Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on how to
not get friend zoned. Three tips that will help you avoid
the friend zone forever. Let's face it, it is so much easier to stay out of the
friend zone than it is to get out. Sometimes you can
get out of the friend zone, sometimes frankly you just
can't. So it is a million times easier to just
avoid it, to not get friend-zoned right from the start.
These three tips that I'm going to be sharing with you are the secret to doing
just that. To avoiding the friend zone forever
so that you could instead just get the girl and stop wasting your time.
So if that's what you're interested in, if you want to make sure you stop
getting rejected and stop being alone and instead just get the girl, make sure
you watch to the end. Now before we hop right into the tips if
this is your first time watching be sure to subscribe and ring that
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dating coach for men. My specialty is helping you
know how to stop wasting your time, stop wasting your money, stop being rejected,
and learn the skills to just be able to get your ideal girlfriend. So be sure to
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how to not get friend zoned. And you guys said
yes. And the truth is I know the friend zone is a terrible place to be so I'm so
excited to bring you this video. P.S. if you do
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that, let's dive in with tip number one on how to not get
friend zoned. First thing you need to know to stay out
of the friend zone forever is that you need to increase your
confidence. If you are struggling with being in the
friend zone a lot your confidence is going to be key.
Confidence is important for a couple of reasons. One, it's incredibly attractive
to women. Everyone on the planet enjoys being
around confident people. And one of the main things a woman is
looking for in her man is confidence. This makes you more
attractive, it makes you more masculine, and it makes her feel more safe with you.
One of the big things that keeps guys in the friend zone is lack of confidence.
Partially because if you don't have confidence you
you never act, you never pursue her, and that
causes you to be friend zoned. If you've been following my channel for a while
you know I talk about confidence a lot. But a common question is "okay then what
is confidence? How do I get confident?" There's
actually a lot of misunderstandings about this. A lot of people say it's just
like "oh hey. Man up and make it happen." And the truth is that's not the whole
picture. The best way I have found to explain this is with
an image that I'm going to throw up on the screen for you right now. Now
this is actually what is known as the dunning-kruger effect. This is psychology.
This is what every single person goes through whenever we learn
something new. So it is 100% normal. So if you look at the left side of this
image you see that when we start to learn
something new and we're a beginner we all of a sudden take like
this huge shot of confidence, right? And we're like "yes!
I know everything there is to know about this topic."
One way I like to think of it is it's kind of like when you learn the alphabet.
You're like "oh my goodness." Do you remember as a kid? It's like
"wow I know everything because I now know the alphabet."
But then as you like go on you start to realize "well now I have to learn how
to spell and read and write." And you start to get discouraged and you
realize "wow I didn't really know as much as I thought I did.
Maybe I'm kind of stupid. This is hard" and you start to settle
down into that valley of despair. Have you ever felt that feeling, that valley
of despair? We all have, right? I have certainly been there.
Now ideally what happens is we keep moving along
the graph. We keep going to the right which is gaining more knowledge.
You learn how to read, you learn how to write, you learn how to spell. This causes
you to go up the slope of enlightenment as you're gaining knowledge and
confidence. And pretty soon you're at the plateau of sustainability
and you're just a master at this. You know how to read, you know how to write.
Personally I'm still not that good at spelling but you know,
who's counting? [laughter] But ultimately you
become confident at that, right?
Well the same is true with anything we learn including
dating and relationships. What I see keep so many men
single, so many good men single, is false confidence.
They're in the first stage on the left side of this
picture. They're on the peak of mount misinformed
thinking they know everything and it gives them a quick boost of confidence.
They they saw something in high school and they think that that's what's
going to work. Or they saw something on TV, they think that's what is going to
work. They got a quick trick off of the
internet and think "hey this is the secret!" And they hit the peak
of mount misinformed. And then when it doesn't go the way they want it to
then they start thinking "well maybe I'm just a loser" and they settle down into
the valley of despair. "Well it's just because nobody's ever
going to want me" and they settle down into the valley of despair.
Now unfortunately so many people have no idea
that they had false confidence. They have no idea that they didn't have the
knowledge they needed and we're hanging out on the peak of
mount misinformed. And so they either just stay in the
valley of despair or they go backwards and they hop back up to the peak of
mount misinformed. That is not real confidence. You are
going to never get your ideal girl that way and you're
gonna stay in the friend zone that way. Instead to create real confidence you
have to gain more knowledge. You have to move
to the right and you have to go up that slope of enlightenment. The more
knowledge you get the better you get at dating, the better
you get at being attractive, the better you get
at being able to get your ideal girlfriend. So
the ultimate way to gain confidence is you have to gain more knowledge.
Otherwise you just stay on the peak of mount misinformed which
some people actually call the peak of mount stupidity.
Because it's stupid to stay there if instead you could move on and gain more
knowledge. So ultimately the secret to being
confident is to be competent, to gain more
knowledge. This is how you really truly have confidence. This is the
problem with just saying "oh I'm just gonna alpha up and just make it happen."
If you're on the peak of mount misinformed there's so much you don't
know and you're gonna fail and you're gonna end up in the valley of despair.
If instead you just learn the knowledge you need and you become very
very competent at this well then instead you
don't have that fake high and then that really low
low. You instead just become a boss at this. This is
actually why the number one thing I hear from my clients who go through my paid
program is that their confidence soars, that
they have confidence like they've never known before. It's because they are
learning how to become competent in addition to how to become more
attractive, and this is what creates real lasting confidence.
I am actually giving away three paid lessons from my program
totally for free so you can take it for a test drive
right now. If you're sick of being alone and if you're sick of being single and
sick of being friend zoned and you just want real, lasting
confidence be sure to take advantage of that
right now. There's a link in the description below and I will pin a link
in the pinned comment. Take it for a test drive,
no credit card required, and honestly see how you can benefit
from learning how to just be confident by gaining the
knowledge you need to get that ideal girlfriend. So check out that
link down below right now. But again to sum up the way to become confident
is to become good at it, to become competent.
And if you want to stay out of the friend zone becoming confident is key.
Let's move on to our second tip on how to not get friend zoned.
Tip number two is to pursue her. I did just do a video that covers a lot
about pursuing. Looks like this. There is a link in the
description below if you'd like even more on this.
But in short pursuing is something God created women to need.
And if you want her to see you as a man and as an attractive man and someone she
would want to get to know better and someone she would want to date
then you need to pursue her. If you present yourself
as just a friend, someone who's just fun to hang out with,
then that's really the only option she has is to see you that way.
You are teaching her how to treat you and how to see you.
If instead you present yourself as an attractive man
who is interested and interesting well then that is instead
how she can see you. So it's very critical to make sure you make a move.
If you just act like your friends, even if she was interested at some point,
she's going to assume you're not interested because you never made a move.
And she's going to go find a man who will and who
is interested in her. So honestly the best way to stay in the friend zone is
to act like just a friend. Instead you need to act like someone who
she would want to date. Tip number three with how to not get
friend zoned is you need to know how to be attractive
to her. Attraction really is a science. And
what's so beautiful about that is once you know that attraction is a science it
actually becomes really easy. You follow the the specific steps and
then it's like a piece of cake instead of an impossible code to crack.
Again if you are presenting yourself as just a friend then that's how she's
going to see you. But if you present yourself
as an attractive man who knows that you are amazing and who has enough
self-worth to not get stuck in the friend zone
then that's how she's going to see you. Now I do want to clarify. When I say you
need to know how to attract her what most people think is "oh I don't
have a six-pack so she's never gonna like me."
That's not true. As a matter of fact there are tons of men with six-packs who
do not have girlfriends, okay? That's reality. So there's so much
more that goes into being an attractive person than most people realize.
Because again they're living on the peak of mount misinformed.
So being confident is going to make your attraction soar. She is going to be very
attracted to a confident man. The same is to be
said for pursuing. Again this is just the science behind
what attracts a woman and it's not all looks. It has so much more to do with
knowing how to flirt with her, knowing how to talk to her, your body
language. All of those things really come together to make you
attractive and make her feel like "whoa, I don't want
to just be friends with him. I like want to date him, I want to get to
know him better." And she starts crushing on you
and ultimately falls in love with you. This is actually why in my program How
to Get a Girlfriend I teach you how to both be confident
and attractive. They work together to make you
a very very attractive person, an irresistible person.
And the truth is being attractive is very very simple when you have the right
game plan. So again make sure you take advantage of that
sneak peek at my program. Click the link in the description below
or the link in the pinned comment. Take it for a test drive
totally free. I've actually been thinking about doing a video specifically on
how to attract women and how to get a girl to like you. Is that something you
guys would be interested in? If it is be sure to let me know in the comments.
So to sum up real fast, if you want to make sure
you stay out of the friend zone forever, if you want to avoid being friend zoned,
number one thing you need to have is confidence. We get confidence by being
competent, by gaining more knowledge and becoming better at dating and
relationships. Tip number two is to pursue her. If you act like just a
friend then that's how she's going to see you.
But if you instead act like someone interesting and attractive to date
then that's how she's going to see you. Tip number three is just understand the
science of attracting women. And no, it's not just about looks. It's about who
you are as a person that really makes you
irresistible to her. And if you would like my help
with knowing how to do that be sure to check out your free sneak peek
at my program How to Get a Girlfriend. There's link in the description and a
link in the pinned comment below. Seriously if you're sick of being friend
zoned and if you're sick of being alone you need to check it out right now. Thank
you so much for watching my amazing friend! Be sure to give me a
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on the friend zone? How to stay out of it, how to get out of it? If you would be
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friends on social media check out the links for that in the description below.
And if you have a friend who's really struggling with the friend zone please
share this with him. I know it would help him
so much. Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing
day. [blooper beep]
Okay. I have this terrible feeling I am forgetting something but I have no
idea what it would be. So hopefully it's not. [laughter]
Hello my wonderful friend! Today's-
It's gonna bug me. Okay, now we're good. [chuckle] Some quick tips and ins- [messed up]
What is that word? What is that word? I have no idea. [laughter]
Well, there's a word that means something. [laughter] Good to know.