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You are a nice guy. Now, do you take that as a compliment or an insult? I mean, if I
were to describe you to a friend is, “Oh, yeah, Mike is a cool guy. Mike is a nice guy.”
I think we can all agree that's a good use of the term. However, if you were to ask a
girl out, get rejected, and she were to tell you, “You know what? You're such a nice
guy, but you're not my type.” [Sound effect] The nice guy label is often thrown on men
that are viewed by women as being pushovers. My objective today, guys, is to help you take
that nice guy label and throw it right out the window, and instead become a real man.
R-E-A-L, what does that stand for? Find out, gents, in today's video.
[Music] So, the first step to becoming a real man
is to be responsible. When you're responsible, you have 100% ownership. When you've got ownership,
you're accountable for everything going on in your life. For the things you're doing,
for the things you're not doing. When you take 100% responsibility for everything
that happens in your life the bad, the good, all of a sudden, you have the power to create
change because you realize that you have that ownership you've got that strength that ability
to change course in the direction you want to go.
Now, when it comes to responsible behavior, there are five parts to it.
First up, honesty. A responsible man is honest. He's truthful not only with others, but most
importantly with himself. Next up, a responsible man is compassionate.
By compassion, I mean you should be slow to judge. You understand that people come from
different walks of life, they all have different views, and you want to try to treat everyone
with kindness and respect. A responsible man also tries to be fair. He
realizes that he's got tons of prejudices. We all grow up stereotyping. This is the way
as human beings that we make sense the world. We put things into boxes, we try to find shortcuts,
and he realizes he has tons of these and that this limits his viewpoint. And, again, he
tries to strip that away to be fair with all. A responsible man is accountable. And by accountable,
I mean that you acknowledge and you accept the consequences of your actions, very big.
So many times, we want to do the right thing, but we know it's going to probably it's going
to temporarily set us back. Here's the thing. A responsible man understands this and he
does the right thing. And that takes us to courage. A responsible
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Now, this next step to being a real man I think is going to surprise some of you guys,
being eclectic. By eclectic, I mean having a wide range of interests, an education that
spans more than one narrow focus. Now, it used to be more common that people
would get a broader education, but nowadays, people are focused in on getting the skills
to pay the bills. They think they have to have that narrow focus on one field and that's
pretty much where they stay. Now, being laser-focused on your education,
not having any distractions, this makes sense if you're studying to be a lawyer or a doctor.
Now, what I'm talking about here is you not being one-dimensional.
When you're starting off as a kid, you've got all these different ideas of things, you
can be all these different dreams. But, as we become adults, we start to focus in and
we forget about all these other things about us.
And, here's the thing, it can make you incredibly boring. It can make you very focused in and
myopic. You don't see things outside of that space. Let's say that you're a master electrician
or you're a carpenter, you're a plumber, well, guess what? How about you have some interests
that are way outside of that space? Maybe you like to dress sharp, hence why you
follow my channel. Or maybe it's something you on the weekends you love to go to place.
You want to actually perform, you want to go dancing with your wife. These are great
outlets. They're very different from blue-collar work.
Or maybe you're a professor. Yes, everything is theory that you teach, but guess what?
On the weekends, you get your hands dirty because you're going out camping. You're a
survivalist. You're out there learning how to use weapons, not because you want to hurt
somebody, but because you want to know how to defend yourself.
And going back to the doctor example, the best pediatrician my family ever had was a
very eclectic doctor who came from Moscow. So, Dina had gone to school over there and
she actually served as a doctor over in Russia for a few years before immigrating to the
United States. Then, she had to go through our medical system our training to be able
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Point being is she had a wide range of education. Both systems and anyone that's lived abroad
knows that medical systems are very different in different countries.
And, here's the thing my wife coming to this country, she was aghast how doctors were always
giving antibiotics. She finds Dina and here's a woman that she just absolutely loves because
she understood both systems. She took the good of both and she combined it and she was
able to give my wife the guidance that she was looking for when it came to our kids.
And, personally speaking, I have to say my eclectic education and experience has done
so much for me. My education has exposed me to so many different things I didn't even
know were out there. And my experience because I've been in the Marine Corps, I've ran a
non-profit, I've lived abroad, all of these things enabled me to connect with people in
ways that I couldn't if I hadn't done them. The next step to being a real man, be authentic.
To be authentic is to be real is to be genuine is to be true. And for me, this summarizes
my channel. I may mispronounce things in French, I may not always have my facts right. I try
to, but you cannot argue and I know I can go to my grave knowing that I have always
been authentic with you guys. I have been true I have been honest to the best of my
knowledge. There may probably been some things I look
back and watch my old videos, I cringe a bit. So, I’m like, I don't know if I agree with
that, my opinion has probably changed. But, I’ve always say things that I believe are
accurate with the knowledge I have at the time.
And that's what it means to be authentic is to be transparent. It doesn't mean be yourself.
You're going to hear that thrown out there. And if you are going to be yourself, well,
at least be your best self. No. To be authentic, to be real, to be genuine
is to speak from the heart and to give people everything and not to hold anything back,
not to be deceptive, not to lie, not to try to mislead or you know, yeah, people can pick
it up. And that's what I love about video. You guys
can watch my videos you can go back and watch a video I did a hundred videos ago or a thousand
videos ago and you'll see that that's actually what enabled my channel to succeed is that
we were authentic. And it will work for you. If you are authentic when you're engaging
with other people, if you're authentic whenever you're having conversations, if you're authentic
when you're up on stage, you will find that this is one of the best ways to communicate
because people trust authentic people. The next step to being a real man, having
the strength to love. Now, I’ll be honest. This last one a little bit more difficult
for me because when I grew up, I didn't really show much love. And, it was probably more
a defense mechanism. My father pretty much abandoned us, stopped talking to us. We went
and saw him one summer and he sent us back. He got remarried and didn't want to have anything
to do with us. And, me and my brother and my sister, Elena,
we all felt rejected. And then, I lost my sister, Elena, to suicide. It's just things
that you -- you go through this loss and you think that if you don't love people that somehow
it's going to make you stronger, that they're not going to be able to hurt you and that
is wrong. Here's the thing. Now, that I’m married,
now that I have kids and I realize that giving unconditional love and being more open with
my love. There are so many people out there that need love and want to get it from you.
You've got so many other guy friends, yes, man love between men [Sound effect] that does
not have anything to do with your sexuality. This has to do with you being able to express
to this other guy that has stood by you that maybe you served in the military with or maybe
just one simply went to college, and he was always there to basically get you out of jail
or whatever it may be, he has had your back. Maybe you need to let him know that you love
him and that you care for him. And this is the thing. When you give love,
it's just something that multiplies. It does not make you weak to be a loving person, to
be someone that has the courage to tell somebody whoever it may be that you love them that
you care about them. Oh! And by the way, I love you too.
Now, gents, I know you've got an opinion, so I want to hear from you down in the comments.
What was your favorite part of today's video? What would you have added to this video to
make it better? And by the way, the best comments -- you know,
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