Wow this might be my most controversial video yet stay tuned after the intro hey
guys Serg here today we're gonna be talking about does marriage hurt or help
your career now this might be very controversial because a lot of people
want to get married a lot of people are married or marriage is typically viewed
as a good thing in today's world and society and that could that has been
changed over the past few years so to give you guys a quick history on
marriage back in the day when people were applying for jobs especially men
back in the 60s 50s 40s for all you young bucks out there employers would
ask if people were married before giving them a job because they'd want to know
that they were quote-unquote stable that they had the ability to be
stable and they're not gonna be you know trying to get into the company and jump
around or anything like that it was just used as a barometer that was one of the
things that they would look at to see how stable a person was and of course
the culture back then was everyone got married you got married young you got
married early soon came the kids after you were married and that was that but
now ever since the 90s the 2000s more more people have been getting divorced
marriage has come under more of a microscope on whether it's good whether
it's for everybody whether it's okay to be married or stay single all of your
life or you know any any type of variation of that so without further ado
does marriage hurt or help your career and this is one with a lot of nuance but
I think overall it's probably a draw with a slight edge to it hurting your
career now there are two main things that most people that can hurt somebody
or help somebody in a mayor the main thing that can hurt you is
decreasing your ability to network so a lot of people in my experience though
this is my experience and and this question came with someone who emailed
us about this and in my experience a lot of married people do not want to
participate in the networking events so a lot of you guys know on this channel
we talk about all the time about networking networking networking is the
most important thing you can do to advance your career number one and a lot
of people that are married or get married cut back on the networking
component so whether it's a team dinner they don't go whether it's you know
unless they have to go whether it's you know a Christmas party whether it's you
know just going out with the team you know randomly during throughout the week
or whatever it may be typically people that are married maybe have kids can't
do that for whatever reason or don't feel like doing it for whatever reason
and that's a huge detriment so if if that's the case then absolutely it's
gonna hurt your career if if you have to go home to be with your with your
significant other right after work you can't stay late you know you can't put
in the extra work particularly on the networking side of things it's gonna be
a huge detriment and that's a huge mistake so absolutely that can hurt your
career if you're married also another thing that where it can hurt your
careers if it's stressful if you're in a stressful marriage a stressful
relationship and you're constantly bringing that stress into the workplace
and you know you're you're just snappy you're not you're not being a team
player for whatever reason and if things aren't just going well because of the
stress you have at home because of your marriage well then that's not gonna help
your career either that that's just bad that's very bad and it's not gonna help
in any way those are some scenarios where marriage
can hurt your career and you know it's no longer used as a barometer of
stability because the job market has changed significantly people change jobs
all the time no longer do you just get in at a company and stay there for your
entire career thirty years and then you retire no longer is that
the case most people now are gonna have work for multiple different companies
probably even try to start their own etc and you know that's just what it is now
so but one of the things that marriage can definitely help with is you know
having someone therapeutically to talk to about the stuff going on at work who
isn't gonna be biased you know some of the more therapeutic benefits of it you
know the ability to you know if you have kids having another person to help raise
kids with you and take some of that burden off you also give you the ability
to work late also give you the ability you know if to take care of the kids if
if you need to go to a networking event or whatever reason a lot of people who
are married tend not to want to do well there's a couple reasons why but they
tend not to want to do the jobs without require a lot of travel and those jobs
have come with a lot of perks those travel jobs especially in clinical
research see Ras a lot of people don't want to be CRA quote-unquote don't want
to be CRA and I use that in quotes because a a lot of people do want to
become CRA s but they feel like they can't because they're married or because
they have a family or whatever reason and it's a grueling travel schedule so
you know that can definitely mess up your money because CRA s do make good
money and you know other jobs with similar experience level make
significantly less money and they have significantly less perks then CRA
typically do and if you feel like you can't do it because of your significant
other for whatever reason and you know it's your career that's that's that loss
that you it's you're losing in that situation not then so you know the
things like that where you pick a job because of what your significant other
says where you pick you make career moves based on your significant other
says and I'm not saying that's good or bad by the way I mean that's that's the
point of the marriage for you guys to make decisions together but I am saying
that sometimes people make decisions that are
in the best interest of their career because they are married or because they
have a family you know now saying that's good or bad but that's just facts so
from from one point of view it could definitely hurt your career but from
another point of view it could it could be viewed as you know you're not taking
that job where you can be working a bunch of overtime and traveling all the
time is better for your family because you'll be there and you'll be there more
you'll be present more you'll be less stressed even though you'll be making
less money and may not get promotions as fast it's better for your family so
sometimes it can seem like one or the other and people make their choice based
on that but you know sometimes it can it can really hurt you hurt your career
I've seen people make these decisions all the time you know they don't come to
the meetings with executive the executive team and executive leadership
because you know they don't feel like leaving their wife at home or something
like that or if there's a dinner or something and
you can't bring other people they're like well my wife is at home she has
nothing to do and they have to go home and miss out on that huge huge
networking opportunity so these things matter it's definitely something to
think about as you are advancing in your career if you're ready for that in your
personal life because it does play a part it plays a major part in your
career and I think if you want to be as lean and as mean as possible you should
probably put it off a little bit and have the ability to just be lean in me
because as soon as you get married you're not gonna be as mobile as you
want were when you were single you're not gonna be able to you know move
across the country for a job if you want to or you know move up and down the
coast if you want to or take that traveling job that's really good has
really great pay really good perks and is in very very high demand like CRA if
you're married and have a family and stuff so it's definitely one to think
about they're awesome there are some pros to
being married like I said about the stress thing and having someone there to
help you out and you know talk to therapeutic with and things of that
nature but there are definitely some cons that people that definitely hurt
people and it's definitely something you want to think about but got this
question in in our email so if you have any other question do you want to ask
and just get my take on you can email us at elite clinical group at gmail.com
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