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Good morning, good life.
Welcome back to AmyTV, where we come together
to help you go after the life you want,
and we are back finally for an episode of AmyTV Book Club.
You might remember that typically, I would do
a little advanced notice announcement for AmyTV Book Club
to my Instagram and to my community tab on YouTube
to let you know what I'm reading
so that you can read along with me,
and then we have these little Book Clubs together
just like any other book club would.
But, because I'm reading so many books
in so many different ways and formats all the time,
I just found it was really hard to pick just one,
and I wanted to be able to go with the one in my gut
that was gonna resonate with you
the most once I had read it.
So turns out, probably better for me
to make the video about it if I've already read it.
So sorry, no advanced notice anymore,
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If you are familiar with my reading process,
I've actually done a video about this
called How I Read A Book, and in that video,
I talk about the three major stages
of reading a book when I take one in,
especially one that is really resonating with me.
So I'm gonna take you through those three stages
and what they were like for me,
for the book I am featuring today.
The one I'm featuring today is actually,
(Amy laughs) this is gonna get fun.
It is actually a return appearance.
Originally, I talked about this book in 2014.
I've probably talked about it since then.
I know I talked about it in 2018
as a combination of other recommendations that I made,
but this book is so tried and true,
I need you to see how enthusiastic I was about it,
math, six years ago. (Amy laughs)
The book I'm gonna share with you today
and the book that completely changed my life
as an introvert, especially as an introvert in business
and as a businesswoman overall,
is Keith Ferrazzi's Never Eat Alone.
It's see what my initial take was on it.
I've definitely heard about this book before,
and I thought, "Orange, great title, gotta read it."
I am so glad I did.
I just finished it this weekend,
and if it weren't for travel and holidays,
I would not have put it down.
Never Eat Alone and Other Secrets to Success,
One Relationship at a Time is a book by Keith Ferrazzi,
and I truly believe is the Bible to networking.
Well, that was a different time.
(Amy laughs)
But honestly, I remember reading it for the first time
and thinking, "Oh my gosh, this is such a good book,"
and ever since then,
I have picked up Never Eat Alone every single year,
for more of a reminder read.
So I've already done that in 2020,
and that's why I'm presenting it to you
as the first book of the year for 2020.
What is the first stage of reading a book?
Well, it's the reading stage.
During the reading stage,
I decide how I'm going to read a book,
and usually this has ore to do with format than anything.
If I feel like something is going to be an easy listen,
but not something I need to hunker down and really take in,
I'm gonna throw it on Audible,
and this is often the case with my re-reads.
So that's what I did for Never Eat Alone.
The other options are of course to read on Kindle,
which I love to do because you can do
digital highlighting and note-taking in that way.
I also just love to sit down with a solid book,
and I actually have a copy of Never Eat Alone as well,
because it's so loud.
Look at how orange it is. (Amy laughs)
It's making me look very pale.
It's like, "Get out of my shot, man."
So it kinda depends on the book.
In this particular case, because I read it every year,
and actually now, I wanna make sure that I read
the updated version, the first version that I ever read,
and this version I have here,
is the first one that he published.
So if you wanna read about PalmPilots,
pick it up. (Amy laughs)
If you don't know what a PalmPilot is, that's okay.
Nobody uses them anymore.
But, he has completely updated the book,
and I highly recommend it on Audible.
So of course, in reading the book,
I have just been tuning in whenever I'm cooking
or cleaning or commuting, lots of C's there.
Definitely some plane ride listening.
I love to have Audible on in the background,
especially this one where I remember so many of the stories,
and I love the reminders that he gives me,
but I'm not hearing them for the first time,
so I can just get the reminders
a little bit more passively as I'm doing other things.
Really great for January.
You know January's very busy.
We are on it with our habits.
We are doing all the things.
And so, listening to books
while multi-tasking, pro-tip, fantastic.
The second stage of reading for me is the download stage.
Basically, going back, looking through all my notes,
all the things I was excited about,
all the things that I wrote down in my journal,
anything that was just like, "Whoa, yes,"
aha moment, really exciting stuff.
I'm trying to retake that in
and really find the continuing thread
of what my biggest lessons were from this book.
I don't have an entirely huge download from this book
reading it for the, what is it, the sixth time now?
Essentially, I just feeling like there's one main theme
I want you to take away from my review of it again
and why you shouldn't pick it up if you haven't yet.
Networking has been given this really nasty connotation.
It bugs me, because it's like, "We need a word
"that replaces the word networking!"
What can it be, because it like, everyone thinks
that networking is scary, it's weird,
it's only what people do when they're dishing out
business cards, and that's not true.
If you're really, really good at networking,
you have mastered what it means to be generous with people
so that that will maybe pay you back in another way,
but really focusing on delivering first.
That resonates with me, because I'm an introvert.
I would much rather stay home.
I don't wanna go anywhere.
I don't wanna go shaking hands and kissing babies.
I just wanna deliver in the best way that I can,
and that doesn't always take shape by me going out
and actually one-on-one meeting people.
Now, that being said, one-on-one meetings
are super important, but they don't have to be cold,
and they don't have to be weird or in contexts
that aren't familiar to us, and I think that's the thing
that he delivers so well in this book,
is that there are ways for you to reach out to people,
to be a little bit more fearless and confident
in the ability that you have to bring value to someone.
It's just all about how you present it to them,
so that maybe somebody you actually want to get to know
will want to get to know you back.
One of my favorite things, actionable,
that he talks about in the book is dinner parties.
This is on my list of 20 for 2020,
because I just did a terrible job of it last year.
I just did not make the time.
We want to be able to host most people in our home,
me and Vin, and just get to know them better,
whether they are business colleagues,
or whether they're just our friends
and intermingling new friends.
Making those connections, being that connector,
is hugely advantageous, because A, hello, happiness!
Being around people, even if you're introverted,
the act of it can be difficult
but the actual result of it, those relationships,
they make us feel better, more confident in who we are.
So regardless of the reason we would have
those dinner parties, I just liked his take on it
and how he's very particular
about how intimate that they are
so he's making the right introductions accordingly.
I also think he has such an amazing approach to the email.
It's really easy to just say, "Oh, okay,
"I'm just gonna take a chance.
"I'm gonna send this email to somebody
"and see if they reply," and then if they don't,
the second or the third time, you think you failed,
and that this doesn't work, but in all actuality,
we're not getting outside of ourselves
to think about what would actually sound interesting
and valuable to someone.
Also, emails are annoying!
Do it a lot quicker, okay?
Nobody needs your life story.
There's a great example in there
where I think he had an assistant
who, I think, I don't know how I don't have this memorized,
who it was in his life that this was,
but somebody who would always read their emails out loud
and in a very conversational tone to make sure
it kind of sounded in a conversational tone,
because text can be received in so many different ways,
but also to make sure
that it didn't take longer than 45 seconds.
That is genius.
If your email takes longer than a minute to read,
and I had to scroll to see all of it, don't bother me.
I don't know about you,
but emails are not my favorite thing.
That being said, they're very efficient.
It's really easy to keep up with stuff with email,
but if you get too long-winded and crazy,
it's less likely to get a reply right away.
We've all made that excuse, like,
"Oh, I'm gonna check that later,
"because I'm gonna give it its undivided attention."
If you want someone to keep saying that about your email,
then keep doing what you're doing.
But if you would rather somebody go,
"Oh, this is easy, this is a quick reply,
"I can just get to this right now," you are opening up
the opportunity for a conversation to start potentially
with somebody who doesn't necessarily have to reply.
Such good advice.
That's just a couple of things.
There are so many things in this book.
I would go on and on about it.
I've talked about this book ad nauseam
for now five, six years, whatever it is,
and I just wanna make sure
year after year that you have read it.
I highly recommend the updated version on Audible,
and there's so much to take away from it.
The final stage of reading for me is the execution stage,
and this is when something matters to me so much
that I will take at least one piece of advice in the book
and make sure that I am working toward a plan
or immediately implementing a plan to do something
that was talked about in the book
to make a change in my life.
Fortunately for me,
I kind of already picked it with my 20 for 2020,
with the dinner parties and things like that,
but also, I've been sort of working on,
and maybe we can talk about this later.
It's sort of still in the works right now.
I have a daily, what I call socialite plan
that I still with, and it is different things
that I do every day
to make sure I have touchpoints with lots of people.
So not just going into my DMs and comments
and replying to an audience of people,
but real personal connections, sending thank you notes,
replying to somebody's email, sending somebody
a text message I haven't talked to in numbers of years.
I have a process I actually go through every day
that helps me make sure I keep relationships fresh
in my life and in my business.
I think there were just some things in here
that I might tweak a little bit in that process,
add on in that process.
It's really easy to let this process get way too big,
and then it's overwhelming, and you don't do any of it,
and then instead of reaching out to your goal
of five to 10 people, you reached out to zero.
So you gotta be really careful with it.
But it's so important to continue to build relationships,
and for me, it's very easy to stay behind the computer,
be on the hamster wheel, get all this stuff done,
but not actually reach out to the people that I've worked
so hard to travel to see and make those connections.
It's all about the follow-up.
Keith talks about this so much in the book.
It is all about the follow-up.
This is typically where people go wrong.
They make the initial conversation happen,
but then they don't do anything about it afterward.
They don't keep it going.
You don't have to talk to somebody every day
for the to know who you are,
but what are you doing to make sure they know who you are?
She's so passionate, oh my God.
(Amy laughs)
Okay, don't lie.
Tell me what you think networking really means
in the comments below,
and what do you think the new word should be?
Like, what does it mean to truly connect with people
in a way that is not sleazy and gross?
Do we need a new word, do we not?
What do you think?
Share that in the comments below.
And if you wanna go the extra mile,
make sure you subscribe to this channel,
because someday, we'll have Keith on the show.
(Amy laughs)
Actually, let's do this.
I will put a tweet in the description for you to go and,
or you can just, whatever you do
on your social media platform of choice.
Go tell Keith to come on the podcast.
I think that would be such a good conversation.
Clearly I'm a big fan.
And if you guys wanna know more about this
and any more tips that he has,
maybe we can make that happen.
That's all for today.
Thank you so much so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it.
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