- In this video, I will share with you five ways
on how he will try to bait you
into chasing him. (gentle music)
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So, without further ado,
how do men try to get us chasing them?
Strategy number one, and this is very subtle one.
And it's kind of like, I would say,
a guy is testing waters to see what he can get away with
and, in a way, what type of girl you are as well.
So, what he might do in the beginning of dating,
if you guys live in different town or cities
or perhaps just, let's say you live in London
and you live in different parts of London.
Let's say you live in south and he lives in north.
And he says, oh, you know, like,
"Why don't you come over?"
Or, "Why don't we meet here in my area?"
And then he gives me name of a restaurant in his area.
Or perhaps, you live in different towns and he says,
"Why don't you come here in my area?
And then we can go and I'll take you out
and you can stay over or we can go to the cinema,
or we can go to this restaurant
or we can go to the concert", right?
So basically, he is asking you out,
he's being a "gent", but he's also in a subtle way
trying to get it his way, that you would come to him.
So, in a way, it can be looked at as a test.
Ladies, don't do that,
especially in the first stages of dating.
Do not go to him because it is a form of chasing.
You doing that, it's still, like, masculine energy.
You're still going after a man
as you are putting all this effort, right?
A guy should be climbing over the mountains
and swimming over the seas and coming down to see you.
A man is the one that finds his wife.
Therefore, to this,
I personally would reply something really silly,
and this actually has worked for me before,
and I'll share it with you.
However, this message doesn't work with every single guy.
But you can, you know,
create something similar like that yourself.
When you're creating a message yourself,
make sure that you put your mark on it
so he can feel your character, your personality.
So, I would say something like,
"Mm, you know, my mommy told me that, you know,
it's usually the guy that swims over the seas
and climbs over the mountains."
And then I put like emoji, like, you know
that type of emoji at the end and would see his reply.
Usually, guys then fix themselves and they go like,
"Your mommy is absolutely right." (laughing)
Or, "Yes, of course, I'm coming",
and they switch their tone.
Or, if he thinks it's too much effort to go your way,
and he doesn't want to put in that effort,
'cause he just wants something easy and on a plate,
well, he might argue with you
that it's equality, et cetera, et cetera.
And he's just not gonna do it
'cause you require some investment, you require some work.
You require to see some action
that he's really into you, you know?
And if he doesn't show it to you, well, thank you next.
Number two is a very manipulative
and very, very silly strategy,
which men, even older guys still use it.
What I actually find a lot is that men
that are in their 40s, or 50s, even 60s,
a lot of them still apply exactly the same strategies
with women that have worked for them
in their early 20s,
which I find completely absurd to be honest.
But there are so many men like that
and it is quite shocking 'cause, you know,
as Jordan Peterson says,
these guys are really stuck in this "Peter Pan" land,
and I don't know, do we assume that women don't grow up?
Like, that we, like, literally stay in our 20s,
early 20s, how we think,
and if we fell for those games in early 20s,
what, we still gonna fall for them
in late 30s or something?
It's just, I don't know.
It's mind blowing to me how can you think like that
as a man, but some men think like that
and they behave like that as well.
And, anyway, what I'm referring to is
if he is, let's say perhaps
he is giving you compliments, right?
And he's just texting and you're not responding
to these compliments so much, you're not being swept
over your feet because it's just compliments over text.
There is no actions, there is nothing else, right?
So, because he sees that you're not responding,
and maybe he's used to girls going like,
"Oh, he loves me now, he said I'm so pretty,
therefore he must be crazy about me."
So, you start to write these emojis back, right?
However, if you're smart and the only thing he does
is giving you compliments,
you're like, thanks, thanks.
But, you know, where is the action, right? (laughing)
So what he might do, he might think like,
okay, the compliment part doesn't work with this girl.
Therefore I'll try to put her down instead
and we'll see how will that react.
Because the thing is, I would say in general,
there are two types of women that are extremes.
So, one type loves the compliments and she lives on it,
and the other type is that response
when somebody puts her down, then she starts to chase a guy.
So, this type of girl, I would say
this is a secure and confident woman.
And this one is a people pleaser, an insecure lady, right?
So, when he tries the compliment part with you,
and he feels like you're kind of like, okay, that's nice,
but where is the action?
He might assume that you are just not falling
for these compliments, and he'll use a different strategy
which is putting you down, right?
And obviously when a guy starts to put down
this type of girl, this is just not gonna go well.
And you just basically say, thank you, next.
However, the idea of putting a woman down,
as I said in many of my videos,
is so she would chase him.
Which, in our case, would backfire
'cause high value women do not do that.
Number three strategy (kissing)
that men use on women is, "I just wanna be friends",
meaning that I don't want to invest into you,
I don't want to take you on dates.
I want to keep things very casual
and we are gonna be just friends.
In other words, friends with benefits,
or once I will meet you as a friend,
I will try to come on to you.
I'll try to kiss you, I'll try to give mixed signals
of holding hands, et cetera, et cetera, right?
So, this is another strategy that works a lot for guys
that are in early 20s or in their teenage years.
You know, you start with, "I wanna be friends",
and then you give a girl a lot of mixed signals
so you kind of treat her as somebody you're dating
or you're treating her as a girlfriend,
but you are not together.
Therefore the lady with you starts to get insecure
and she's like, we cuddle and we kiss
and we talk all day long and we sleep together,
but we not together.
So it makes, usually, the woman really insecure
and she starts to pursue a man if she's immature,
and if she's a teenager or in her early 20s,
'cause she just doesn't know better at this point,
which is normal, right?
We've all been there, you know.
But, if a guy is applying this strategy
in his 30s, 40s, or 50s, then, you know,
it just says on his forehead "immature".
And, you know, ladies, don't fall for this BS,
or you could entertain it for a while.
Just make sure to do things right.
Like, if he tries to kiss you,
"Oh, I thought you said we're friends."
If he tries to hold your hand,
"Oh, sorry, I don't hold hands with my friends."
If he tries to do something else inappropriate,
"Oh, sorry", you're like, you know,
"I thought you made it clear that we are friends
so I don't wanna step this boundary."
Keep going this way, and soon enough,
his lullaby will change.
Number four, another really immature thing that guys do
is when you show lack of interest,
perhaps you are just not interested
but you didn't block him,
you still kept, you know, it opened.
He starts to provoke you, he's desperate, right?
So, he tries to tell you, he likes you.
He likes you, but he doesn't want you either,
'cause you are not into him, so I'm not into you.
His second one could be him texting you a lot,
and then saying, "Oh, I'm so happy, I found someone else.
I really like this other girl", thinking that,
okay, I'm not gonna tell her anymore that I like her.
Hopefully, she's gonna get at least a tiny bit jealous
when I will tell her that I like someone else.
So, he's trying to provoke you to get some attention, right?
The third thing is, if you don't respond,
he might ask you for advice.
Later on, he might text you showing off what car he bought
or what house he bought or whatever else.
Basically, if you are not interested
and not responding that much, he keeps texting you,
talking to himself saying how much he's into you
or not into you.
How much he likes you, doesn't like you,
shows off, and whatever else that he does.
Ladies, this is why there is no point
really to listen to what men say.
All you do is just observe the action
and everything is clear.
All you need to do is just be logical
if you want to know the clear picture.
Does he like you, does he not like you?
So how do you do that?
If he's texting you all the time, think about it logically.
Would a guy be texting a girl all the time
and talking to himself in the messages
if he wouldn't like you?
Of course no, who does that?
Do you text guys that you don't like,
like you talk to yourself
and you just keep texting that person all the time,
hoping for like a drop of attention
when you don't like them?
No, you don't do that, same goes for guys.
So, no matter what he's saying in the messages,
"I like you, I don't like you, you look like a Barbie.
I'm not sexually attracted to you,
you're this, you're that."
As long as he's texting you, he is into you
and he is trying to get your attention,
no matter he's admitting it or not.
And, for number five,
I'll just give you this kind of whole conclusion of it.
And it is, as I actually mentioned just now
by breaking down these points for you,
is a lot of times it doesn't matter a man's age.
He's 30, 40, 50, 60 or 70.
They play exactly the same games
as they played in their early 20s.
It's like, literally, they are stuck
in this "Peter Pan" land.
They play these super immature little games.
Now, the interesting thing is
that these super immature games
only work with women that got stuck
in the "Peter Pan" land as well, and never grew up as well.
'Cause women that are actually kind of developed
and learned and realized what is a lie,
what is the truth,
what is the right thing to do,
what is the wrong thing to do,
they will simply just not fall for this crap anymore.
They will see right through the guy.
So, the only woman that will fall for it
is also the ladies that didn't experience this growth
and are also stuck in the "Peter Pan" land.
So ladies, thank you for watching.
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