It is Monday night and we are headed to the all famous Slumber Party Hostel Pub
Crawl which we haven't been able to go to for the past few nights because
someone got sick and that's ok. She ruins everything.
Except for this shot. We're headed over there right now and it's gonna be
quite interesting. On today's video we are talking about how to be the life
of the party and I got some great tips for you so stick around until the end
because every single one of these all gold.
One of the first tips that I have for you in terms of how to be the
actual life of the party: this can go either way this first tip is
whether you are actually at a bar like behind me or some sort of bar crawl or
you're going to someone's house and that tip is that you want to introduce
people to people. I've been talking about this in some recent blogs. I think it's
one of my very best tips which is why I'm talking about it first. Cause when you
introduce other people to people, people automatically assume that you
know a lot of people and you are looked at as the life of the party. You're
almost like the guy who's the host because that's what a host does. A
host is someone who's introducing people to other people so when you go to some
plates like this or when you go to some sort of party that you're invited to, if
you start to meet people, introduce yourself to people and then you
introduce them to other people who are coming in the conversation, boom you're
already halfway there. Here's another tip for you and I know this is
gonna sound crazy because this is what I'm gonna say is the exact opposite of
what you've been seeing but you do not need to drink to be the life of the party.
Let all these other people get completely wasted, let them get
obliterated and then you, the person who's sober, has way more control over
every single interaction that you're having. When you are sober you are more
aware, you're more in the moment, it's easier for you to communicate with
people. I know that alcohol gives you this kind of false confidence but
with practice of going out and meeting people, talking to people you can
actually get over that fear and that anxiety when you talk to more and more
people. Plus something magical happens when you're at a bar, at a party and you
start to talk to people and you're doing it one after another, by the time you
talk to at least 10 new people, you start to feel a lot more comfortable and you
actually don't need alcohol. If you don't believe me try it and you'll see what
I'm talking about. I know this may seem a little funny to you and a lot of
people think that this is kind of funny because it's an interesting way of
looking at practicing socializing. What I think you should be doing is
having a goal of the amount of people that you talk to like actually quantify
it. When you go out to an event, a bar a party or something like that,
I want you to have five people that you can talk to so think about the five yes
the five people
five people that you can actually go up and start a conversation with so
throughout the night you're thinking about okay I did 1, 2, 3 and so on.
When you have that goal it gives you the motivation and an actual reason to go up and
start conversations so have that goal.
Just wrapped up the night here. I think it's maybe 1:00 a.m. at this
point and the bar crawl is still going. Brittany and I are going back cause we have an
early morning tomorrow to get to Kuala Lumpur so we'll be doing that. But let's
continue on with some tips for you on how to be the life of the party. I
know that one reason why a guy might be scared to be the life of the party,
to put himself out there, to be very social, to be very engaging with people.
It's because he's scared what people think about him. But you have to know when it
comes to events, parties, bars fun nights our there's lots of drinking,
people really don't remember as much as you think they do. So if you ever screw
up or say something that you're like oh why did I say that or you think you
embarrass yourself because you did something that you just didn't want to
do, said something you didn't want to say. I mean really most of the time people
aren't paying attention as much as you think they are. One thing I should really
stress here when I make videos like this is I'm not doing this to tell you that
you have to be the life of the party. Can you attract women, can you be successful
in dating without being the life of the party? Absolutely that's not a necessity by any
means but I make videos like this because I know that guys might want to
learn how to be that person. Some guys think that it might be really fun to be
more social, more outgoing and be that kind of entertainment for the night and
that's great. Go for it, have fun. At the end of the day I want you to be
more social, I want you to be out there more and I want you to be talking to
more people so anything I can do to give you that push to just be engaging with
as many people as possible because it's gonna make this whole process faster for
you. No you don't have to turn yourself into an extrovert, no you don't have to
be the most social person in the room always but it does help because at the
end of the day we're talking about meeting women here.
And the more women you meet and the more practice you get, the more odds you
have at success. Does that make sense? I hope so.
Calling it a night. It's been fun. Really quickly before I end this
video, I just want to say thank you to Slumber Party Hostel for hosting
Brittney and I. It's been amazing they have so many different locations all
around Southeast Asia. I'm gonna put a link below in the description so you
guys can check them out and see what they're about. If you guys want to party,
be social and have a good time and all doing that while traveling I highly
recommend you check them out. It is so much fun, we had a great time and
honestly if there were ones in America or even closer to where I lived I would
definitely be checking it out. Check it out, link in the description and I'll
talk to you tomorrow. Peace out.