Yeah, there actually are five things that you have
that the narcissist doesn't have.
I'm going to tell you what they are in this video.
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Okay.
So what are five things that you actually have that
the narcissist doesn't and wishes that they had.
They so wish that they had that they actually pretend.
That they have that ability
but they don't.
I mean they know how to like pretend.
They actually have the ability
to mirror certain things.
They look to see what other
people are doing sometimes
but they don't actually have that.
They know how to look at and
see what other people are doing,
but they don't actually have th e ability to do it.
So that's number one.
Now, that may not be something
that you think is really,
really great to be able to do.
But honestly having self-awareness
is something that is so powerful
and when you have self-awareness,
you have the ability to grow,
you have the ability to learn,
you have the ability to become a better person.
I mean, part of the reason why there are
like basically toddlers that are stuck in
you know adult bodies is because
they don't have the self-awareness
they don't have the ability to grow
and because you have the ability to say
“hey, I can take responsibility for this.”
“I want to grow.””
“I want to be a better person.”
“I want go to therapy.”
“I want to learn about myself.”
That makes you a better
person that makes you evolve
as a person and because they don't wanna
ever take responsibility and accountability
they don't ever evolved and they are constantly projecting
and deflecting onto other people in and honestly,
it becomes their undoing and so they don't
even see how it becomes their undoing
most of the time and so,
you have that ability.
They don't have that ability
and they don't even see how it becomes their undoing.
That's really, really sad for them.
You know, they don't have the
ability to have that foresight to see.
You know, gosh, if I act this way,
it's, it's going to actually cause my undoing
and you have that ability to see that.
And by the way,
I have a whole video on the undoing of a narcissist
which was part of my breakdown
of that television show,
which you should definitely check out the undoing of a narcissist,
definitely check that out.
It was part of that television show that Hugh Grant was in check that out
because it was really interesting how in that show
he it was a perfect depiction of how he became his own undoing.
So definitely check that out.
It's sad for them.
It's so sad for them
and if you agree just put “so sad!” in the comments.
It's so sad for them.
Okay.
The next one is they don't have
and when you don't have the ability
to give and take in a relationship.
Then you don't have the ability to
received in a relationship.
So what happens is they are
completely and totally empty inside.
They want you to fill this void that they have inside.
You may want to fill it too,
but they can't receive.
So you're left feeling depleted
and yet they're still empty inside
and so that's why you feel like this is energy,
vampires living with you and
yet you're feel totally depleted and they're
still empty because they can't receive.
So, you know, you have this ability to receive love
and I'm sure you're probably an empath yet
they don't have the ability to received.
That is also something that only you have,
but the narcissist doesn’t and I actually have a whole
video on the relationship between the narcissist
and the empath should definitely
check that out as well.
Okay, and the next thing is that the narcissist doesn't have
but they want that they actually do want that,
they crave that I think all human beings want to
feel that connection with other human beings.
You know, we all want to feel connected with others
I think that's part of being a human being
but they don't have the ability to do that.
Again It's very, very sad for them
but you know, you as an empath,
you feel like you can save them
I'm sure, but you cannot.
or the most part they can't be healed.
For the most part the only narcissist that ever
really get that help that they need and really,
really hitting rock bottom and it doesn't happen all that often.
And the last thing is they don't have
which is something that I
touched on a little bit earlier here
but to really truly grow spiritually to
really grow as a sole you have to want
to grow and be ready to experience personal growth
and in order to do that,
you have to be willing to do some introspection.
You have to be willing to say,
“hey, I'm a flawed human being.”
You have to be willing to say,
“I have imperfections”
and narcissist will never do that because
they live in this scarcity mentality.
It's a survival mechanism for them.
They're in survival mode all the time
and when you're in survival mode,
you don't want to ever admit that you have
any imperfections or anything like that
and so to evolve spiritually,
or emotionally is almost impossible
and so, those are the five things
that only you have and then narcissist doesn't
and again, it's very sad for them
but it also makes for a very,
very difficult situation for you to be in relationship
with them whether it's business or personal
It makes it almost impossible
for you to be in relationship with somebody
who's basically in survival mode all the time
and it's almost impossible to negotiate with
somebody who is in survival mode all the time
and that's why you need to negotiate with them in a very,
very specific way.
So that's why if you are
negotiating with them start with my
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