We've talked before on this channel about how to stop bedwetting. Today, let's
take it to the teens. How do you stop bedwetting at the age of 14. Quite
frankly, the other videos that I've done here about bedwetting which you can find
in a special playlist here on the channel, were geared toward the parents.
I've talked to a lot of kids who are concerned about this. And for you, as a
teenager, what is it that you can do about this? Honestly, this is the kind of
thing most teenagers don't want to talk much about. Huh, wonder why that is. Let's
just take the shame out of the equation, okay? This happens to a lot of kids. A lot
of people your age are going through this. And there's some things that you
can do that are fairly simple. Now simple and easy aren't the same thing. I want
you to know what's happening first. There are 2 causes for bedwetting.
2. And you have to have both of them in order to have the problem. Number 1, it
has to do with some hormones that are just chemicals in your bloodstream. As
you're growing up, these chemicals do different things for you within your
body. The hormone that we're talking about is called antidiuretic hormone or
ADH, for short. The whole job of this hormone is just to dry you up at night.
And if you don't have enough of it, then you're probably going to have some
problems. Here's the other part of it though. Deep sleeping. I did a doctoral
dissertation on bedwetting and that's the whole question I was looking at. Is
it harder to wake up kids who wet the bed than kids who don't? And guess what I
found out. Yeah! It is harder. Parents will tell you this too and you've probably
noticed this for yourself. Your deep sleeper, aren't you? Yeah, when you
have both things going on, if you don't have enough of the hormone
and if you're a deep sleeper, you're probably going to be a bed wetter.
And we get it from our parents. It's not your fault. You come by and honestly.
So, let's just put the shame aside and realize what's causing this. Now, if you
have enough of the hormone, you'll get dried up enough that you don't have to
get up and go at night anyway. So, there's not a problem. And usually, people grow
into that. I put age 14 on the title of this video because usually by 14, most
kids have grown out of it. Now, is this good news or bad news? If you're still
wetting the bed and you're about 14 years old, you might be a little older,
you might be a little younger. But this is where we expect most kids to be
growing out of it. Now some continue into adulthood. But here's the thing. If you're
around that age, you're probably in a developmental stage that you could get
on top of this and it's going to be a little easier than it would be when you
were younger. So, that's good news. I'll give you some ideas about how to do that
here in just a minute. Go back to the causes for a minute. Let's
say that you don't have enough of the hormone but you're not a deep sleeper.
Well then, you're going tO get the signals coming up. See, you have nerve signals
that come up from your bladder downstairs and knock on your brain. And
they say, "Hey, we got an issue down here." And if you're awake, it's like, "Oh, yeah.
Let's take care of that." So, you go in and take care of business. When you're
sleeping, the nerve signals come up knock on your brain. And it's like nobody's
home because you're like, "Oh. No, don't bother me.
I'm sleeping." And so your brains not answering the knock. Does that make sense
to you? And you sleep right through it. So, the bladder that sent the signals up
from the basement in the first place to knock on your brain, it's like, "Well, we've
still got miss you down here. We'll just take care of it
ourselves if you're not gonna get up and help us with this." And that's when we
have the bedwetting. If your brain would wake up then when it knocks it, it'd be
like, "Oh, yeah. I can help you out." And you're going to go take care of business. So,
both of those things need to be in place for a bedwetting problem to happen. Now,
it used to be that doctors pediatricians or urologists or other people who treat
this would administer some kind of a synthetic hormone. Usually it was a nasal
spray or something that you just take before you go to bed. That medication
would mimic what the hormone was supposed to do in the first place and
dry you up for the night. It doesn't solve the problem. It just cures the
symptom for a night. What if we attack it on this side? And this is the research
that I got into in my dissertation. This is something you can totally do. But it's
going to take some commitment. What if we could train your brain to wake you up
when the knock comes? Then we could take care of the problem, right? Now, your brain
is able to do this but it's going to take some training. I call it conditioning or
habit training. And it's going to take some work to do it. Notice this, if there's
something really important going on, you can wake up for it, right? Like a lot of
times, if your birthday's the next day. You don't have a hard time waking up on
your birthday, why? Because your brain is telling you, "Hey, that's important. Pay
attention to that." There's a little part of your brain that's telling you to
ignore the knob from downstairs. That's the part we want to change and we can
train it to change. I've put together a training program to help you do this.
It's called finallydry.info. Finallydry.info. If you click over to that
site, you're going to find that I'm offering an E-
book that details the whole program. Here's the short version. We want to
train your brain to wake up to the knock. How are we going to do that? One thing
that we're going to do is is going to sound totally counterintuitive to you, this is
not going to make a whole lot of sense. You know how you've tried to restrict fluids?
Not drink anything before you go to bed? Yeah, does it work? Not really because we
still got those two problems going on, Actually in the training program, we're
going to push fluids a little bit. You're going to take a big old drink of water
before you go to bed. Does that sound weird? Here's why? We want that knock to be
as loud as possible on your brain. And after you've taken a big drink of water,
you know you need to go, right? Other times it's like, "Well, do I? I don't
know." No, we want this to be very clear. You're probably going to have some
accidents. That's okay. The training program actually uses an alarm system
that wakes you up and you're going to have to find one of these, okay? There's a lot
on the market. You can go do a search for a bedwetting alarm. I prefer the kind
that's actually installed in some underwear. Because it's closer to the
source. When moisture hits that alarm sensor, it sets off an alarm. Now, you're
also going to need to have somebody on your team. Maybe a parent, maybe somebody who's...
Who you're living with, who is willing to support you and help you. Because at
first, it's not going to wake you up, is it? No. You're going to sleep right through it.
That's what my research showed. Not a problem. As long as you have someone on
your team who can wake you up. What we're going to do is start pairing the alarm
signal with you getting up and taking care of business. and we can back
it up to the point where your brain starts to pick up on the knock first.
It's called classical conditioning and it works. This is a program that can help
you get on top of this once and for all. I hope that you're going to find that
helpful. Go check it out. So, remember the program that I'm sharing with you is
called finallydry. It's a training program to stop bedwetting. I think
you're at an age where this could really help you. Go check it out and let me know
how it goes for you. Good luck with this.