Have you had a good time?
What's this been like for you?
Terrible.
Terrible time?
Oh.
I mean, between beaches, catamarans, pools,
getting to hanging out with you, yeah, I've had zero complaints.
Do you have complaints?
I feel like--
I mean, I know you've really been listening to me,
and I really appreciate that.
And I see that you're, like, being really considerate,
and I really appreciate that.
But today I noticed that you weren't wearing
your ring, which you're, obviously, a really
smart, intelligent guy.
And everybody else is wearing their rings, so it
just-- it hurt my feelings.
It really did.
I understand.
Yeah, I can't make excuses for it.
I can't.
I really can't speak to it.
I just genuinely forget to put on jewelry and-- you know,
and--
But like, that does kind of for a second
make me feel like is he taking this as seriously as I'm
taking it and everybody else?
Right.
Fair.
MINDY: [inaudible]
OK.
So for me from an optimism standpoint, I think we can--
as much as we've hung out and we-- as much time
as we've had in Panama, it feels like it
would be easier in building attraction
when we're back in DC.
It's hard for me to come out and say--
That you haven't felt attraction.
--that I don't know what to do.
Yeah.
And I don't know which direction to go.
And me extending myself to say, help me figure this out.
You know?
And maybe it's not something you can say like,
Zach, let me help you figure out attraction.
No problem.
I got you, Boo.
But it's like--
What do you want me to do? Be like--
I know. I know.
I know. - [inaudible]
Hey, dude, just look in my eyes.
[inaudible]
Get breast implants or something?
Look at-- watch this. All right.
- Like, do you-- - Whoa.
Jeez.
I mean, like, what the [bleep] do you want me to do?
I did not put that on my questionnaire.
What are you doing?
Well, you're asking me what you should do to make
you more attracted to me. - No.
No. No.
I'm not asking to give me an answer to that.
Zach has no idea how he comes off.
I've been trying to give him a chance, but the guy
is a [bleep] [bleep] head.
I don't know.
I'm a little speechless right now.
Thank you.
WAITER: [inaudible] Bon appetit.
Thanks.
I'm like-- I'm not hungry right now.
[phone ringing]
Hello, is this Dr. Viviana?
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): Yes, it is.
Is this Mindy? - Yes.
Hi, how are you?
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): What's going on?
I think he sees problems with me
that he does not like, and I can't pinpoint
them because he hasn't--
attraction.
He said there's no attraction.
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): Do you think that that's the most
important thing to him?
100%.
Attraction is not why we match people.
We match couples for their core values
that will last for a lifetime.
And the fact that Zach doesn't seem
to be exploring these deeper values at this time
is a real problem.
Zach and Mindy will only have a shot
at forming a connection if they are both willing
to give it their all.
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): If this is about
him not initially attracted to you
for whatever reasons, all of that
is something that we have seen and I
have seen in my own practice are things
that we can work through.
OK. Good.
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): I do not
want your stranger spouse to change who you think you are.
Yeah.
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): Your job is to be authentic
and to be true to yourself because when you do that,
things will go well.
OK.
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): Whether
that's with or without him.
OK.
Thank, Dr. Viviana.
VIVIANA COLES (ON PHONE): All right.
Buh-bye.
Bye.
This has been an eye-opening week, I guess.
It's-- yeah, it is what it is.
I think I'm nervous about what to expect next.
Do you feel like we made mistakes doing this?
All this is just such a risk.
In general, it's a huge risk.
It is easy to say it was a mistake going into it.
And I think because we both have pictures
of how we want things to go.
But, I mean, we were both optimistic going into it.
Uh-huh.
It's hard to know if he was genuine in his intentions.
I do wonder sometimes if he actually
wants to go through this process with me
and build something together when we move back to DC.
There is a part of me that feels a little empty
when I'm packing my things because my honeymoon was
disappointing.
My husband barely kissed me on my honeymoon or held my hand.
My husband told me he wasn't attracted to me.
Like, that's not a honeymoon.