Hey guys welcome back to my channel Enneagram Coaching I'm Hilary your certified Enneagram
coach and today we are going to be going over the type 3s wings
Alright, guys so like I said we are going to be going over the wings of the type 3 I've
already covered the type 9 8 7 6 5 and 4 I will link those down below if you want to
watch those videos on the wings but today we're going to go over the type threes wings
so first off let's get into what are the wings what are wings?
I know a lot of people don't even know what a wing is so I want to start with if you are
a type three that would be called your dominant type it is the type you most relate to and
then your wings would be the numbers on either side of your dominant type which for a 3 would
be a 3 Wing 2 and also a three wing four those would be your wings you can't be any other
Wing if you are a dominant type 3 or just a Type 3 the dominant just means that's your
number that's the core fears and the core desires that you most relate to and another
way to look at it is the wings can be the salt and pepper to your type if you are a
3 you might use a little type 2 a little salt a little type 4 a little Pepper or those can
be reversed they say you can be balanced in your wings you can be both you can only use
one maybe you don't even use either that's okay too they're just the salt and pepper
they're the flavoring of your type Okay you might be wondering what what is the
type 3 well they're known as the performer they're known as the achiever they usually
are highly ambitious competent driven for success self-assured and energetic those are
some of the words that come up when I think of a Type 3 the basic fear or the core fear
of a type three this is where you would know am I a Type 3 it's this it's this basic fear
and this basic desire if those aligned with kind of like what's in your heart what do
you really really relate to well to that basic fear that basic desire and that basic fear
of a type three is failing being worthless exposed failing to achieve success and then
also being thought worthless and so those are the basic fears of the type 3 now on the
flip side the basic desire of a Type 3 is being successful being admired having the
respect of others and being having some worth and so those are those basic fears and those
basic desires of the type 3 so let's move on to the wings like I said earlier you have
the three with a two-wing and a 3 with a 4 Wing those are your only wings so let's start
with the three with the two Wing which is called the star so they are that got great
people skills their Charming they're usually the more popular one they enjoy the spotlight
they enjoy the attention and depending on how strong that two wing is how much flavoring
it's bringing to the three they will have a strong degree of warmth and positive feelings
for people's that too kind of brings that to the three and this one also performs to
earn the admiration of others and then also the last thing I can think of is that two wing
it actually can make them a little more sensitive and compassionate and so that's that three
with a two-wing let's go on to what does a three with a two-wing look like when it's
struggling well they can be extremely competitive comparison can be a really big issue they
when struggling will really find themselves comparing themselves to others comparing their
successes to others that will cause them to just really struggle you know that core fear
and them is this failing and not being good enough and so they also can start to look
somewhat like narcissistic when struggling and also they tend to start bragging about
their accomplishments to gain the attention and admiration of others and the last thing
for 3 with the two Wing when struggling they can actually become insecure about how others
mainly their family start to reflect on them and so that can be when they're struggling
that insecurity well bubble up okay so let's move on to the inspiring qualities
of the three wing two they are immediately able to see exactly how to make others feel
special and they are really inspiring to others they Inspire others to keep moving going forward
trying again keep doing things they can be that inspiring voice two other people to kind
of like help other people go after success and gain success and so that three wing two
they really can help other see that success is possible when they are just really healthy
living in that good place they literally will try and help others succeed and also they're
really really good at cheering people up when they are down so those are the some of those
inspiring qualities of a 3 Wing 2 so let's move on to the three wing four which
they are called The Professional this one can actually be more quiet subdued and even
rather private this one will focus more on achieving recognition through work and professional
status and they actually are more vulnerable and sensitive than the 3 Wing 2 they have
more potential on gaining self-knowledge and developing their emotions a little more than
two three wing two and they rely more on their intelligence and skills rather than their
physical appearance the three wing four is way more on that intelligence skills Spectrum
versus the three wing two they can actually rely a little bit more on their appearance
and their charm and then lastly the three wing four can be
a little more romantic and so those are the qualities of the three wing four
let's move on to the three wing four when they are struggling what does that look like
they are even more afraid of failure when struggling if you could think that that is
even possible yes they are even more afraid of failing and they have a stronger need for
others to recognize their accomplishments and this leads to them kind of Dazzle people
embellish the truth a little while promoting their accomplishments and again that is when
they are struggling and so also they can come off a bit arrogant as they are struggling
that is something to be looking for and that type 3 Wing 4 and maybe just the type 3 in
general they can start to come off arrogant it's a red flag of okay are they struggling
and why are they struggling they'll start to face a lot of self-doubt and stressful
circumstances that doubt will creep up in them the inspiring qualities because you know I'd
rather camp out there than in them struggling but they are all important in understanding
ourselves so let's move on this inspiring quality of a 3 Wing 4 they are able to master
their craft Master their skill with a lot of introspection and creativity they get
from the four they are extremely positive it's one of those inspiring qualities they
are so hard-working they're able to really connect with those around them they're able
to recognize a lot of personal growth areas and work on that and so they want to achieve
they want to grow they want to work on themselves they are always striving to improve and my
example is my son he literally bought posters that would Inspire him in growth areas in
his life he put it in his room he said he wanted positive good things to look at that
will help him to improve and so I think that is definitely an inspiring quality of the
three wing four so those are the inspiring qualities
I kind of want to go over the life lesson for the three and what that is is especially
if you are 3 to reclaim the truth that love comes to you because of who you are not because
of what you do if you could just grasp that alone so much more would happen because in
the end if you are a type three you go after love thinking that it's what you do when the
opposite is true you are loved for who you are not what you do and so that's that life
lesson that I feel like is super important for type 3 to hear ultimately they are trying
to achieve love just like the rest of us but to them they think its by what they do
and they just need to know it's not it's by who they are okay so that's all I have for
the type 3 Wings video today if you are a type three leave me a comment in the section
below in the comment box below which Wing did you most relate to where you balanced
did you think either one influenced you influenced your type yeah let me know I love hearing
from you guys and just remember it's the salt and pepper of your type it's not you know
any more than just a flavoring of your dominant type okay well I hope this has helped you
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