- You might be wondering how someone else feels about you
if you're watching this.
And in this video,
I'm gonna show you the five ways
to actually spot their current feelings for you.
This will help you understand the energy dynamic better.
This will help understand whether you're investing your time
into the right things and to the right person,
and whether or not you should continue to do
or be the way you are understanding how they feel.
Now, the first thing to understand about love
and about this type of, about interpersonal dynamics,
is simply that how you feel about you is projected out
and other people are picking up on that.
Now, sometimes what we have a tendency to do
is to tune ourselves to other people,
trying to get safety or trying to get validation
of how they're feeling.
Now, in some ways, this can be good,
because you don't necessarily want to waste your time,
investing your energy into somebody
that maybe isn't investing their energy back into you.
And in many ways,
this is something that we naturally do subconsciously,
whether aware of it or not.
So I know for myself, in this process,
it was sometimes very obvious how people felt about me,
but I wasn't able to see it
because I had a low sense of self-worth.
So even though somebody may have been either flirting
with me or wanting me to go to the next level with them,
or to go more intimate,
it was like I wasn't able to pick up on the signs
to actually see that because there was a belief
that I had about myself
that there's like no way somebody would want to be with me,
or want to have that kind of relationship with me.
It was an interesting dynamic.
But I've learned a lot over the last couple years.
And that's a lot what I wanna share in this video with you.
So the first thing
and the first way to spot someone else's feelings for you
is understanding that their actions
sometimes speak louder than words.
So the question is, how are they showing up for you?
Are they there for you?
Do they wanna spend time with you?
And how do they interact with you?
So actions speak louder than words a lot of times.
So our vibration or our personality
is made up of how we think, feel, and act.
So one way that a lot of times people express their emotion
and how they feel is through the actions they take.
You'll find that these three things many times blend
into each other.
So if this is somebody that does even small,
little things sometimes, like opens up the door for you,
or asks you how your day was.
If they text you in the morning,
then they're obviously thinking about you when they wake up.
And if they don't text you in the morning,
it doesn't mean that they're necessarily
not thinking about you, but it might mean that they,
you know, but actions is a part of that,
so we're sticking to actions right now.
There's other subtleties here that we'll talk about
in a minute.
So in general, people also,
you can tell how they feel based on also
when you're in relation to them,
in physical proximity of them, when you're around them,
you can tell how they feel
by the way they also position their own body language.
You'll notice that people that have,
sometimes people might be kind of closed off like this.
That's a certain body language.
Normally that's more closed off
and kind of like a block energetically.
When people are more open,
a lot of times their heart might be open.
They may face themselves towards you
when you're talking to them,
when you're having conversations with them.
It's normally a good sign.
It means they're open, they're receptive.
So the first sign has to do with their actions,
how they're showing up, if they're texting you.
Gauge the energy based on actually what you are seeing
and what you're experiencing.
Now, in some ways, I say this, and then there's a tendency,
because mostly the thing that I had to learn
is how to not tune myself
to every single thing someone else was doing.
Because one, that decreased sexual polarity,
because then I was like molding myself based on
what I thought someone else wanted me to be
and based on someone else's emotions.
And one thing I had to learn to do is how to be safe
in my own frame, safe in my own body,
and not need to constantly understand
where somebody else is at in order for me to feel safe.
Now, this was a game changer for me when I learned this,
because then I learned that I could lead in the energy.
I could lead in the energy and like express how I felt,
and then that would allow someone else to feel safe
and then to understand that they could express that too,
which is interesting and not enough talked about,
but this is a part of this process of opening up
and understanding emotional availability.
Because sometimes if we're having trouble
to gauge somebody else's emotions,
maybe we had trouble gauging our own parents' emotions
when we were kids,
and it feels familiar for us to like tune to somebody else.
So that's the first way
to spot their current feelings for you,
with how they're showing out.
Now, the second thing is very simple,
and sometimes as somebody that may have clicked
on this video or someone
that can feel other people's energies,
what we call an empath,
they may completely discount this, but it is so simple.
You could simply ask someone and say,
"How do you feel about me?"
If this is the ongoing of a relationship, you just say like,
"How's everything feeling to you?
How do you feel?"
You can ask somebody how they're feeling.
You can be vulnerable.
Remember, leading with vulnerability
is one of the most attractive things
that's also very underused in today's society.
Because a lot of times there's this like projection
that I have to pretend to be someone I'm not,
or a certain way so that I'll be accepted.
But when you are the most vulnerable you,
you will find it is not only attractive,
but it's refreshing,
because it is so much more rare than it used to be.
So you could, as a stretch maybe for you,
maybe it's a a part of you that does this
that's like afraid to do this,
but you could literally be dating someone,
go on a date with someone, and even ask somebody.
Maybe you go out with somebody that you like,
you have a crush on and you have feelings for them,
and you're wondering how they feel about you,
and you could literally ask them,
or express how you're feeling.
Vulnerability is very attractive.
And, yes, there is a slight,
there is a possibility that you could express it
and they could not be receptive,
but understand that you can really only reject yourself.
So if they, quote, unquote, reject you,
then realize it's just not a fit.
It's not something that you need to internalize as like,
"I'm not good enough."
And a lot of times, people pleasers,
or people that are empaths,
they tune themselves to other people
and they're afraid of abandonment,
they're afraid of rejection.
So they don't almost make their emotions clear
because they're afraid
that they're gonna get rejected or abandoned.
So be vulnerable.
Maybe ask somebody or tell somebody,
"Listen, I have feelings for you and I wanna."
That was something that I eventually had to learn to do,
is to express myself from the very beginning.
The earlier you do this, the best.
Don't be afraid to show your intent,
or don't be afraid to show your true,
yeah, your true intentions.
Don't hide them, it's not healthy.
And also, it's encouraging someone else
to hide their true intentions.
But you'll find that a lot of times,
when you lead with vulnerability, you get met with that.
They will be vulnerable back with you.
And then you save your time,
because if they're not interested,
or maybe they're not interested at first,
but then they realize, "Oh, this person actually likes me.
Maybe this is a potential.
Maybe this is an option,"
but that decision is being prolonged
as long as it's not something that's not even aware
in the communication.
Now, the third sign and third way
to spot someone's feelings for you
is that they value your opinion,
or they value how you're feeling
and they actually listen to you.
Sometimes a common personality that you might engage with
is somebody that's completely full of themselves
and completely narcissistic.
They only care about what they have to say.
I know people that I've met before
and they may talk for like hours and hours.
Like they may talk 20, 30 minutes about themselves
and never ask one question.
That conversation never gets shot back once.
And that's because some people may have the,
they may not have space, energetic space for you.
And that's something to become aware of.
If they actually have feelings for you,
then they will listen to you.
They will be able to hold space for you.
And it's something to become aware of
now that someone is genuinely interested in you,
because also, here's the kicker.
They're generally interested in you
because you are generally interested in yourself,
not in narcissistic way,
but like do you believe that you're interesting?
Do you believe that you're worthy?
Do you believe you deserve love?
These are all things that will reflect back to you
through the people that you date.
But if you don't believe you're worthy,
if you don't believe you're interesting,
then that will be emanated through your own body language.
They will feel that and maybe not reflect that back to you,
reflect whatever that belief is back to you.
So this is something to become aware of too,
is the stories you're telling yourself about who you are
and how you show up in the world.
Now, the fourth sign and the fourth way
to spot their current feelings for you has to do with
how they are energetically intertwining,
or like engaging with you
when it comes to the energy.
Do they smile? Are they flirting?
Are they touching you?
This is something that, once again,
you can gauge based on how you do it and you lead with them.
What you could do is you could smile to them.
You could flirt with them.
You could joke around with them.
You could have a light sense of humor with them.
And then you could see and gauge
and see how they are receptive.
People are generally geared to mirror back the energy
that we're putting out.
But if we're very serious,
that was the thing that I had trouble doing.
When I first was like dating someone,
was showing my actual intent
and flirting with them, touching them.
I feel like growing up,
I wasn't primed to having like a lot of nurturing
and someone always holding me or nurturing me,
so it was like touching also was a bad thing
at a certain period of my life because of my ex stepmom.
So from seven to 15 years old,
if you were touched, you were hit.
So it wasn't a good thing.
I had to learn, though, when dating,
I had to become comfortable with, one, being touched.
And it was something I always craved,
but it was something that always kind of felt.
I think there was like a subconscious thing there.
But one thing you could do is, in a flirtatious way,
not in a creepy way,
you could put your hand and see if it is reciprocated,
kind of test the waters in a way,
but also testing the waters
because you wanna express yourself in a healthy way,
not in a creepy way.
So smile, flirting.
Another thing that they may do is respect boundaries.
When we talk about the narcissism
like we were a minute ago,
someone that just talks about themselves
and only cares about themself,
if you were to say no to something, do they gaslight you,
or do they get mad?
Or if they say no to you, do you feel rejected?
Because that's something to become aware of.
Respecting boundaries is something that you do
when you really care and value someone in a healthy way.
That means you don't try to talk them into things
that they maybe don't wanna do.
You don't try to talk to them to hang out with you
when maybe they have other plans.
You don't guilt trip them into hanging out with you.
So respect their boundaries
and then they will respect your boundaries as well.
So that's something that also will kind of gauge
how they feel and whether they're also secure
in their own relationship with themselves.
Now, another way that they may,
the fifth way that you could spot their current feelings
about you is they may talk to their friends about you,
talk to their family about you.
And that expresses that they are,
in a way, connected to you,
and they're almost proud of it in a way.
That is something else that will show them.
And you could also even express to them,
if you're trying to gauge it, if you were to tell them,
tell your friends or family about someone that you're dating
or somebody that you're with,
and it wouldn't be extremely weird
if like you told your friends about like if.
But the the key to this is if you actually have feelings
for them to actually express to them
that you have feelings for them.
So being and leading in this way
will save you a lot of time.
Whether they're interested in you or not,
you'll at least know one way or the other,
or you'll at least plant the seed
to them have the opportunity
to reflect that energy back to you.
So these are all things that help gauge
where somebody else is at.
Now, something I'm doing as well to help understand more
of these kind of dynamics is I send my top epiphanies,
my high five thoughts of the week,
I send two or three text messages a week.
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and you live in the US or Canada,
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I'll be answering questions,
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That'll take you so that you can add me to your phone.
So I look forward to that.
And then also, there's a video right here,
which is the three magnetic secrets
that make you irresistible.
It's one of my most popular videos.
Watch this to take this concepts to the next level.
In this video, I'm gonna show you the three things
that magnetic people do to pull you in energetically.
I'm gonna show you how you can adopt them in your life,
and how by the end of this video.