There are a few things that I guarantee you're doing every single day.
I'm going to be explaining them right now because we got to break you out of these bad
habits.
What's happening is you're doing these things over and over again.
That's what a habit is.
It is completely murdering your confidence.
I want to break these.
I want to help you break these and get you to the point where you can become more comfortable
in front of women, more confident in front of women.
Most importantly, become more confident in yourself.
Here's what's going on.
Here's what you're doing.
One thing you're doing is you're looking at things from an emotional perspective, and
not at logical perspective.
I bring this up a lot when I'm talking about achieving goals, when people are trying to
achieve something.
Anything you're trying to achieve in life is probably somewhat challenging.
The reason why it's challenging is because you're looking at it from an emotional standpoint.
You get down on yourself.
You say all these negative things to yourself.
You let sadness, anxiety, depression, or anger take over.
It's completely normal to have an emotional response, but it's what you do with that emotional
response that matters.
If you let the emotional response take over, your confidence is going to sink.
You're not going to be able to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve.
If you look at it from a logical perspective, and you say, this thing didn't work as you're
trying to achieve something.
Say in this case, let's say you're going over and approaching a woman, she rejects you,
or something happens where you feel embarrassed, you can look at that from an emotional standpoint
and be down on yourself.
Be really upset and say, I suck and then it takes you another two weeks to approach another
girl.
As we know, that's not going to work.
That's not gonna help you build your confidence.
What you want to do is look at it from a logical standpoint.
Look at it from a very unbiased standpoint and say to yourself, it didn’t work out,
it wasn't exactly what I was hoping for, what can I do better?
You look at things from a feedback loop.
Get feedback from it, not emotional feedback.
With feedback in terms of how you can do better.
Think about looking at it in a neutral way.
This can go by the way, with anything in your life, it's very easy for us to get down very
fast when something goes wrong.
Instead, look at it from a logical standpoint, and see what you can do better for the next
time.
I always bring this up, I'm going to continue to bring this up.
You got to be resilient.
If you're going to be resilient, you're going to be able to get up faster from something.
It's going to be you practicing looking at things from a logical standpoint.
The next habit that we all do, guilty over here, is you're seeking external validation.
I was talking about this actually in a few videos ago, talking about someone always seeking
external validation, seeking compliments, seeking rewards, seeking something outside
of yourself.
A lot of guys, and this is a big downfall, when they're trying to meet women, is when
they go up to woman, do an approach and talk to somebody, they are waiting for the feedback
or the response from the woman.
If she seems distraught, they're going to be distraught.
If they see that the woman is really not interested, they're going to feel rejected.
What's happening here is you are looking for external validation.
You're waiting for her to say, I'm happy that you're talking to me.
The reality is, it takes a little bit for you to go over and feel comfortable when you
guys have a conversation.
That's going to actually pan out to something.
Make sure that when you're doing an approach, or again, anything else in your life, you're
not looking for external validation.
It's got to be you, on your path, on your purpose, focusing on yourself, internally
validating yourself and then combined with the last one, looking at things from a logical
perspective so you can keep moving forward.
I'm going to give you an example right now and it relates to this actual YouTube video
and other YouTube videos I've made in terms of seeking validation.
I could go in the comments and I can read the comments.
I can see that some people liked the video and there's other people who don't liked the
video.
Some people will thumbs up, some people will thumbs it down.
If I were to rely on external validation, I would be reading these comments and looking
at the thumbs up, thumbs down, the like and not like it, and I'd be reacting to that.
That could either bring me up or bring me down, whatever the case may be.
That doesn't do anything for me.
What matters is, I believe in the information that I'm giving you.
I'm confident in what I'm doing.
Think about that where pertains to your life.
Where in your life are you looking outside of yourself for some sort of review or performance
review?
You got to make sure that you know that you're doing it right and you feel like you're doing
a good job.
That's the most important.
Here's another habit that is completely killing your confidence.
You are not abiding by the three second rule.
You know the three second rule?
I'm going to tell you right now.
The three second rule is you being able to within three seconds or less, go over and
talk to the girl that you're interested in.
If you have any interest in going out and meeting women in person, you need to abide
by this rule.
What a lot of guys do, and a lot of my coaching clients do, is they mess this up.
They wait too long to approach the girl.
They get in their head and they don't end up doing it.
That pattern repeats over and over till they're kicking themselves in the butt and they're
down on themselves.
They're like, I can't do it.
You gotta break this habit.
Whenever you see a girl that you want to talk to, practice going over to her right away,
saying anything that comes to mind.
Obviously, not creepy, but just going over there and saying at the very least hi.
That is going to be better than not doing it at all.
It's going to be exponentially harder to go over and approach a woman if you don't do
it within three seconds.
Try this out.
What I've just mentioned here is stuff that I talked about in my coaching program, especially
the three second rule where I help you go over, talk to girls, meet girls, attract girls.
If you need help with that, if you feel that you're struggling with any of the things that
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