Haters now I have that haters since day one I have had haters for 12 years now
since I started my first online business five businesses ago and I even had a
website forums made about me just to hate on me just to bash on me and why
because I have been doing my best to help people since day one also if I
didn't have haters I would be worried because it would mean that I am not
helping anybody right if you don't want to get hate it is really simple don't do
anything don't say anything don't try anything plain if you want to do things
say things try things build things achieve amazing things be really happy
in your life you're gonna have haters so we may as well deal with it right now so
in this video I'm gonna break down five of the most important lessons and
principles I have learned for myself for experiences or others with you about how
to deal with your haters so let's crack into number one right now principle
number one you get to choose so your being hated on right now you get to
choose will you affirm this hey give it attention or we just ignore it starve it
let it die I had a client of mine in my Kaizen mastermind group I'm solving them
a couple months ago to a live event he was saying like one things are going
great Jason I'm you know he's like making real money now he's replaced
rat-race life the laptop life he's loving it but on Facebook there's these
little threads that happen where people talk crap about him in the comment
section and it was a getting to him as frustrating him and I said dude
answer me this question does your continued success require that they
believe in you those haters he's like no I said just do you need them to give you
money he said no and I said then why does it matter you're helping people
you're making money you're creating a better lifestyle for your family for
your future generate you like you're doing everything right you don't need
them your success doesn't require haters to not become haters like please tattoo
that to the inside of your brain I'm gonna give you a couple quotes here to
the let this dial in to let this seep into your subconscious number one jay-z
has a great quote he said that don't argue with the fool because those from a
distance can't tell who is who his advice there of course is someone's
hitting on you just nor them better yet just delete them
there on social media just delete them or just block them there is nothing
wrong with that and if you're like well I don't know you have my full permission
it's cool delete them block them ignore them starve them maybe then with the
removal of validation and attention in the pain that causes them will actually
act as an impetus for them to grow the F up and number 2 Charlie Munger I was
watching this interview with Charlie Munger who is the billionaire business
partner of Warren Buffett and the the CNBC anchorwoman she tried to ask him
some question that would result in some type of gossip or what do you think
about this person who said this thing you know they're just trying to stir the
pot and he just looked at her and he was like listen there's only there's only so
many ripples in the space-time continuum that I have time to deal with basically
saying like it it's not important if I made it listen everything that's
important in my life what the hell this person said would have cannot be found
on that list if you gave me 10,000 pages to write down and it is the same for me
and it is the same for you remember you get to choose that is your power and no
one can take that away from you let's get into number two right now principle
number two haters are evidence you are making an impact who do you know that
doesn't have haters maybe some of your friends who don't really do much maybe
it's a family member who was kind of afraid of life the majority of people we
know this they go through life quietly right leading lives of quiet desperation
and those are the people who never get hated on because they never aim to
change things they never they never aim to make an impact right they never act
unreasonable in their will and their dreams in their mission and so they get
no hate but they also achieve no glory and they help no others understand this
the minute you begin helping other people publicly it's a package deal you
get hate and you get praise you literally in life there they are the
same coin praise and hate validation and criticism same thing it is a package
deal so when you start helping people publicly understand the minute that
happens you have instantly triggered off a
series of events a chain reaction that will result in you receiving praise and
you receiving hate I don't try to buy too much into the praise because I'm
training that part of my brain then to buy into the external feedback I am
getting from people who don't really know me or my life or my mission that
well and if I train myself to buy into that that also means I'm training myself
to buy into that when it's not so positive or when it's negative if you
feast on praise you're training yourself to feast on negativity also which will
lead you down a tailspin you don't want to go down so understand one it is a
package deal the praise and the criticism and two you're gonna get
labeled no matter what you do a lot of people are afraid of labels a lot of
people get offended by labels that act you know whatever with the light being
labeled is the price of greatness there is no way you will achieve
greatness in your life without people labeling you they will label you
positive things they will call you a agent of change and influencer a leader
a servant and then they will call you negative things an egomaniac a asshole
a jerk a cocky ad they'll call you names no matter what you do so if we know that
why don't we just turn the volume down on all that stuff and get the focus on
what really matters most which is helping the most amount of people that
we can let's crack into principle number three right now principle number three
understand that if you're being hated it is always more about them than it is
about you in psychology there's this old saying we say if you spot it you got it
let's say like I put a video up there's videos I put up on YouTube and there'll
be someone in the comment section who will make it like a hater comet or a
hateful comment I saw one the other day I don't usually read negative comments
but someone with something like yell dude your egos huge put that thing in
check or something like that let's say that's the comment this person do they
know my life history do they know my experiences do they know what I value
most in life do they know what I do want to
do they know the hundreds of thousands of people that I've been blessed enough
to be able to reach help impact no they don't know any of that they have seen a
few minutes of maybe one maybe a few videos but if they hate me they shown
you're watching one this you watch more than that right they've seen a sliver of
one video made a judgement about Who I am and what I'm about and then made a
comment about me so in truth they know nothing about me there's no way and if
you people hate on you online they can't know any they can't know the truth about
you they can know a sliver they can know a grain of sand they know a drop of
water and they take that to mean the entire ocean right you cannot judge an
ocean by a drop of water but that's what they do their hate like that guy with
the egotistical comment he spotted it because he has it right you spot it you
got it what I'm saying is when people are hitting on you in this way they are
witnessing and expression of the repression they have caused themselves
meaning maybe he wants to be more authentic maybe he wants to be more
expressive maybe he wants to speak his freakin truth and sure that with the
world but he has repressed that down due to fear of what other people will say
fear that he's not good enough fear that he is not enough fear that if he does he
won't be loved at the court and so he hasn't expressed that he has repressed
that deep inside and now he sees me broadcasting expressing my truth
expressing my authenticity to the best of my abilities and his shadow his
subconscious sees this and it remembers what it repressed and it resents itself
for repressing it boy that would cause all kinds of cognitive dissonance and he
said man I push this down in me and I feel this this uncomfortable feel this
pain when I watch this person and I hate them for it but the truth is I'm really
mad at myself because I haven't expressed this in myself understand what
you repressed gets expressed one way or another he is witnessing an expression
of his own repression he spotted it so he got it it and that's why he hate it
and this is why anyone hates on you that doesn't truly know you like if anyone
ever hates on you and they don't know you in
real life they only know your online persona and they actually take the time
out of their day their path their mission to hate on you understand it is
100% to do with them and nothing to do with you
there is something you did something you said some some symbol that you are
representing in your communication that is speaking to the repressed side their
shadow side and it causes them pain and rather than deal with that pain
themselves because that would be hard it's much easier for them to just hate
and push the pain down further when someone hates on me I don't get mad at
them I have such depth of compassion for them because I know that they're in pain
I know they have a long road ahead and I wish them the best and I hope that they
at some point wake up out of that slumber and they start dealing with
their demons and they start turning their obstacles into opportunities and
that's all I got to say about that what's cracking to principle number four
right now principle number four be willing to offend now I didn't say aim
to offend I said willing to offend and what I mean by that is you can't make
money without attention someone's gonna give you a check they probably needed to
give you their attention through someone's gonna buy a product in your
website they needed to give you their eyeballs their attention first and there
is frankly probably no better way to guarantee the attention of others than
to be controversial or be offensive now again I'm not saying aim to offend on
purpose but you have to be willing to offend you have to understand the minute
your message gets out there your belief your idea your why your your product
your service your your mission it's a package deal again
you're going to offend people you have to be willing to offend people you have
to be willing to deal with the brushback you will get from that Donald Trump won
the election based on this he was willing to be offensive Howard Stern got
the biggest most expensive radio contract in the history of radio because
he's willing to be offensive Dan Kennedy one of my marketing mentors he's this
great quote he says with your marketing if you haven't offended at least one
person by noon you're not marketing hard enough right we have to be willing to
offend and by the way again it's not aimed to offend it's sharing your
truth it's sharing your authenticity it's being as authentic as you possibly
can be sharing your truth what's really going on in here and understanding that
that's automatically gonna be polarizing you're automatically gonna attract some
people you're automatically going to repel some people and the people that
you repel they may be offended by it that's not within your control I'm not
saying be mean I'm not saying say hurtful things I'm saying share your
truth I'm saying what is your truth I'm saying what is your authenticity saying
what is real about you that you are holding back on that you want to share
with others let it out express it find ways to make that truth a part of your
marketing a part of your mission and understand you will offend some people
and that's okay you don't want to be the guy or the girl that never offend anyone
because that's the person no one ever hears about let's crack into principle
number five right now principle number five you're being hated
on people are talking bad about you they're bashing you online somewhere if
this happens here's a really really good tip go for a walk with your purpose I
literally mean stand up turn off the phone get off the laptop go for a walk
in nature and reconnect with your purpose reconnect with your why why are
you even doing this right you got hate because you started sharing a message or
an idea or product or service out there with the world for a reason for a good
reason and then you got hate it out and then you got distracted by the hate so
get outside go for that walk in nature reconnect with your wife go for a nature
walk with your purpose because when you get really clear reconnected we grounded
in your purpose you will remember you will realize this vision this mission
that I have is so much bigger and more important than the transience judgment
and criticism from someone that I don't even know I have a mission right I've
challenged myself to create 100 million air students in the next three years
that is a big mission and I know the ripple effect of me creating a hundred
million air students that will have for themselves and their families and their
friends and those people's families and those people friends and the book I'm
gonna write about my hundred million air students and how many other people that
will ignite and inspire that value is so much greater then
transient loser crying to his mama in a comment section or on social media and
it's the same for you you're getting hated on fine get outside go for a
nature walk and go for that walk with your purpose reconnect to your why
reconnect to your mission and I think it's gonna do wonders for you alright so
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