- [Narrator] Hey, Psycho2Goers.
Do you know someone who struggles with depression
or are you struggling yourself
and not sure how to differentiate your sadness
from depression?
Here are signs of someone who grew up with depression.
Number one, thinking they're to blame for everything.
Do they blame themselves for every relationship conflict?
It's noble to hold yourself responsible
for the wrongdoings that you've done in the past.
When a misaligned virtuousness
can be just as damaging as not facing the conflict at all.
According to a study by a group of psychologists
led by Roland Zahn,
self-blaming tendencies occur
in over 80% of the patients they've screened.
Similarly, 85% of the people in the same test
believe that these self-blaming emotions
are the most bothersome to deal with.
While you may feel that you're taking responsibility
by self-blaming, you're doing the exact opposite.
You are unconsciously stonewalling yourself
by not being vulnerable to your shortcomings.
Instead of blaming yourself,
you may find growth in finding a professional to talk to
about these problems if you still exhibit them.
Number two,
have physical pains with no clear underlying cause.
Does your friend complain about random aches and pains
with no clear reason?
If yes,
it may be a sign that they're trying to signal to you
about their internal state.
According to Juli Fraga, a doctor of psychology,
the connection between physical pain and depression
is more common in Asian cultures
as they're likely to describe depression
as pains in their physical body.
These symptoms manifest as decreased pain tolerance,
unbearable fatigue, headaches and stomach uneasiness.
If someone has these issues in any case,
it's good to talk to a doctor about it.
Number three, anger and tantrums.
While not as common as shame and low self-worth,
long-term anger can be an uncommon yet telltale sign
of people suffering from depression.
Depression is oftentimes referred to
as anger turned inwards,
since it reflects an overly critical voice
that makes it hard for you to move past
diminished self-worth and shame.
Staying overly angry
forces your mind to think of the negatives.
This not only worsens the severity of depression,
but it can also appear as outward manifestations
of those emotions causing a vicious cycle
where you hurt the important people in your life
when you need them the most.
Number four, they were an outcast.
Do they have a hard time connecting with others
and maintaining long lasting relationships?
According to John Cacioppo,
loneliness sounds the same alarm bells
as when we feel thirst, hunger and physical pain.
He also states that
the American Association of Retired Persons or AARP
conducted a study on American participants
and found that around 40 to 45% of the population
feel lonely in the past decade,
an increase from 11 to 20% during the 1970s.
But what causes it and how does it cause depression?
Loneliness is caused by many things like heredity,
our environment, circumstances, and our attitudes.
Lacking social connections can lower yourself forth as well,
amplifying your critical voice.
To help a lonely friend,
send them a comforting text or give them a call.
Even if they don't wanna pick up the phone at first,
it will be comforting for your friend to know
that you're there for them.
Number five, lack of motivation.
Do they lack the motivation to get up from bed
in the morning and go to school?
Lacking motivation
can impede you from accomplishing your goals.
The lack of motivation is not the main issue here,
but rather an underlying problem
that's causing you to lack motivation in the first place.
Are you stuck in a situation that you'd rather not be in?
Do you feel that you can't commit to one thing?
By pinpointing the main cause of your lack of motivation,
you can come up with a plan of action to become better,
others by improving yourself in small gradual steps
or getting out of a bad situation.
And number six,
they express hopelessness about their future.
Do they feel like they have nothing to look forward to
because they feel stuck in a rut?
This may be hopelessness depression.
Lyn Abramson,
a professor of psychology at the University of Wisconsin,
Madison,
says that repeated exposure
to perceived uncomfortable circumstances
and negative stimuli leads to a sense of helplessness.
This helplessness
in turn can spiral into a negative worldview and depression.
A lot of this has to do with how our mind works.
If your mind assumes that an argument with an acquaintance
was due to your own shortcomings,
causing them to never wanna associate with you,
therefore ruining your reputation,
you'll likely suffer from helplessness.
On the other hand,
if you believe that their irritability is temporary
and won't lead to actual adverse effects,
you won't be affected as much.
If you're still struggling today,
we hope that you can find a little bit of positivity
through the little things,
whether it's your pet, a walk in the park
or the lovely people in the most unexpected places.
Can you relate to any of the things discussed in this video?
Let us know in the comments below.
As always, the references and studies used
are listed in the description below.
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Take care, and as always, thanks for watching.
See you next time.