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hey this is Damon from NLP gym bringing you cutting-edge neural linguistic
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can get these videos on a regular basis so for those of you who might not be
aware I created a program for men to overcome their fear and anxiety of
approaching women I've also created a free webinar to go with that program
before you purchase it so you couldn't understand what it is that you're
purchasing so I've been advertising for that out on social media and just
recently I got a comment from someone who said don't even bother approaching
women in this era of me too it's too dangerous they will put they will come
up with false charges to put against you and you could go to jail and he just
kind of went on and on so I got curious about this and so I started asking him
more specific questions like have you known anybody I went full metamodel on
him if you know what the metamodel is it's a it's the first basically the
first model that was created in NLP it's oh it's language patterns and it's a way
of becoming more and more precise so I started asking him precise questions
like does he know anybody that who has been accused of that especially men who
were completely innocent and women accused him of that of course he had
never been accused of it yet he didn't know anybody who had been accused of it
and what I basically told him is then the message that I really want to get
across to men here is that if you're now worried about approaching women because
of the me2 movement you're just creating another story
among the many stories that you've been creating which is what causes you that
anxiety which is what prevents you from approaching that woman who you find very
attractive who you want to just talk to who you want to
meet who you would hopefully if things go well take out on a date
so you're just creating more anxiety around this you're creating more of a
story that isn't really true so if you're suffering from approach anxiety
and you have trouble or maybe maybe you can't approach women because you have
this anxiety or you do it but you still have to push through a lot of resistance
and a lot of fear and anxiety to do it if you're now adding to this story this
idea well she's going to create false charges or she's gonna accuse me of
harassing her and so now I have to worry about this you're just creating more of
a problem you just creating more anxiety and that's what we do that's what
anxiety has created from is we don't read some notes we have healthy fears
but when we start actually having anxiety as we start creating more and
more to the fear story what we're telling ourselves so let's let's just
get one thing straight right away though there's been a lot of controversy with
the me2 movement Tony Robbins got in trouble because he made some statements
about the me2 movement where he was basically it sounded like he was siding
with powerful men who might have used their power to coerce women and it
sounded like he was more on their side than he was on the women's side of
course he came back and apologized for it but let's just let's prick this down
let's get real for a moment here women don't want to be coerced pushed
pressured abused verbally or physically they don't want to be raped they don't
want to be molested they don't want to be touched if they don't want to be
touched these are very simple things that you don't have to be a woman to not
want unfortunately though we've had a history of powerful men and sometimes
not even powerful men but men doing this in taking advantage of women in this way
guys you wouldn't like that either so it's not like women are some mystery and
you don't know how to talk to them or touch them or get ten
it's pretty much the same way that you like to get to know any one man or woman
so just be normal about this that's that's all it is it's you you can walk
up to a woman say hi to her introduce yourself pay her a compliment
and she's not going to accuse you of anything I mean sometimes people not
women only people accuse others they make false accusations it just happens
it's not common but it happens it's not like women are out to get men it's not
like you go approach a woman you give her a compliment she's suddenly going to
turn on you and go crazy and start accusing you of all these things I
approach I have approached over a thousand women I've approached women
before the me2 movement I've approached women after the mean me to movement and
I have never ever been accused falsely or otherwise of harassment of rape of
molestation none of these things in general women typically like it when a
man out of the blue walks up to them says hi and pays them a compliment even
if they're not interested even if they have a boyfriend if you do this in a
polite way most women enjoy this most women like
this there have been onic on occasion times
when I've done this where the woman got a little weird or she got scared or she
didn't say anything all that tells me is that she's just not very socially
well-adjusted to handle someone coming out of the blue and giving them a
compliment and some people are just shy that way that doesn't mean that this is
a massive rejection or that I'm being weird or doing something weird it's a
little unusual to do that but it's unusual in a very nice way and but when
the majority of the time I've got nothing but thank-yous and you've made
my day and I appreciate it in general approaching women is a very positive
thing if you're polite and you're respectful and appropriate
and you pay her a compliment and your your just positive in most cases you
made her day you've you've broken up her normal routine and uplifted her and
you're going to feel uplifted because you didn't let fear hold you back and
you didn't let any of your that noise in your your head those stories that you
tell yourself about why you shouldn't approach women you didn't let that stop
you you move beyond it so you're gonna feel good about that as well even if she
says sorry I'm not interested or sorry I have a boyfriend you're gonna be fine
everything's gonna be fine and she's not going to accuse you of raping her of
harassing her if you in fact don't do any of those things so like I said it
there's nothing is for certain people can do weird things
men and women falsely accuse people from time to time but like I said it's
extremely rare don't let that hold you back don't demonize women telling
yourself stories like you're gonna be falsely accused and you're gonna go to
jail and you're gonna lose your career and you're gonna lose all your money
this is just the anxiety speaking so let all that stuff go what I teach in the
training that I have is just how to let those things go how to move beyond that
boundary of protection that you're using to protect yourself so if you want to
learn more about this I will link it to this video I think here I'll also put in
the description down here so that you can check out the webinar see if it's
something you're interested in and then if you are then of course I have an
entire program on how to get beyond this fear how to get beyond this anxiety so
let all this stuff go about the me tube movement as long as you are respectful
to women just like any other human being just like you would want people to
respect you you're not gonna have any problems with this I've approached women
who I later found out after we started dating that they were feminists and even
taking feminist courses and feminist studies in in college and they like
meeting men too they like men approaching them as well so my message
to you is relax and just like of this idea that women are out to get
men and when you see a woman you want to meet go meet her be nice about it be
respectful pay her a compliment and everything is going to be fine so if
you'd like to learn more about how to use NLP to overcome your fears and your
anxiety so that you could approach any woman anytime anywhere check the
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