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- Good morning. Good life.
Welcome back to another episode of Wine Wednesday
on Amy TV, where we do not believe in complaining,
but if you're gonna whine, pour me some.
Today's wine is a lovely little prosecco number,
thanks to my friend. Annette.
Annette picked up this bottle for me
'cause she knows how much I love the sec.
Valdo Biaderne.
I am Italian by association only.
I will link to this so you can check it out.
It is really nice.
Yeah, 'cause it's not too sweet,
you gotta make sure you get one that's not too sweet.
We ain't sweeties over here. We prosecco drinkers.
All right, let's get down to it.
What are you procrastinating on right now? Huh?
I know you are. There's something, isn't there something?
Because if you clicked on this video
and you would rather sit in my living room
and have a glass of wine with me,
that means one of two things is true of you.
Number one, you're a very smart human.
I am a great time to hang out with,
or number two,
you are procrastinating on something right now
and you really don't want to do it.
Okay, but before you go super deep on that second one,
'cause it's probably true.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
That's the entire problem with why you're in this situation
in the first place.
I don't know if you've noticed,
but procrastination is probably
one of the most relatable issues among humans.
We're all dealing with it and we're all dragging ourselves
through the mud, making us feel like crap,
guilt tripping until the end of time
instead of actually just doing the thing that we need to do.
Not only that we're probably procrastinating
on more than just one thing.
There's probably multiple things throughout the course
of your day that you decide not to do
and you try to find some other way to avoid it
and therefore drag yourself down this hole
of making yourself feel bad about it
multiple times per day,
every time you choose to procrastinate.
Nobody needs to get beaten up that often.
So let's stop beating ourselves up throughout the day.
Hit the like button if you agree with the fact
that you do make yourself feel really bad,
give yourself a much harder time
when you're procrastinating on something,
even if that thing you're procrastinating on,
one of the many things throughout the day,
is not a make or break situation.
By the way, hitting the like button
doesn't mean that you like that it's happening.
It just means that you like the video
and you care about us hanging out together more often.
'Cause that's what happens with the YouTube algorithm
when you hit the like button.
Okay, so let's talk about this.
How do we overcome procrastination
instead of just continuing to whine about it?
Think about one thing
that you're procrastinating on right now.
Okay, you've got that thing in your head? You got it?
Now think of another thing
that you're procrastinating on right now.
I know there's something else.
Now with those two things,
are they similar or are they completely different
in totally different departments of your life?
Okay. Now think of another thing,
a third thing that you're procrastinating on right now.
Now look at all of them, continue to assess,
are they all in the same area of your life? Are they not?
What's going on here?
When you think of the word procrastination
at any moment of your life,
you're probably thinking about one big thing
that you're like, ugh, I gotta do that,
and you just really don't want to,
but the reality is there are quite a few things
in our lives that we procrastinate on.
And that's because you can't do everything all the time,
right on time at one time,
big things, little things,
different departments, same department.
It doesn't actually matter.
My point is that you have many things
that you're procrastinating on all the time
and then we're not actually solving
for getting one thing done
or getting a particular thing done.
We're solving for the fact that things
go undone for longer than we probably want them to.
You are not productive.
You practice productivity,
just like you are not a procrastinator,
you practice procrastination.
So how do you break that habit?
Well, the same way that you would break any habit,
you've got to recognize the triggers
and then change the response to those triggers
to get a result that you want.
Now, what are the triggers?
That's really the heart of this here.
What are the things that are causing you to procrastinate?
Because the habit is when this happens,
I don't do the things I got to do.
Probably pretty easy to recognize those.
They can be called these grand words,
like overwhelm or stress or depression.
So these triggers go off
and you choose a response and your typical response
might be something like binge watching a television show
and then suddenly you're binge and binge and binge
and you get your episodes in.
And you're like, okay, I guess that's it.
The entire series is over.
And then when you're done, you go, wow.
I feel like crap again.
Except for now it's compounding even worse
because I didn't do the thing I was supposed to do
that whole time, I spent it on this
and now I should make myself feel worse about it.
If you want to break that cycle, self awareness is key.
If you know what your typical response is
to one of these big triggers,
feeling like you're stressed out or whatever,
next time you do that thing,
instead of just allowing it to happen,
sit and go, okay, why am I binging the show right now?
Maybe it's because you got all your work done,
it's the weekend and woo hoo, let's party and chill.
But also it could be that you are putting something off
because of underlying feelings that you're trying to ignore.
Why am I doing this right now?
I must be overwhelmed or something is going on
that is keeping me from choosing something better than this.
Just acknowledge it.
You don't have to get even more upset about it.
You've just got to acknowledge the fact that it's happening
and now you see it.
And because you see it, you cannot un-know that anymore.
You now know that when that's happening,
there's something that you can do differently about it.
The key moment is that decision.
It's making that decision to say,
I'm going to at least try something else
because even if that's something else fails,
I tried and I started moving in the right direction
without that reroute, or at least an attempt at a reroute,
you are going to be so far off from breaking that habit.
Action is the only thing that will add up to breaking it.
So at that moment, when you're choosing something else,
you have to start,
you have to get started with something
that is different from your typical response
so that you can start to change what your typical habit is.
I said, start, I didn't say finish.
Simply by starting, you are going to give yourself
the ability to change your mind about the task.
It may not happen.
It still may be kind of crappy, but just by starting,
just telling yourself that you're going to get
to a tiny milestone,
you are allowing that potential to happen.
And by the way, your feelings are probably
a whole lot bigger than the actual act of doing the task,
which is why we never start the task.
But by simply starting doing a little bit,
you start to think about, okay, well,
this isn't nearly as bad as it had blown up in my mind.
If you do nothing else, when you have that trigger,
you change your response,
do just five to 10 minutes of activity
on that piece of work.
I recommend starting on the thing
you got to do that you've been putting off
for at least five minutes so that you can feel the progress
that you've made and stop letting it be unknown
of what it will be like to get this thing done.
The science actually says that for everyone
who actually starts,
80% of people will finish.
Just by saying I'm gonna spend five minutes on this.
There is a really, really high potential
that you could finish the job
because you started it and you just kept going.
Now if we're talking about a term paper
or your dissertation,
that's probably not going to be the case for you,
but for a lot of people,
we're not talking about such grand work.
We're talking about something really small.
So even if your thing isn't finishable,
when you spend five minutes on it,
or it's not even something you can technically start,
but the five minutes you spend on it
are researching it or just doing anything
that's in the realm of possibility to contribute
toward completing that goal,
that is absolutely better than the alternative.
You know the alternative really well, don't you?
And that is it.
Procrastination overcome.
If you are done procrastinating in your life
and you want to follow your passion
and build a business that will take you there,
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And I would love to see you join us
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The link will be in the description below.
Question of the day, what is your trigger?
What's the typical response that you have
when you're feeling a little depressed
and you definitely don't want to work on the thing
that you've got to do.
What's your procrastination technique
and what are you going to do next time
to hopefully make a change?
Leave that in the comments down below.
That's all for today. Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it as always.
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Kiss the ones you love.
And go after the life you want. Cheers.
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where I always seem to forget how loud it is outside.
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Oh my God. My quarantine nails are (groaning) not good.
Good morning. Good life.
Welcome back to another episode.
Oh my God, I forgot to turn the lights on again.
No wonder I'm like what's going on with the lighting.
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It's a little hot, little hot.
You're hot. I'm hot.
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We're just talking about overcoming the pro
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What is your trigger? What,
oh, I should probably say question of the day, my bad.
Why did the air come back on? (laughing)