Hey there, this is Clay and today I want to answer a question that we got in.
How do you get your ex back when you are the one who dumped them?
Okay, so a lot of people who find themselves in his whole situation where they want to
get back together with her ex or actually the dumpees, the person who was dumped by
someone else.
But what do you do if you are the person who had dumped your ex and you had a change of
heart and you decide that you wanted to get them back.
So what do you do then?
Okay, so the main thing you have to do here is to show your ex that your opinion of them
has changed, okay?
That you are fully accepting of them the way that they are.
Okay?
Because when you dump someone else, you are creating two twin emotions, okay?
In them, you are creating a feeling of rejection, okay?
They feel rejected.
They feel like they're going through a lot of pain.
You know, you probably are feeling pain as well too.
But, you know, they feel pain from being rejected.
This relationship that they thought was, you know, going to be the bedrock that they could
build a life on is suddenly gone and they feel rejected.
They feel hurt, they feel like they're not good enough.
All that stuff.
And you know, the, the other emotion in which you probably are feeling is a sense of maybe
guilt maybe that, you know, you, are causing pain to this other person because I'm sure
you don't want to think of yourself as the kind of person who goes out there and is,
you know, hurting other people intentionally.
Unless you're an internet youtube troll.
I got my eye on you anyway.
So you know, what you need to do is you need to really welcome them back.
Okay?
You need to let them know that they are okay as they are, that you accept them as they
are, that you are willing to embrace them as they are.
Now it's not like you have to go out there and say hello, I accept you as you are and
you know, text that to them or anything, but the, all you need to do is through your interactions,
through your words and deeds, you need to really let them know that it's okay for them
to be themselves around you.
It's okay for them to be who they are and that you really love and accept them for the
person that they are.
And you know, there's no like, Ninja script or anything that you can say that's going
to do this.
It's just going to have to be what you live.
Okay.
You know, once you can cultivate this ability within yourself, it's just going to.
I'm really gonna really bring itself up in many, many, many different opportunities as
you interact with your ex, as you talk with them, as you know, the two of you have your
own unique situations that come up.
I go, hey, I got a raise at work, or I got fired.
Or just you can bring that empathy, bring that understanding, bring that acceptance,
bring that love of whatever flavor they are at in their life to them, and that's what's
going to get them to start to feel a little bit more opened up again.
Now they might be a little bit shy about, about, you know, wanting to get back together
with you because maybe you did hurt them before, so it might be a little bit, you know, usually
I don't recommend this, but because you are the one who dumped them, it's important for,
for them to know that, that you're sort of open to the idea of getting back together
again.
That you're open to that again.
Now I'm not saying that you need to like go out there and, you know, it'd be like, yes,
let's get back together.
I want to get back together with you.
Let's do it right now.
But, you know, just just be sure you let them know that you find them attractive.
Be sure to let them know that you enjoy spending time with them.
And just other things like that to, again, just reassure them that you are accepting
of them as they are and you know, that's just a great first beginning step.
But beyond that, you know, everything else that we talk about in the other videos and
I'm over at relationshipinnergame.com still totally applies.
Obviously what, what I just talked about that really hinges on getting some of those advanced
relational skills down solid and getting those to the point where you can really bring that
openness and understanding and acceptance and empathy to them.
Okay.
So that's really what I'd recommend for you.
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So thanks