So guess who just got married this guy so after being together for eight years three years engaged
two canceled dates during the engagement we finally made it happen on lucky number three and
saint martin and it was absolutely beautiful we had all of our friends and family there and it was
an absolutely magical three day event but that's enough zap for me in this video because behind
every single romantic wedding video there's a set of decisions that a guide goes through before he
ties the knot just as you beautiful women should bring your head along with your heart before you
say i do to a guy so in this video i'm going to be talking about the seven things that men
look for in a woman before he proposes and gets married hey there my name is adam lodolce from
lovestrategies.com where we help successful single women get out there and track long-lasting love
and do it with a proven strategy but before i was a love strategist i actually used to be kind of a
commitment phobe and it really wasn't until i met jessica and i saw all seven of these things when i
really decided that i was ready to get married so number one is emotional stability now we all
fluctuate emotionally from time to time depending on what's going on in our life but there's some
people that swing far from one side to the other i remember years ago i was out to lunch with a buddy
of mine and he was telling me about how he was ready to finally propose to his girlfriend and
then i saw him a week later and he said that they broke up and i was like wait what you guys broke
up he was like yeah what happened is she caught me texting an old female friend of mine never
had anything romantic with this woman i've known her for 20 years she saw me texting this woman
and then i came home later that night and all of my clothing from the closet was on the driveway
she was screaming in front of all the neighbors telling me to f off and that she never wanted
to talk to me ever again and then the next day she apologized because of course she was completely in
the wrong and then what she did is she broke into his phone got the girl's phone number
called her and tried to make plans with them three so they could get together talk about swings from
one side to another there are so many boundary violations in this story it's not even funny
so he realized at that moment he was not going to spend his life with this woman this woman is
what we call an emotional volcano she just erupts out of nowhere and you don't even see it coming
maybe you've dated a guy that is an emotional volcano let me know in the comments below the
second thing men look for in a woman before they get married is trustworthiness i remember my early
20s i was talking to a girl for about two to three months and then one day she admitted to me that
she has a boyfriend yes like a committed exclusive boyfriend and i was completely floored
and then as the conversation continued she told me that she's starting to fall for me i was like wait
you're falling in love with me but you still have a boyfriend and you expect me to commit to you
even though you're cheating on your boyfriend uh thank you but no the third thing that men look for
is someone who's on their level intellectually now studies show this is true for both men and
women but people seek lifelong partnership with people who are just on their level intellectually
the fourth thing a guy looks for is a woman that can work together as a team once you get through
all the honeymoon phase of a relationship and you just start building a life together
it really just becomes a partnership and you start to work together as a team to build a life that's
worth living and sadly there are some people that are just not team players they're just in it for
themselves only focused on what it is that they want their needs and they're not willing to make
sacrifices in order to build that life now an easy way to learn whether or not a guy is a team player
is to do an escape room together it's a really fun immersive experience that you can go on together
it's 60 minutes where you're locked into a room you're solving puzzles and games all these things
to get out of the room it's really fun but also you can see how someone reacts under pressure you
can see whether or not they work together or they work on their own or they get angry at you when
you're trying to work as a team the fifth thing is financial stability now most people realize
when you get married your finances suddenly become like this with the person you're marrying
and the reality is men are not looking for a woman who is necessarily really wealthy or has
a lot of money or has a lot of things but they are looking for someone if they are financially stable
to be with someone who is fiscally responsible who is good with their money who is you know you
don't need to be fully even out of debt but if you are in debt do you have a plan to get out of that
debt the number one reason for divorce is fights over finances so make sure before you get married
that you're on the same page with your finances how you want to spend your money and how you want
to save your money the sixth thing is maturity if you want to stay single for the rest of your life
keep having lots of fights and vents over text messages and keep trying to make the guy jealous
every single time you go out good luck a high value mature successful guy is not going to deal
with any of that stuff and the final thing men are looking for and a wife is friendship ultimately
that's what a romantic relationship turns into i mean you spend 99.9 of your time
together not in the bedroom but outside of the bedroom spending time together enjoying each other
and you want to just be with someone that you like that you enjoy being around with that you get
a positive experience that you can emotionally connect with that you just kind of get you're
on the same page and think about any friend that you've had in the past maybe a best friend
do you have the same type of connection with this guy and as a guy you're always looking for
that in a woman do you feel like you can really trust that person and really connect with that
person like you do with your other friends so i want to hear from you in the comments below what
is the number one thing you are looking for in a husband leave that comment right there below
and as always if you enjoyed this video make sure you head on over to lovestrategies.com
where we have a ton of other content that will help you through every single stage of finding
love attracting love and keeping love thank you so much for watching i'll speak to you next week bye