Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
and life that you love.
And today is Q&A Tuesday, one of our favorite days of the week.
And today’s question comes from Kristin and she asks:
“Hi Marie.
I’m Kristin and I am an 11 year old girl who has been watching you for about 6 months
now.
And, what can I say?
You’re funny, you’re hip, you’re sassy, you’re creative, and, when you need to be,
professional.
And I honestly fell in love with you on the first video.
So here’s my Q: what do you do when you feel lost about what you like, about what
you love, and what you wanna be?
Bye!”
Kristin, this is an incredible question and I wish I could sit down with you and answer
all of your Q’s because you’re brilliant.
You’re so curious and amazing and you’re just 11 years old.
Now, the first thing I wanna say is that feeling confused or lost about what you like and what
you wanna be is something that nearly all of us struggle with.
You know, another way that people ask this is, what should I do with my life when I grow
up?
You’ll probably be asked this question many, many times.
It’s because adults have been asked this question our whole lives and it’s kind of
the way that we relate to each other.
Now, here’s my problem with this question, particularly for someone your age.
This question puts a lot of pressure on you because you don't have to make this decision
right now.
Where you are in your life, it’s all about being creative and exploring and learning,
exactly what you’re doing.
And, here’s the thing, you’re probably gonna change what you wanna do for a career
many times between now and when you finish your formal education, and even as an adult
too.
Now, for everybody else, especially if you’re an adult and you’re still asking yourself,
“What should I be when I grow up?”
hopefully this will help you too.
Instead of asking, “What should I do?”
a way more powerful and useful question to ask yourself is, “Who do I want to be?”
Meaning what kind of person do you want to be in this world?
What’s the energy that you wanna bring to anything that you actually do?
So, here’s the thing, this is a very different question to ask yourself and it’ll get you
completely different results.
After all, you are a human being, not a human doing, and who you are shows up in everything
that you do.
So, Kristin, I want you to sit down and really ask yourself, who do I wanna be in this world?
Do I wanna be loving, kind, inclusive?
Do I wanna be playful, engaged, compassionate?
Really think through what being qualities are most important to you.
Maybe it’ll be being artistic and sharing your art with the world.
Maybe it’ll be being helpful and being a leader.
Then just ask yourself, “How can I take what’s already in my heart and express this
into the world?
What can I do right now to express exactly who I am and who I wanna be?”
When I’m feeling lost, that’s what I do.
I ask myself, “Well, who do I wanna be right now?” and the answer that most often pops
up is loving and helpful.
So then I say, “Ok, well, how can I spread some love right now?
How can I be helpful and give to somebody else?”
And when I ask myself those questions, I often get intuitive flashes about things like projects
I need to take on or things I need to go do or sometimes it’s as simple as picking up
the phone and reaching out to someone and giving them some love.
Now, I’ve got more ideas and resources to share with you, Kristin, and I’ll put the
links below.
But the big takeaway from today’s episode is this: that regardless of your age or what
you’ll eventually do for a career, I want you to remember that you have the power in
each and every moment to consciously choose and express who you want to be.
Now, here’s a tweetable that’ll help you remember.
“Greatness doesn't come from what you do, but from who you are.”
No matter what you do, your real work in this world is to choose who you wanna be and be
it.
So, Kristin, that was my A to your Q, I really hope it helps, and I cannot wait to hear how
it goes.
Now I would love to hear from you.
Who do you wanna be in this world?
And what’s one simple action that you can take right now to express it?
As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go
there and leave a comment now.
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