Have you ever been in a conversation before and felt like you missed some
details? Or there's some miscommunication? Well, today is a great day to start
learning about body language and how to read it. And why it's so important?
When you're trying to figure out what is really going on in a conversation, you
may want to turn to reading body language. Now, what is reading body
language? Like, what really is going on? Well, there are messages that are
organized and thought of and then delivered through talking. But all that
talking that doesn't get said ends up coming out through the movements in a
person's body language. So, body language is really the watching and viewing of a
person's movements. Now, how do you interpret all those type of movements?
You know and how do you pay attention to all the movements and listen to a person?
Well, it does take some practice. But just so you know that not all communication
comes through words. In the form of language. There's a lot of parts that are
left out in that conversation that you're going to want to look for in
their movements. Now, when you're looking at body language and you're referring to
look at it and try to decipher it, some things that happen. Some different
things that happen during in body languages. Body language can confirm what
they're saying. It also can clarify what they're saying.
And also body language can contradict what they're saying. And also reading
body language could help you have a more clear message. Now, here's a get here's an
example of contradiction. What if I did this, "Wow! I sure love you." That doesn't
look like love you. But I said, "I love you." But I punched my hand like this. Now, that
would be an example of contradiction. Meaning what I said and what I did, did
not match. What if I did this, "Wow, I love you." And they point to my heart. Well, you
would be looking at me and listening to me and if both those messages matched,
you would then accept that message. But if I say I love you and I punched my
hand like this, you would sense that something's off in the message.
Most people rely on what people say but if we begin to look for other movements
happening on a person to see if they see if they match or not match, it would
actually give us an opportunity to ask some clarifying questions. So, if I did
this move and I said I love you, you actually in that moment would probably
need some clarification. And you may pose the question of like, "Do you really love
me? Because I'm not quite sure." And in that moment because you were reading body
language, you could give that person a chance to explain themselves so that you
can get clear on the message that they were sending. Now, here are some body
language moves you may want to pay attention to while you're talking to
another individual. If you and I were having a conversation and during the
conversation I reached up and scratched my ear, that is telling you that I'm
having a tough time understanding what you're talking about because I'm
touching my ear. It indicates my ability to listen and understand you is kind of
struggling. But that's just me reaching up and touching my ear. I probably would
never tell you that. But if I think the thought, "Wow, this is kind of tough to
understand, I'm not quite sure what this all means." if I think the thought, it
could cause me to actually just reach up and touch my ear. And that's what non
verbal communication is. It'sI thought it but I didn't say it. And because I
thought it, I still did this move that indicated to you that's what I was
thinking. Now, if I reach up and I touched my fingers and over my mouth or I
covered my mouth a little bit and we're having a conversation and you're talking
and I cover my mouth up. By me covering up my mouth, it tells you I have
something I want to say. Even though I didn't say it to you. Again, it's a non
verbal message. So, this is what it would look like. You're talking and during the
conversation I reach up and do this. It's as though I'm putting my hand over my
mouth because the words are ready just come out of my mouth but I'm
holding my words back because you're still talking. But because you see this
message of me holding my hand over my mouth, you can pick up on that nonverbal
cue and realize, "Wow, Kirk's got something on his mind. Right now he wants to say."
And you could stop talking and ask me if I have something to share.
In fact, this that I'm showing you right here is a big problem amongst husbands
and wives. When in a married couple, what happens between the husband and wife is
one of them will be talking and the other one will do this nonverbal cue. But
the other one doesn't even see it. And so they just keep talking and talking and
talking. And then the spouse starts to feel like they're not appreciated
because they are not being noticed and they're not able to talk. But they gave
you the message, right? They cover it up their mouth. So, as a married couple or
dating, you know, if you're with somebody and you see them go to, you know, kind of
cover up their mouth a little bit, stop talking and ask them what they have
to share with you. That's a... That's a game changer when it comes to relationships.
Now, let's say you're in a conversation and a person reaches up and they rub
their neck during the conversation. While you're talking they rub their neck. That
could be an indicator that they are having a tough time seeing your point of
view. Because you have a particular point of view they have a particular point of
view. And the muscles in their neck tighten up when you and your point of
view is trying to like turn their point of view like turn their head or turn
their point of view. Their muscles will tighten up as though for them to hold to
their own point of view. Their muscles tighten up. And so, you'll know that their
muscles are tightening up because they reach up to rub their neck. Wow, now you
know that there's a little bit of conflict in what you're saying and what
they are thinking and it gives you that insight to open up your mouth and ask
for some some conversation to happen to clarify what's happening between the 2
of you. Reading body language helps you to be
able to see literally how the other person is thinking and see how they're
responding to what it is you're saying. Now, you you... You would know this one.
You know you walk up and you're having a conversation with a person and during
the conversation they literally fold their arms in front of you. Like pretty
tight like this. Like their hands are literally tucked under their hands. What
does that mean? Does it mean that this person is closed. Does it mean that
they're shutting down the conversation? Well, the way in which you interpret this
could mean that you're on or you're off in this particular point. Now, when
somebody goes to fold their arms like this during a conversation, if their
hands are loosely tucked under their arms, they're thinking. This is a thinking
position. But if their hands are tucked underneath like really tight underneath
their arms, it means that they don't agree with what's happening in the
conversation. So, loose hands like this, they're just in thinking mode. They're in
listening thinking mode. But if their hands are tight underneath, then they are
in a way cutting you off and they're kind of blocking themselves from the
conversation that's happening. But please don't misinterpret that move. To many
people see somebody put their hands under their arms like this and they
think it immediately means that they're shutting people down or blocking people
from the conversation. But you want to see how their hands are. Especially if
their thumbs are all poking out like this,
they're totally still in the conversation. Even if their hands like
this, you know, are like this. And when they're more relaxed like that, they're
just listening. Don't miss read that one at all. Don't
miss read that. Another part about reading body language that is very, very
helpful is to literally study your own body language. When you're with other
people and notice what you do during the conversation. Notice when you scratch
your eye or scratch your ear touch your jaw, you know. Or maybe when you touch
your nose. Notice what you're thinking in those moments.
Because when you study your body language, you begin to learn other
people's body language because we're all similar in how we communicate in this
nonverbal language. And that has literally helped me the most about
understanding your body language and other people's body language is while
I'm in a discussion with somebody and talking to them. If I do something weird
like scratch my ear or touch my nose touch my chin or rub my shoulder, rub my
neck, I pause for a moment go, "Okay, what was I thinking? What caused me to do that?
What did they say that caused me to do that?" And just to take a little bit of an
insight there and to look at what you're doing can give you some big insight why
other people do this. And if you want to learn more about the body language and
about how to read it, stay connected to us here on this YouTube channel. And also,
come attend some of our courses. You'll love this. But here's my last suggestion
for you when it comes to reading body language. Not everyone tells the full
story. There are parts of the story that are left out. And reading body language
is a form of communication and it could help you understand the missing parts in
that communication. And to me, when you can communicate better,
I believe relationships can be better. And that's why you want to continue your
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