Hey guys, in this video we're going to
actually something a little different.
You want to know how to tease
a girl or tease a woman effectively
so, she becomes more attracted to you.
And there's a really great way of doing this
that's very natural
and that is not sleazy
or any kind of pickup artist
ammo as far as I know,
but it will really help you
to elevate
her attraction for you
whether you've just met her
or you've actually
been in a relationship with her for a while.
So, we're going to go into a case study
of someone who did my wakeup2luv Program
and was able to land
his "perfect girl"
within a couple months of finishing my program.
And now wants to know how to keep her,
how to keep a keeper.
So, a great way of doing this
is by teasing.
So, if you're new to my channel
my name is Anna Jorgensen
welcome to Just the tip Tuesday.
So, first I’m going to actually just go through his
review I guess or his feedback on...
Well, this is the feedback I got on the course,
which was actually kind of a question.
So, if you want to ask a question about
something then please write it
in the comments below,
I don't consider
any questions that are sent to me by email
because I get too many emails
and I just probably won't see it.
So, definitely if you have
a personal question keep it short,
but write it in the comments below
and I'll do my best to answer it.
Okay, so let's get into what he said.
Okay, with your help I've landed
who appears to be the love of my life, uhh.
She's like a super score.
Much younger than me,
pretty, shapely, and above all nice and attentive to me.
Which is awesome of course.
I will continue listening to you, Anna because
all you've taught me has worked like a charm.
Awesome, love hearing that those are my favorites.
He continues.
I had made a list of attributes I needed
in a lady to be in a relationship
and K, we'll call her K,
checked every box.
I have a naughty on the box
but I'll leave that out, okay.
Now, at all costs I have to learn
how to keep her.
We'll have a comment on that in a moment.
While remembering I found her
and could find another if something, dread the idea
should become a deal maker for either of us. True.
It's been a month only,
but communication is way ahead
of my usual one months time period.
So, obviously still in the euphoria stage,
but still ahead of
where he normally is at this point
in his previous relationships.
So that's good.
Saying no to them is my thing to master.
Now I've done another video side note here on
how to say no effectively
I'll link that later in the video
in this video we're going to talk
about teasing instead of the saying no.
Okay, her being young, beautiful, and loving
beyond belief has nothing...
Cross that out,
has everything to do with this.
Keeping her at all costs is a goal.
And again, he's mentioned that twice
so I’m going to really talk about that.
So being a pushover can't happen.
I've done this before and
I've been told you never say no to me.
I'll be looking for an opportunity
this one cannot get away.
So, just before I get into my reply,
you've probably noticed that
you know obviously
when you find a good one
you tend to be anxious to not want them to get away
and it can really affect
your behavior with that person
in a way that is a turn off.
So, you want to mitigate that part
by offering up the no's
as I suggested in my other video
and then also teasing and
there's another way you can also do this,
which I'll get into in another video.
For this one we're going to just focus on teasing.
And I have a bit of a grovely voice
not because I've been drinking whiskey,
but I don't know why actually,
I know I'm not getting sick, all right.
My reply, the goal should be to keep her
as long as it's good for both of you,
but never at all costs.
Key point, never at all costs.
But he is right
in that being a pushover
isn't good for either of them.
She won't respect him if he's a pushover.
She won't know that he has a backbone unless
he actually proves that he does,
but you have to be able to do this in a way that's not
unhealthy or antagonistic to the relationship.
So, one of the ways you can avoid
being or seeming like a pushover
is by disagreeing on something.
Especially, if you've been called a nice guy
or a people pleaser in the past
or if you know you have those tendencies.
So, now let's get back to disagreeing.
What happens if you actually so far
agree on everything,
like, you're so seemingly compatible
that you're agreeing on everything
and you can't find something to disagree on?
Well, you make something up.
Let me tell you how,
but first just know that key point
you actually don't
and won't agree on everything.
The fact is
you just haven't spent enough time together yet
to know what you do disagree on,
but you still need to prove backbone to her
earlier on,
to show her that
you do have a mind of your own
that she can respect.
That you can think for yourself.
So, if you haven't found anything to disagree on yet,
then you're going to use this next strategy.
You are going to disagree with her
in a playful teasing way
on something that
you might actually agree on,
but here's how you're going to play it out.
This is best done in person
because when you're disagreeing
there's so much nuance in
voice, tone, volume,
body language, facial expressions,
basically everything that you can see visually
or even hear auditorially if you
are not visual.
You will be able to gauge better
how far you can push this
and how far you can go with this
and whether or not you're actually going to be
triggering her in a real way.
You don't want to do that
you need to be able to keep it playful
and fun and teasing
while still elevating her
autonomic arousal system.
So, the kind of fight, flight,
or freeze part of her brain,
but not so much that
she really does get upset
or has negative lasting
feeling toward you.
So, you could say something like,
hmm I’m not sure I agree with you on that, convince me.
So, you can see that it's playful
and if you throw in a wink
then she knows that you're not actually
really necessarily disagreeing with her
or being antagonistic,
by asking her, offering her
the opportunity to convince you.
Now, once you've actually
been together long enough
that you know each other well enough
to be able to play this out by text,
then you can do that.
It's still a bit more risky
because you never know what kind of mood
she might be in at that moment
unless you for sure know what kind of mood
she's in at that moment,
but until you really know a person
it's a lot riskier to do by text.
You can do this a bit more effectively
by Skype or Facetime or something like that
where you can actually have some kind of
visual gauge of her response,
so then she's going to defend her argument.
And as long as you can see that she's not
really upset by it
and she's just like now maybe a little bit more
passionate about convincing you,
then you can say something like,
I’m listening.
Or tell me more.
So, she knows that you're not again,
completely disagreeing with her,
but she's got to state her case.
So, she may continue
and depending on where she goes from there.
If you can see that she's playing along
and she's getting that this is a fun tease
or she may not have got caught on to that yet,
but she's not angry
or going into a bad frame of mind,
you could take it one step further by saying
anything else,
maybe with raised eyebrow.
And then in the end you say something like,
well argued, Ashley.
I knew you were a smart one.
I actually agree with you,
but I wanted to see how you convince me.
So, if she's been
very good-natured about the interaction
then she might like
act like she's upset with you like,
oh, you or what something like that.
Or you know she might play along
that she's upset,
but isn't really upset
just like you just played like you were
disagreeing with her weren't sure
if you were going to agree with her,
but you actually do agree with her.
Now, if you have done this by text.
Again, risky
but if you have then you might
want to leave out the last part about
wanting to see how
you convince me
because if she can't
see your smug, playful,
mischievous, cheeky grin,
and facial expressions,
then she might take it seriously
and be turned off
that you are testing her.
And you don't want her to be
pissed off in a bad way,
but there is a way to be a little
bit ticked in a good way
and as I mentioned before
it's about triggering
our basic instinct.
There is, there's that basic instinct and again,
it's about triggering our
autonomic nervous system which is tied to our
base systems like,
the fight, flight, or freeze
or the general arousal state
when you are in a state of arousal
like, upset arousal
your blood pressure is up,
your heart rate is up.
It's similar to the reaction you have
when you are physically turned on.
So, if you get her into that state just a little bit
then you can quickly
redirect that energy for her into
attraction and maybe even immediate attraction
by saying something like,
you know you're extra sexy when you're spicy like this.
And then you might even follow it up by,
get over here and give me a kiss.
Or you know if she's close,
better if she is close,
especially if you're kind of fake arguing like this
or fake disagreeing with her,
it's better for her to be closer
because that shows that you are still closer.
She doesn't want to start distancing herself.
So, watch for body language
if she starts like moving away,
then she might be more seriously getting agitated by it,
but if she's still near you
and not moving away or moving closer,
then she is not
triggered in a negative way
and you can reach over and say,
all right, let's kiss and make up.
And remember this is a win-win
because you'll have proven
that you have backbone.
You'll have engaged in a
fun playful interaction
and she will feel like
she's actually won you over
even though you agreed with her to begin with.
And she'll appreciate the compliment.
You called her smart,
you called her sexy,
when you were calling her spicy
and it's almost like an egg, which is
where you giveth and you taketh away.
In this case,
you're taking away first
and then giving back.
So, you have to always remember
women are attracted, more attracted to men
whose feelings are uncertain
always leave them wanting more.
So, what's more in this case?
More is wanting to
convince you or
win your approval or
win your side or win your favor.
And then of course, like as I mentioned in the end
you always want to break the tension by
saying okay, you've convinced me
now get over here and kiss me.
Or something that breaks the tension
is a funny and or
creates physical intimacy right away.
Now, if you've just met her
depending on how her reaction is
you might be able to say
okay, now let's hug and make up.
to say I wish I was with you in person
so we could kiss and makeup.
So, there's always ways that you can modify and adjust
the various things that you might use,
the phrases and make them your own
so they don't sound canned or fake.
to make sure that you,
you never take it too far
because if you get her into a state of
being really upset,
then that's not good for the relationship
and that will be the lingering feeling she has toward you.
And if she actually likes
that lingering feeling towards you,
if she likes that kind of drama
then that's a red flag.
Dude red flag
and at the same time,
keep in mind that even emotionally healthy people
do have limits
and we all have triggers.
So, she might be a keeper
but she's triggered by a certain disagreement
because of something that's completely unrelated
and wouldn't bother somebody else
and then you need to back off and maybe explore
that in another time when she's not so upset,
but don't necessarily write her off
if it's only that one time.
But if it happens again
because if she shows you signs
of being easily triggered
you need to pay attention to that.
There might be some underlying emotional
issues that she needs to work through
and you have to be able to decide
if you want to actually work through them with her
or if that might be too much work for you.
So, we're all flawed.
You don't come as a perfect package,
she won't come as a perfect package.
It's a matter of deciding
which flaws are compatible
and which things that you can
actually work through together
and which things are like
definitely deal breakers,
run forest run.
And if you've been with your girl for a while
or your woman for a while
and things are starting to slag.
Or you're feeling her starting to pull away
then you definitely want to watch
my video on how to keep a keeper
or how to keep your woman happy
because there are often things that
happen in a long-term relationship
that make her start to pull away
that are preventable.
So, if you've been in a relationship
for a while and that's where you're at,
then watch that video.
that triggers arousal in women is
the little N word, no.
And I've done another video on that
and how to deliver no
even if you've just met her
in a way that is effective
and builds attraction
pretty much instantly.
It makes her want to work to get you.
So, if you're interested in that one
then watch that video here
and I will see you in the next video.
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