague boring response now
rule number three is patience versus persistence both of these are very important traits to have
when it comes to attracting women and actually ending up going on a date with a woman but most
guys i find do both of these things at the wrong times maybe you've got a number and
the girl doesn't respond to you in the first hour or the first six hours or the first day
the first two days or the first four days or the first week and you freak out and you keep sending
her messages that is someone who is not being patient and is being persistent at the wrong
time versus someone who responds when you know there's reciprocation after he puts out his value
he takes a step back and interacts with his own reality his own purpose he's not getting obsessed
with one girl because she's not texting him back i want you to live your life i want you to be the
best version of yourself and if this girl texts you back maybe she could be a guest star in your
movie but it's still your movie so you need to live your life that's the best way i find to be
patient is having something to do you know whether it's hobbies whether it's my friends my family
having a positive life which is very important to build now there's some guys who are very lazy when
it comes to texting and obviously if you don't text the girl at all then you're never gonna see
her guys who maybe are playing the game where oh she took 10 minutes to text me now i'm going
to take 10 minutes to text her oh she took a day i'm going to take a day if you fall to that level
you're never going to see her don't worry about all these weird rules that came out of nowhere
and follow my weird rules that came out of nowhere basically learn when to be patient and when to be
persistent now let's get into some examples of some of these mistakes okay so the first
text is what were you up to the day when the party was finished that is a good example of
how to break rule number two which is offer high value this is not a high value text then
he goes on to say hey what's your availability next week when she hasn't even responded to him
i'm happy that he's assuming attraction but when she hasn't reciprocated it's not the right time to
escalate and lead the interaction knock knock this just shows that you really need her to respond and
that you're walking around your room and let's hang out this week when are you available all
rules being broken he's not offering value rule number three he's being impatient he's being too
persistent he keeps sending messages when it's not the right time i don't know if this is how
he would normally communicate in real life i highly doubt it now this girl about me and her
bio that's the first thing i look at it says big ass bigger brain biggest heart when i saw that
message the first thing that came to my mind is the grinch which is exactly why i sent my first
message did you always have a big heart or did you did you have a moment where you reflected on your
morality where your heart grew three times its original size and you know she got the context
and i just moved it forward this isn't special stuff i'm not like i'm not doing anything crazy
here like this isn't like oh look at cal seducing women this is really simple the first message
isn't gonna get the girl it's just an opener it's just you getting in the door to actually have a
conversation with her i base it on the bio makes it feel special makes it feel tailored to the girl
you know the fact that i'm actually taking notice at what she's putting out we continued to role
play until you know i i asked for her number this other girl again i'm looking at her bio it says
curious brunette with an afro skate hula nature activities we match we go to the beach looking to
hang and do skinny dipping at cenotes my message was based off something that i was actually kind
of interested in and it's cenotes so i told her you showed me where those cenotes are and we
dip like a couple of chips again these are super cheesy basic funny but it's based off her profile
it's something that's very tailored and specific to the person just look at her bio look at her
pictures look at how far she is look what her what her favorite song is what music she's listening
to all this is content and use it of course texting is only one part of the dating process
there's a lot of other things you need to do to attract beautiful women into your life
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