- Hey, y'all welcome back. I'm mama Dr. Jones,
a board certified OB GYN, a mom to 4. And this is,
- Tammy. (sad trombone)
Your mom, (cheering) I'm sorry.
You didn't tell me
I was going to have to answer that question.
- The hardest question you've ever been asked
- Mama Dr. Jones's mother.
- I also have my production manager,
Karin on the phone, and she's going to help
us get to know my mom a little bit better.
Shout out to Dr. Mike for the format of this video.
A video he did with his sister is where we pulled this idea
and I don't know what the questions are,
but we're going to jump into it and see
- I'm a little nervous
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(drums beating)
- [Karin] If MDJ weren't a doctor, what would she be?
- Mm, I know what you're going to write
cause we've talked about it,
but I'm going to write what I actually think.
- That's not right. To write something different,
- Make sure you keep score.
- To write something different than what I'm going to say,
because you know what I'm gonna say.
- That's like how you play a game.
I'm not competitive at all.
- I'm going to put the truth.
- [Karin] One, two, three.
- A vet? We just talked about how I wouldn't do that
- I wanted to be one of those.
- My degree was in psychology.
If I didn't get into med school,
that's what I would have had to do.
- That's good. I wouldn't have never picked that.
- It's true. As a child, I did want to be a veterinarian.
However, I have extreme allergies to animals
and also very allergen reactive asthma.
And I would have never survived.
- You would have been good at that.
- I don't know about that but (laughs)
- You would.
- [Karin] What was MDJ like as a kid.
(MDJ laughs)
- Circle, circle, circle something.
What did you write?
- The truth! You write something.
- Okay, um. What was she like as a kid? Um.
- If it says anything other than an absolute joy and
the light of my life, I'm kicking you off of the channel.
It's making me uncomfortable that you're taking so long.
She's writing a whole novel over there.
- I'm at a few words plus two. Okay, I'm done
- [Karin] Okay reveal on three. One, two, three.
- What does it say? People pleaser, competitive,
and absolute joy. Yeah, that's accurate.
(Distorted Voice) I'm not competitive. I'm still-
- I should get a point for that.
I don't know how this point things working miss.
- I still am a people pleaser and
- Yes.
- competitive probably to a fault sometimes.
- Yes.
And you were really good.
- Because I was a people pleaser.
- Yes, but-
- I was not good on my own accord.
- No.
- I was good because I had a deep seated fear of letting
people down.
- Yes. And that's not good, but it was easier for me.
- You made me this way.
- I know cause that's how I was.
- [Karin] How old was Tammy when she had MDJ?
- Oh, that's easy
- [Karin] Reveal on three. One, two, three.
- 21 taking your nursing exams and
- Yup.
- Just finished nursing school.
- [Karin] You two really like to be in school
and then add children into the mix.
(laughter)
- And then she went back to school
when I was in my residency to get her master's in nursing.
So now she's also a master nurse.
- That's right.
(cheering)
- [Karin] What's the worst thing MDJ,
as a kid or teen did to get in trouble?
If anything, I hear she's an angel.
- Oh no. She did a few things. Um.
- I must have blocked this from my memory
- She didn't get in a lot of trouble, but yeah.
- Turn it where I can't see.
- Well, don't peek.
- Trying to think as a teen what I-
- You'll remember this.
(MDJ laughs)
- Okay, ready.
- [Karin] All right. One, two, three.
- Glued a belly button ring to my belly button.
That was actually your fault.
- That was not my fault. That was because
she wanted to get a belly button ring so bad.
- And you said no.
- And I said, no.
- So is your fault.
- Yes. Not even if God himself came down
and told me you could get a belly button ring
was I going to let you get a belly button ring
- That was exactly what you said
- To which Madison said,
"Mom, I think if God himself came down here,
you would let her", but that's what she did.
And then she did a backhand spring and ripped it off.
- 10 out of 10 would not recommend super gluing
a fake ring to your navel before you do gymnastics.
- [Tammy] Yes.
- I tried to muster up some empathy for her but, mm.
- Mine says I wrote on the backseat with a pen.
- Oh yes, you did do that.
- I think that was like the most trouble I
ever got in as a kid. Like I scribbled all over
the backseat of the car with pen
and I got in so much trouble.
- [Karin] So what is something that MDJ did as a kid
or teen that she thinks Tammy doesn't know about?
(marker scratches)
- I got this one
- [Karin] Ready, one, two, three.
- We both throw it snuck out at night.
And then I also added and had boys over while you were gone.
- Oh, I didn't know that!
I put this because I know a lot of kids do this and I wanted
to see if she would fess up.
- Oh, you didn't actually think, I-
- No
- oh we used to sneak out all the time.
- I didn't know that.
- Yeah, well, I don't know.
I don't know that I actually had to sneak out at the house.
Like usually if I asked you,
you would just let me go somewhere.
As long as you knew where I was going.
So I don't know if I ever snuck out from our house,
but we'd definitely snuck out at
[Beep] house
- Yeah.
- and at [Beep] house.
- [Karin] Prior to Donnie, how was MDJ's taste in men?
- I don't know what you're writing
and it's making me anxious.
- Okay.
- [Karin] All right, one, two, three.
- What'd you write? They weren't always nice guys.
Yeah. I would agree with that.
More like they weren't always sane,
they weren't always friendly,
- No.
- Driven.
- No.
- I said complicated because
- Oh yeah, that's a good word.
- Being a teenager is hard.
- It's hard.
- But after high school,
I didn't really date anyone long-term before Donnie.
I mean, I had like a couple of guys
that I would go on a date with or talk to you,
but Donnie and I met when we were young.
I mean, we were 20,
my husband and I were 20 when we met
and we got married when we were 20, I was 22
- Were y'all to sophomore?
- It was the beginning of my junior year.
- Okay.
- Yeah. So my junior year of college,
we met and then we started dating like halfway through my
junior year and we dated for about two years and then got
married just days before I started medical school.
- [Karin] Who has seen the crazier labor
or delivery while working?
All right. one, two, three.
(laughter)
- We got the right answer. The same answer.
I only said me because of length of time. I've done it,
but I can't remember 'em all so.
- Medically mine, socially yours,
- Yeah, medically horrifying yours.
- But you can tell, I mean, I don't know the whole story,
but apparently you one time had a patient that had like,
the baby's dad who also was the brother of the husband,
both at the bedside during delivery.
- [Karin] What is a little parent lie that
Tammy told MDJ when she was a kid?
- Oh God, I should have stopped like with the last question.
- Oh, this is such a good one.
And it's not little and
we're both going to write the same thing.
- [Karin] All right. one, two, three.
- We're going somewhere fun.
We're going somewhere really fun.
- I almost put really.
(laughter)
I was running out of room.
- Okay. In your defense,
I was absolutely a psychotic child when it came to medical
appointments, dental appointments-
- And that, there's a reason though.
- Vaccinations, et cetera. And so one time
she was coming to get me from my grandma's
house. And I don't even know how old I was.
- Four.
- Oh, was I that young? I have vivid memories of this
and because it was traumatic.
- And she told me we're going somewhere really fun.
And I thought,
we're going to go on a ride in a hot air balloon.
And I was convinced and we went to the doctor to get shots.
- And I did it partly to save you the fear,
but mostly because I didn't want to hear you
on the way there.
- I mean, it's so, so bad.
- You were so scared.
- But it's because when you were 18 months,
you were in the hospital and they put you on one of those
Papoose boards and tied you down and they couldn't get your
IV. And they tried a lot of times.
I think that had something to do with it. Anyway.
- I was a total freak of nature when it came to medical
appointments. In fact,
my phobia of needles carried over into adulthood.
And I very nearly turned down a acceptance to medical school
because I was going to have to get blood drawn for my titers
to make sure I was immune to things like hepatitis and
measles and things you have to get vaccinated for.
And I almost turned down my acceptance to medical school
after having already applied and not gotten in, so-
- She's not playing.
- There's a thing in psychology called flooding
where you get over a phobia by
being flooded with the stimuli.
And then you, you, it breaks those
neural connections that make you so fearful.
And I have, I mean, I don't like getting shots now,
but it's not a big deal. It is so weird.
- [Karin] Was there ever a time that MDJ called Tammy
and was like, "Mom, what do I do help?"
- I don't know if we have anything to write down,
but I can tell that story. So I'm not one to ask for help.
I'm like, that's one of my-
clinically at work, very easy for me to ask for help.
If I feel out of my comfort zone,
if I think that someone's in danger,
like that's not my problem asking for help for things that
will benefit other people, not a problem.
Asking for help and Karin can attest to this too,
for anything that like makes my life easier or makes me feel
like, oh, I should be able to do that,
but I'm not able to do it, incredibly difficult.
Such as getting an editor.
When I was a resident,
Milo was a baby and the girls were like four,
three and a half or four. So the twins were four.
I was in my residency and Milo is relatively young baby,
but I'd gone back to work.
And I was working like six night shifts a week.
And I came home on a Saturday. I had been working all night.
Milo was really fussy. The girls were just acting crazy.
And then my husband went up to do something in the attic and
he like fell through the ceiling.
And I was just at the breaking point. I was like,
I cannot do this. I called you and I was like,
mom, I need you to come help with the kids.
- I remember that. I can't remember anything crazy
you do with the kids.
I'm just an amazing, wonderful,
great parent.
- Donnie could probably answer that better.
- He probably could.
- [Karin] Well, I can't believe neither of you mentioned
driving herself to the hospital while in active labor.
- That is a good point. She didn't have a backup plan.
I don't think.
- Well, what was I supposed to do
wake them all up at midnight and take them to the hospital?
- No, no, but like in hindsight,
maybe asking a neighbor to drive you
if now you went to labor.
- Maybe that would have been good.
(laughter)
Don't drive yourself to the hospital
If you're in active labor.
- [Karin] How many tattoos does MDJ have?
- Don't cheat listening to my marker.
- I think I know the answer.
- [Karin] Okay. one, two, three.
- Yeah! I got it right!
But I actually thought two and then I remembered one more.
- Yeah. They're just tiny things that I got as,
Well, one of 'ems a little bit bigger, but not huge.
But the first time I got a tattoo, which is on my ankle,
I've got it in college. And I was like,
I have something to tell you before you look and see it.
But I don't, I don't want you to get mad.
And she thought I was going to be like visibly pregnant.
- I remember that now.
- And then I was like, oh, in that case,
it's just a tattoo. It's only an inch tattoo on my ankle.
- Oh yeah, I do remember that now.
- [Karin] Okay, What did Tammy think when MDJ started
her YouTube channel?
- I don't know if you really knew. Did I even like, yeah.
- No you told me because you'd already had your Instagram.
So I remember. I remember you saying you were going to
start it and I remember what I thought.
- Don't, I can see yours.
- Well, not if you don't look.
- I can't help it.
- [Karin] All right. one, two, three.
- What did you say?
She'll do great. Oh,
Oh, I thought you would wonder if I had time for that.
And why I would do something else.
- Yeah, but I didn't know how time consuming
it would be.
- That's true. I didn't either.
- Yeah, I had no idea.
- I had no idea either.
- I just know you are driven and you would do well.
- Can't argue with that.
- [Karin] Which have MDJ his kids is most like
MDJ when she was a kid?
- oh. That's easy.
Oh man, though, I'm going to say something different
than what I first thought.
- Okay.
- [Karin] Okay, one, two, three.
- I did, yes.
I was going to say Amelia because y'all look so much alike.
- She, yeah.
So Amelia apparently looked so much like me as a child that
it's sometimes weirds her out when she's like taking
care of them.
- Sometimes I'll have them and I'll have,
if it's just me and Amelia doing something,
I'll have to kind of reorient myself to be like, it's 2021.
It's really bizarre because y'all are so much,
you look so much alike. So I think that Reese is like you,
because she's very passionate about things and when she's
passionate, she gets on it and she's stuck on it.
I mean, she's really determined and passionate about things.
She's very competitive.
She seems to be more competitive.
- And she cares deeply about what
other people think about her.
- Yes, she cares very much.
- Well, about other people. For sure.
Yeah, I would say that too,
but she cares a lot about how she's viewed by others
- Yeah and she can read your face.
Like you, you were like that.
I didn't ever have to really say much.
I could just look at you and you would be like, okay, okay.
- [Karin] Which is the medical specialty that
MDJ would least like to do?
('The Price is Right' theme)
- I'm torn between not wanting to do it because it would be
too time consuming versus not wanting to do it because it
might not be as exciting for you.
- I put one that I just don't think I would like to do.
So like I would not enjoy.
- [Karin] Okay, one, two, three
- Dermatology.
Yeah. I don't think I'd be very good at derm,
but I put psychiatry,
which is interesting given that-
- You said that you wanted to be a clinical
psychologist.
- Well, here's the thing. If I hadn't been a doctor,
I would have gone into clinical psychology.
That's what I went to college thinking I was going to go
into because I thought I would like it.
But the reason I switched to medicine is because I took
classes that mimicked grad school and learned like what
clinical psychologists did. And I was like,
this is not for me.
So I probably would have still done that if I couldn't get
into medical school,
but not because that's what I thought I would be good at
or enjoy.
- Okay, That makes sense.
- And it's very different. I need to be like,
we were just saying up, moving around,
doing something, like that need to move and do something
constantly different is what,
one of the things that drew me to OB,
cause even if you're in clinic,
like you're going here and there and doing a pap and doing
ultrasound and doing a procedure and then go into the OR
and then delivering a baby and then come back to clinic.
Like I need to be constantly just moving
- Moving, going. Yeah.
- [Karin] Same question for Tammy.
Which nursing specialty would she least like to do?
- Hmm.
- That's funny.
- I think
- And I have always said this.
- [Karin] All right. one, two, three.
- I've always said that. I had a really bad experience in my
rotation in nursing school in psychiatry.
- Just like with the doctors or the nurses or-
- No, no, no, the patient was just, mortified me. Yeah.
They put a chair through an unbreakable glass.
- That is a crazy story.
- It scared me. So I never wanted to do psych nursing.
(bell dings)
- Cause this came from Dr.Mike's video.
Who's your, who's your, how did he word it?
- [Karin] Celebrity crush?
- Yes. Is it okay to ask?
- Yeah, I'm trying to think if I have a celebrity crush.
- Let's see who do I think that would be okay.
I think I know. It's either.
- I have no idea.
- I know
- I'm going to put someone from childhood.
I don't even know if this is his name.
I can't even remember.
Okay.
- [Karin] Okay. one, two, three.
(laughter)
Philip DeFranco is not my celebrity crush!
Oh my God, mom.
- Not like that! Just that you really like him.
I don't mean it in that kind of way. I just mean,
- But that's what a crush is.
- Let's just jump into it.
- I think Philip DeFranco has done wonderful things
and I think he's a great YouTuber
and I enjoy consuming the news from his YouTube channel,
but I also do not have like, crush on him.
- Not a crush crush, Its like, you look up to his channel.
- I like, yeah, I think he's done great things for YouTube.
- Yeah. And his wife is lovely.
(upbeat music)
- Thank y'all for being here today.
I hope that you enjoyed this video and getting to know my
mom. Some of you have asked us to also do a Q and A,
because she's a labor and delivery nurse.
And occasionally we get to work together in that aspect.
So we will have another video coming out in a few weeks.
- Thanks for letting me be on here.
It was a lot of thank you.
- Come back next Monday for a new video. Bye.
- Bye.