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Are you doing something that might make others dislike you?
I'm sure you're often being told
that you shouldn't care about other's opinions
as long as you're happy with yourself.
However, your mood and emotions
can still be affected by what others think of you,
and that's okay.
After all, we're all social beings
that rely heavily on each other.
We want to be liked and desire approval, appreciation,
and acceptance from others.
With that in mind,
here are six behaviors that can make people dislike you.
Number one.
Sharing too many photos on social media.
Have you ever been on Instagram and felt annoyed
by that one person who floods your feed with pic after pic?
Although sharing photos can be helpful,
while building up an interpersonal relationship,
research has shown that sharing too many photos
can have the opposite effect.
According to a study done by David Hutton,
your real life relationships can be hindered
because people won't relate to you as well
if you're constantly posting photos of yourself.
Additionally, friends might not like it
if you post too many family photos and vice versa.
To avoid hindering your interpersonal relationships,
thinking about how the photos you post
are being perceived by everyone
and being mindful of that when making your posts
would be beneficial.
Number two.
Humblebragging
Imagine this.
Your friend complains to you about how swamped she is
in her newly elected role as Student Body President.
She says that she's so stressed.
In fact, that she's lost 10 pounds
and can even fit into her old jeans from ninth grade.
As a listener,
you translate your friend's series of complaints
and deduce the real meaning behind the brag.
She's proud of her new role
and know she looks better than ever.
This is the art of humblebrag, and it's not attractive.
According to a working paper from Harvard Business School,
they chose the job interview for this study setting.
Independent research assistants
were asked to determine
who they would be more likely to hire.
The results showed
that three quarters of participants humblebraged,
and that the independent research assistants
were more likely to hire the people
who were honest and didn't humblebrag,
and found them to be more likable.
Since humblebragging is a turnoff to most people,
it's advisable to avoid doing it as best you can.
Number three.
Not smiling.
Are you someone who does not usually smile
or finds it hard to keep a smile on
during parties or family get togethers?
If this sounds like you,
you might not be getting approached very much.
A study conducted by the University of Wyoming
found that a smile is very influential
in how likable you are,
even more than having an open body position.
The main reason is that
when other people see you smile, it makes them feel good,
naturally attracting them towards you.
Try to smile whenever you can
and whenever you feel like it.
It'll make you so much more likable,
especially when you're first meeting someone.
Number four.
Constantly criticizing people's choices.
Do you hate I hate when people question your decisions
just because you didn't do it their way?
A study published by the Journal of Consumer Psychology
confirmed that you won't like it
when someone criticizes your own decisions,
making you more prone to disliking them.
You naturally compare yourself to others
and decide to build relationships
based on the similarities and differences you see in them
compared to yourself.
This comparison is magnified
when comparing ethics and morals,
since these are an essential part of your identity.
Therefore, if you're constantly criticizing, judging,
or being closed minded about people's choices,
chances are, they'll not like you
simply because of the disagreement that exists
on a fundamental level.
If they're open to talk to you about their choices,
it would be wise to ask questions,
to understand where they're coming from
and their points of view,
instead of shoving your opinion down their throats.
Number five.
Suppressing or faking your emotions.
Do you have trouble expressing how you truly feel to others?
Do you go along with something you disagree with
just to avoid conflict?
If so, this behavior might cause others to dislike you.
This is because people can tell
when you're being inauthentic.
According to a study by the University of Oregon,
people who suppressed their emotions
were perceived as less agreeable
and more insecure about relationships.
As human beings, we look for people
who are likely to reciprocate our investments.
So, when we detect that someone is hiding their emotions,
we may interpret that as disinterest.
And number six.
Writing a formal email with a smiling emoticon.
Have you ever thought about adding a smiling emoticon
in a work email that you're about to send to your boss?
You might wanna rethink that one.
Research has suggested that,
although smiling in person will make you more likable,
adding smiling emojis can work against you,
especially in a formal setting.
To back this up, a 2017 article
by researchers in Israel and the Netherlands
found that adding smiling emojis in emails
makes you seem less competent.
Giving people the impression that you're not competent
will most likely result in them disliking you
as people tend to gravitate towards people
that they can rely on.
To avoid this, try to maintain a clear separation
between how you write your formal emails
and your casual emails,
while keeping in mind that adding smiling emojis
will not have any real impact on how warm you seem.
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might make others dislike you?
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