Life will knock you between the eyes.
It will catch you on the blind side,
come out of nowhere,
stuff you can't anticipate.
That will knock the wind out of you,
you wannna give up.
It's gonna be very challenging,
whenever you decide that you wanna grow,
whenever you decide that you wanna go to another level,
all hell will break loose.
We know life is rough
and we know there will be pain,
and whether that pain is at the hands of an enemy
or at the hands of nature or time or disease,
there will be pain.
That's the way life is.
There are moments when you are going to doubt yourself.
The rough times are gonna come
but they have not come to stay,
they have come to pass.
You might even
feel like
there's no hope.
But you know what?
Doesn't matter.
Keep fighting.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
But that doesn't happen on it's own,
you have to choose to get stronger.
Keep fighting,
keep going
and don't give up
because the only real failure
is actually giving up.
And if you don't give up
you will win.
To know that your life is not over
and the game does not stop
just because you bruised your arm or you skinned your knee
to feel pain and rise up anyway
and say the fight is not lost just because
I failed in the first round
The game is not lost
just because I got tackled or ran into an opposition.
And many of you
have run into something.
Got some bruises and some cuts
and you're sitting on the sideline nursing your wounds
when you need to get back up again and get in the game.
Fight with a focus.
That's looking beyond what's coming against you
and looking toward what is within you,
to know that greater is he that is in me,
than he that is in the world.
Come on, you need to remember
this is not your first rodeo cowboy.
This is not the first time you cried,
this is not the first time you were sort of breath,
this is not the first time you didn't see a way clear,
this is not the first time you were hurt,
this is not the first time your heart was broken,
this is not the first time you didn't have enough money,
this is not the first diagnosis that came up from behind.
You got to learn to stand up to yourself
inside yourself
and short circuit, override that conversation
that's always going on
85% of what that conversation will tell you
is negative.
It will tell you you're tired
when you really are not tired.
It will tell you, you can't do it
it will fill you with fear.
So you've got to watch that conversation.
And when you find it going on
you've got to stand up to it
and say, I'm going to do this anyhow.
I'm afraid, but I'm afraid not to do it.
And I'm not going to let you stop me.
You've had the cliche because it's true,
the harder I work, the luckier I get.
I'm an ordinary person,
what I focused on my craft.
I had a burning desire to be excellent.
I love what I do
sharing, and my books and speaking is my oxygen ,
it's my DNA.
4 in the morning I get up and I'm working on my craft,
because I love it.
I love it.
Love yourself enough,
to be honest with yourself, don't lie to yourself.
And those 21 days, you're going to discover you.
You're going to discover some strengths.
You're going to discover some undeveloped strengths.
I don't like to use negative terms.
Something that you need to work on.
Look, love yourself enough to be honest with you.
You either have to change your life.
That is, you kind of say, you know what?
I'm going to go work out.
I'm going to change it.
You know, I'm making what I got to make.
I'm going to retool.
I'm going to get a new skill.
I'm going to go back to school.
I'm going to start a business.
I'm going to do something.
You have to do something to change your life,
or in order for you to be happy.
If you can't change your life, you're going to have to change your blueprint.
And if you've changed your, take change your life
and change your blueprint,
you can have an extraordinary life
because all of us are going to have times in our life
when what we want or think life should be like,
isn't going to match how life really is.
Those moments,
If we blame our life goes into pain.
If we change, we can change our life and match our blueprint.
The fact that you're not happy, it has nothing to do with
what you have or don't have.
The fact that you're not happy is that your life
doesn't match the way you think it should be.
Take care of your disciplines
when the amounts are small
and then life will see to it that you get some
extraordinary numbers to work with.
Like you saw the stories displayed here,
do not disregard the smallest of disciplines.
Let us not neglect, do not neglect the smallest of disciplines.
And build on that foundation
and you can have everything you could possibly want.
You say, well, what can I do about the upcoming winters in my life?
The challenges that I know I'm going to face, here's what you can do.
You can get wiser and stronger and better.
Just make a list of that trio of words,
wiser,
stronger,
better.
go home smarter than you came.
Go home with more ideas than you came with
Next
get stronger.
You can develop a muscle.
You can develop the courage muscle.
You can develop the inspiration muscle.
You can develop the dedication muscle.
You can get stronger.
Next time we see you may not even recognize you
how strong you're going to be able to become in language,
style, personality, the ability to cope,
the ability to handle, but then if that happens, no matter what happens.
The key is not to wish for a better winter.
The key is to wish for more strength,
more wisdom, more courage,
get better, get wiser, get stronger.
And you've got to learn not only to nourish your values.
You've got to learn to do battle with your enemies,.
Whatever threatened you,
I'm asking you to threaten it back.
Take care of your responsibility.
Somebody wants to destroy your chances for a good future
by their negative talk, negative thinking.
Put it all down.
I'm telling you walk away If you have to walk away,
Whatever threatens you, threatened to back,
whatever threatened your opportunity, threatened to back.
Until you learn how to master your mindset by recognizing what's holding you back.
The real reasons that you're not taking the actions that you need to take
and learn how to reframe them in the right part of your brain.
So you can override the messaging signal from the amygdala, the fear center
and emotional set of the brain to the
Part of the brain that's responsible for taking action.
You're never going to achieve your goals.
So whether you have doubts or fears or anxieties,
fear of success, fear of failure,
fear of losing your job, fear losing your home fear of losing your money.
You have to understand that just like a car
has a light that pops up on the dashboard when something's wrong in the engine,
you have an emotion that is your signal to let you know
whether you're feeling good or not,
whether you're comfortable or not,
whether you have certainty or not,
whether you have confidence or not.
And if you're lacking the confidence and the certainty,
it's going to cause doubt.
If you're going to have doubt, it may cause anxiety.
And as soon as that sets in the brain in a nanosecond,
Your ability to take action
is like having one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.
There's gonna be a lot of movement going on the tires, but you're
really not gonna get anywhere.
So the first thing I want you to do is write down.
What's really holding you back.
Why aren't you really get clear
Get deep?
Why aren't you really
Taking action towards any of your goals, health goals, financial goals,
business goals, whatever goals you have,
write that down and ask yourself, is this real?
Is this imagined, is that a probability or is it a possibility?
What you'll find for the most part is the negative consequences.
Is a possibility at as soon as you buy into that possibility,
you're going to do everything possible
to run away, to fight, freeze, or fight that feeling.
But when you learn how to switch your brain from recognizing what's holding you back
to reframing the possibility
from the probability to just a normal possibility,
you start to activate different part to
your brain that starts showing you the solutions
to how to overcome the fear,
how to overcome the risks, how to overcome
the possible negative consequences.
And then what happens is the amygdala, the part of your brain,
that's responsible to protect you and to keep you safe,
the message to the motor cortex.
Doesn't get said.
So you start taking action.
And third, what is happening
is that your left prefrontal cortex, the CEO of the
genius part of your brain starts to think about ways that you can actually take action
and do it faster and easier and better.
It starts to change what you see
it starts to change your vibration.
And now you start to have a lot more control
over not just having goals
and having strategies and plans, but getting yourself to take action.