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“Get Your Ex Back When They Hate Your Guts”
Greetings YouTube, Brad Browning here… and of course, as usual, in today’s video I’ll
be sharing some tips and techniques on getting your ex back.
In fact this video is going to be particularly helpful for those of you who have been trying
to get a second chance with an ex who is currently ignoring you completely, or who openly tells
you that they hate you and never want to be with you again.
Now, obviously that’s not a good situation to find yourself in, but don’t lose hope
quite yet…
I’m going to give you some tips and guidance to help you defuse your ex’s emotions and
turn the ship around so you can eventually get back together.
I can’t guarantee that that strategies I’ll be talking about in this video will work for
you, because every situation is unique obviously, but I can promise that I’ve seen many of
my coaching clients overcome similarly dire-looking scenarios and successfully get their ex back…
so, I know that these techniques are going to give you the best possible chance of salvaging
your situation.
If you need personal help tailored to your unique scenario beyond what I’ll be talking
about in this video, please visit BreakupBrad.com/coaching to register for my 1-on-1 coaching program
where I can personally guide you through the process.
Step 1 - Assess Where You Truly Stand Right Now
Alright, so… the first thing you should do is figure out how bad your situation really
is.
Sure, maybe the last time you saw your ex, he or she told you that they never wanted
to speak to you ever again….
But we all say things in the heat of the moment that aren’t true, or at least aren’t reflective
of our true feelings.
How long has it been since your breakup?
The longer it’s been, and the more you’ve been trying already to get back together without
any luck, the tougher it’s going to be to reverse things and win them back.
What did you do to cause your ex’s current feelings towards you?
If you’ve been an asshole for years, and done all sorts of nasty stuff to your ex over
a long period of time….
Especially things like cheating, lying, etc…
then quite frankly you’re in a tough spot, and deservedly so.
But for most of you, it’s probably only a few things that caused them to hate you
and decide they never want to talk to you again….
And you’ll be a lot more likely to be able to overcome those mistakes and repair trust
with your ex.
How many times has your ex made their feelings clear to you?
Look, folks… if your ex has gone to court to file a restraining order against you, that
means it’s over.
*awkward pause, cut to 1-2 second clip of a man in shackles or handcuffs walking with
his head down, pacing in a jail cell, etc…
maybe even just a judge saying “life in prison” ominously…
some shit like that.
Then quickly cut back to Brad*
If your ex is now married to someone new, then that is also a pretty clear sign that
it’s time to give up and move on.
*cut quickly to a Game Over gif with no sound, play clip for a few seconds, then cut right
back to Brad… something like this: https://media.giphy.com/media/HqpCnDg0U5w6Q/giphy.gif ...or this: https://media.giphy.com/media/iLj7Uio0CHSO4/giphy.gif
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Yeah, but I’m guessing that for most of you watching this video, things aren’t that
bleak.
In fact, maybe they’re not even as bad as you think.
For example, maybe your ex said they “never want to get back together” and told you
in no uncertain terms not to try to convince them to take you back.
In my experience, that type of thing is usually something your ex says because they know how
tough it will be for them to stay broken up… maybe they think that the breakup is the “right”
thing to do, but know it’ll cause them a lot of heartache and they’ll be tempted
to take you back to make those feelings disappear.
By telling you that the breakup is final and that they don’t want to hear from you, that’s
their way of trying to avoid the temptation of getting back together when they’re heartbroken
and missing you like mad.
Really, you’ll have to disregard your ex’s words, and instead think hard and identify
all the things -- or maybe it’s just 1 big thing -- that caused your ex to decide they
don’t want anything to do with you any more.
*for 5-7 seconds after I finish the paragraph above, cut to an on-screen Quiz call-to-action
with text such as: “Is there still a chance to get your ex back?
Find out by taking the free quiz: www.BreakupBrad.com/quiz” … maybe use one of the quiz banners in your
GDrive folder of graphics if you want, just keep it simple and show it for long enough
that viewers can read the text on-screen… then cut back to Brad.*
Step #2 - Stop Sabotaging Your Own Efforts Now, the last thing you want to be doing right
now, obviously, is reminding your ex about those negative things that contributed to
their decision to break up.
You’ve hopefully already assessed your own situation and come up with at least a rough
idea of what your ex is angry about, or why they truly wanted to break up.
Now, it’s time to stop doing all of those things that are making matters worse, and
begin to make positive progress towards turning things around.
One easy way to stop doing any more damage to your chances?
Stop saying anything to your ex.
This, of course, is basically my “No Contact” strategy….
And if you’re not already engaged in No Contact, or haven’t gone through with the
full 30 day period of radio silence… then start now.
If you’re not talking to your ex or communicating with them in any meaningful way, you can’t
say or do things to make matters worse.
No Contact also has a number of other benefits, but I’ve talked about that in many other
videos already, so I won’t get in to the details right now
If you’ve already finished an extended period of No Contact, or you absolutely must communicate
with your ex for some reason… then at the very least, make sure you don’t have any
kind of negative or serious talks with your ex.
If you have to chat with them, keep the encounter fun and upbeat, and don’t bring up anything
remotely serious.
Just pretend to be happy, and avoid reminding him or her of anything that might trigger
negative memories and emotions.
Step #3 - Use Psychology To Reset Your Ex’s Feelings Towards You
Here’s a bit of good news for you: the human brain is built for resilience, which means
we tend to subconsciously let go of negative memories and hold on to only the most positive,
happy ones in the long term…
it’s a chemical mechanism hardwired into our genes to make sure that 1 bad experience
doesn’t put you in a state of depression for the rest of your life.
This same process also means that your ex’s anger, and any negative thoughts and memories
they had of you at the time of your breakup, will begin to fade from their mind shortly
after the breakup…
Eventually, everything that led up to their decision to break up with you are going to
fade away…. leaving them with a few nostalgic, happy memories of your best times together.
That’s great news if your ex is ignoring you or hates you right now…
BUT, you need to speed up this process.
You can’t wait for it to happen on its own.
For that very reason, I’ve come up with a few simple psychological “hacks” you
can use to help suppress your ex’s negative memories and make them focus on the intimate
experiences that you shared together when your relationship was still in the early ‘honeymoon’
phase.
These are ridiculously subtle, under-the-radar tactics -- like casually mentioning a really
happy shared memory from your time together in the course of some unrelated conversation.
But they work, and I know that from 11 years of coaching clients in situations just like
yours.
So, if you want to learn more about how you can tap into your ex’s brain to reset their
feelings about you and your possible future together, watch the full video on my website,
www.BreakupBrad.com … this is something I delve into in that video, especially in
the part where I explain the “Recovery” phase of my 3R System.
Again, that video is at BreakupBrad.com, so check it out to learn more about how to use
simple psychology to hack into your ex’s brain and force them to let go of negative
emotions and memories quickly and without them even realizing it.
Step 4 - Rebuild Attraction Until Your Ex Can’t Help But Beg To Have You Back
Look, folks…
once you’ve done the three things I’ve already discussed in this video, things get
a lot more simple.
Your ex, at this point, isn’t going to hate your guts as much -- they’ll probably even
be willing to answer your calls and reply to some of your texts -- but that’s when
you need to activate your Seduction Superpowers.
All breakups are fundamentally caused by the same thing -- a loss of attraction.
If your ex was MADLY in love with you, and would give ANYTHING to be with you, there’s
nothing they wouldn’t be willing to do or overcome to make that happen.
Love is the most powerful emotion in the human brain, so by making your ex feel that kind
of burning attraction for you again, you’ll be able to overpower any logical or rational
reasons your ex be using to justify your breakup.
So, your job at this point is to make your ex fall back in love with you… to re-build
their emotional and sexual attraction for you to the point where they can’t help but
beg you to take them back.
It sounds totally far-fetched, I know… but I promise you that it can and does happen.
Clients of mine, many of whom were facing equally challenging or perhaps even more dire
situations than you are right now, have had their ex pleading them for another chance.
Obviously re-building this kind of attraction isn’t going to happen overnight, but remember:
you made your ex fall for you in the past.
You did this already…
you fell in love, and your ex felt that burning, passionate attraction for you.
So, you know it’s possible, you just need to transform yourself back into that person
they fell in love with early in your relationship.
It’ll take time, you’ll need to flirt like crazy, and read your ex’s responses
to ensure you don’t move too fast or make any mistakes along the way….
But once you’ve got your ex feeling that same kind of burning desire that made them
want to be with you in the first place, it’s just a matter of saying “yes” when they
suggest you give your relationship another chance.
Step 5 - Get a game plan, stay the course Don’t get ahead of yourself.
Everything I’ve just said is true, and it’s something that’s completely possible for
most of you watching this video, but you need to start from step 1.
Visit my website, watch the full video, employ No Contact, use my psychological tactics to
subtly change your ex’s feelings towards you….
It’s not complicated.
In fact, my Ex Factor program breaks down the entire process, answering all the “what
if” questions that might pop up along the way… you can get a copy of the program at
BreakupBrad.com, but I’m not going to try and talk you into giving me even a dollar.
Just make sure you have a clear idea of how you need to proceed to get from where you
are now to the point where your ex is asking you to get back together on their own accord….
And stick to the gameplan until that becomes a reality.
Have faith, have perseverance, and most of you can still salvage your situation no matter
how impossible that might feel right now.
There are hundreds of viewer comments here on my YouTube channel confirming that what
I’ve talked about in this video does indeed work, so you don’t have to take my word
for it.
And speaking of comments, please leave your questions and feedback below and I’ll get
back to you as soon as I can.
That’s it, folks -- thanks for watching, thanks for your support, and best of luck!
See you next time.