- In this video,
I'm gonna show you the three magnetic secrets
that all empaths must know in order to be magnetic,
and in order to have irresistible energy.
Now, first off, let's define what an empath is.
Most likely, if you're clicking this video,
then you're an empath because you wouldn't
have clicked on it.
And also, an empath is somebody that is able
to feel other people's emotions.
Many times what other people are thinking.
There are people that are very empathetic,
so, means when someone else is telling a story,
they're able to really feel where they're coming from.
And empathy is something that in a way,
empathetic people just,
they have a strong dose of it to where they
can really feel into situations.
They can feel into other people in a way
that sometimes other people may have trouble doing so.
Now there's also this dynamic when it comes to empath,
I'm gonna share with you in this video,
that will help change your perspective
of it to help you in a way
become more strong in your own frame.
Because remember this, when it comes to magnetic energy,
when it comes to attraction,
people feel what you feel about you.
And sometimes the biggest challenge with an empath is
that empaths can feel what everybody else feels.
And sometimes they're feeling what everyone else
is feeling instead of what they actually feel.
Really hear that because this is many times the missing key
for a lot of people, understanding magnetic energy.
Empaths can feel everyone else's energy.
And sometimes empaths will then only feel what
other people are feeling.
And when it comes to attraction, people feel what you feel.
So the key is actually tuning
into what you are feeling and remaining safe in that energy
because that energy will emanate off
and other people will feel it.
Now, the first thing that you wanna do to
have magnetic energy as an empath
is to not define this sensitivity
or being an empath as a negative thing.
Don't define it as a negative thing.
Like, I did this in a different video when I was talking
about magnetic seekers for introverts,
where if people that are introverts just own the fact
that they're an introvert or own that energy,
and don't think they need to be something other
than they are,
that's very magnetic because when you own,
maybe if you own being more quiet,
then that can be very attractive
because people feel what you feel.
So if you own it, other people will see it.
There's no problem with it.
But if you're like, oh, I'm an empath,
I feel other people's energy,
there's something wrong with me,
people feel that energy.
But when it comes to an empath,
it's very important to remember that, yes,
maybe you can feel other people's energy.
But a lot of times I believe this also came
from a childhood trauma of not feeling safe
as a kid and looking to tune
to the outside to gain a sense of safety.
So it's like, okay, I will feel safe
once mom and dad is feeling good.
If I ease the tension in the family dynamic.
And that's a lot of times, empaths are people that went
through childhood trauma that then had to feel safe somehow.
And the way they go to feel safe is they tune
to others in order to help.
That's why a lot of times empaths
are very giving people as well.
A lot of times empaths have trouble receiving,
but it's very easy for them to give,
because they had to give and they had to help their mom
or their dad or their family growing up to ease the tension,
to get everyone feeling good.
They had to be the glue of their family.
The challenge is that when it comes
to sexual polarity and it comes to energy,
if we're trying to fix the people we're with or dating,
that depolarizes the relationship, the dynamic.
So one of the most attractive things for you to do
as an empath is to actually pull your energy back,
pull it back and start asking yourself the question,
who am I, and what am I passionate about?
What do I wanna say in this situation?
Because empaths sometimes will also hold themselves back
from being the real them.
But the first secret of it is to own it.
Just to own it, and don't think it's a bad thing.
If anything, you could reframe it and you can see
that being an empath actually helps you to listen.
And in dating and magnetic energy in general,
there's a lot of times people just talk, talk, talk, talk.
And I think the way they're gonna win someone over
is if they just keep talking,
and they're interesting while they're talking.
It's actually the other way around.
The more you listen and the more you're curious
and the more you're energetically present,
the more attractive you are.
There's a stillness that is very attractive
that you can begin to embody.
Now, the second thing that empaths must know
in order to have that magnetic energy that makes
them irresistible is very simple, but very powerful,
and it took me a while to learn.
And that is, learning to say no.
Learning to say no, and learning to have boundaries.
Because empaths, many times,
will have trouble setting boundaries.
Because literally if I set a boundary with you,
I'm gonna feel what you feel.
And if you're disappointed
in me for setting these boundaries,
then I'm gonna feel disappointed.
But remember this mantra, this was a game changer for me,
that's your shit, not mine.
If you set boundaries with somebody
and they're angry with you, that's their stuff to deal with,
not yours.
It's not your problem.
It's not your thing to fix them or to make them happy.
So this is an understanding of that dynamic.
And understand as well,
when you have boundaries, it is exuding value in a way.
I remember when I was dating someone a while ago,
like two years ago, maybe, or a year and a half ago.
And there was this person that was a great person.
However, somebody that would cross
the boundary when it comes to valuing my own time.
It's like, if we were gonna hang out,
then it was like three or four hours later.
I would get a text that said, "Oh, I overslept,"
or something, and that would keep happening.
And then eventually I drew the line and I said,
"I'm not putting up with this anymore."
I drew the line. I drew a hard line too.
And pretty much just cut it off.
And that really took this person and surprised them.
And I could tell that the act of doing that
for me was me reclaiming back my own sense
of worth when it comes to my own time.
But also this other person,
it completely had an effect on them
to where they were all of a sudden way more attracted
or way more like, I'm sorry, I'll make sure I do this.
I do that.
And then from that point, going forward,
that never happened again.
But I could definitely see that before I was molding myself
and almost having a lack of boundaries because
it was a self-worthiness thing,
but it's very unattractive to not have
your own sense of standard.
Doesn't mean you're like a,
like, your super dictatorship when it comes
to time and stuff like that.
But there's a value.
I was like, wait, I need to value my own time.
And I'm not gonna wait around for like an hour or two,
and then make plans,
and then they fall through.
So saying no is actually more attractive.
And not only that though, it's also self-respective.
And self-respect is something that's very magnetic,
very attractive.
But the more you learn to say no,
I remember learning to say no when friends wanted
to hang out and stuff like that.
And it was interesting,
because the more I was able to say no
and also just not feel guilty
knowing if they're mad about it, that's on them,
it was like the more empowered I felt.
Because I was like, wait,
I don't have to say yes to things I don't wanna do anymore.
And sometimes for empaths too,
if you're getting hit on by somebody and you're an empath,
you might have trouble saying, no.
I've had friends that have done this,
where a guy comes up to them and asks for their number,
and they can't say no, if they're not interested.
They have to like give up their number.
And then they waste time texting and stuff like that.
So one thing my friend had to learn,
is my friend had to learn how to say no.
No, sorry. Not giving you my number, not interested.
There's nothing wrong with that either.
Because that's emphasizing value.
Not in a dick way, I'm just gonna be a dick to people.
The thing with empathy is people that are empathic
sometimes have trouble showing emotional,
physical or social vulnerability.
Emotional vulnerability is like,
this is how I actually feel about you.
Sometimes empaths may remain
in the friend zone a little bit too long
or not make it clear that, hey,
I'm actually sexually attracted to you.
Physical vulnerability, maybe actually going up
to somebody is something that's kind of scary.
But I promise you the more you do it,
the more comfortable you get with it,
putting yourself in the unknown.
Physically, even for me,
like when I started dating my girlfriend,
I was very physically like touching her
and showing my interest.
I wasn't like, ooh, let's just be friends,
and let's just meditate and talk about aliens and stuff.
It wasn't like that.
It was like, I was actually showing intention,
and physically not afraid to be touchy-feely,
and showing interest.
Now, of course, there's a way to do that
without being creepy.
Any of these can be done on the other side of it as well.
Emotional vulnerability, you can go,
I just feel this way, and you start crying or something.
And that could be a little bit much for this situation.
But in general, showing vulnerability,
expressing how you feel to somebody else,
physical vulnerability.
Social vulnerability is being able
in a social environment to put yourself out there.
Not being afraid of what other people think.
These are all very attractive qualities
that will feel,
understand that the only reason someone's afraid of it
that's an empath is because in the past it
hasn't been safe to put yourself out there vulnerably
because you probably got shut down,
or maybe there was some type of abandonment wound.
But one of the most magnetic things you could do
is to actually get into those situations,
because the more you do it,
the more confident you will feel
and the more easy it will become as well.
Now, another thing that empaths a lot
of times have trouble really connecting with
is they feel like they're afraid of tension, tension.
Tension to empaths and people pleasers
is a very bad thing because tension
as a kid was a bad thing.
Mom and dad getting mad,
or somebody getting mad was not a good thing.
And the challenge that empaths then sensitively tune
to everything to make sure no one else feels tension again.
But then what happens is in sexual polarity
and sexual dynamics and dating and magnetic energy,
it is very important to be able to sit with tension,
to be able to sit in uncomfortable situations.
And tension, like, think about it.
if you have an abandonment wound
or you're afraid of getting rejection,
you might be afraid of actually showing your sexual interest
in somebody and letting them know, hey, I like you.
Or I'm attracted to you.
Because what if they reject?
What if they don't agree or something like that?
Being afraid to go into that energy and to express it,
is keeping it depolarized,
and it's keeping the truth from coming out,
that you might be interested in someone.
So one thing it's important to get good at,
or at least intend for, is to sit in tension,
to sit in tension.
I had to learn how to do this.
Even like, with that one girl I was talking
about where my time and everything,
there was a moment when I went
to the gym and I saw this person and she was like,
I cut it off or whatever.
And then I saw her and she was like,
trying to make up for it.
And I was firm.
I was like, "Well, listen,
I understand you just don't prioritize hanging out
and that's okay, but I'm not putting up with it any longer."
And it was very awkward.
But after that I went and worked out,
she went and worked out.
She then texted me and was like, so apologetic.
And like, she had all these,
I could tell was a powerful thing to sit in was that energy.
So, realize tension is your friend. Tension is a good thing.
Tension is something that was bad as a kid,
but now it is actually very important to not be afraid
of being in tension and to polarize people
to either liking you or not liking you
by showing the real you.
Doesn't mean you're going out to like,
ruffle people's feathers and stuff like that.
But in general, it is a good thing if you sway someone
into polarizing liking you one way or the other.
Because then, you're not wasting your time.
And here's the thing,
the people that wouldn't like you anyways,
maybe then don't wanna be around you.
That's okay.
People that would kind of like you, now really like you
because they get to see the real you.
So don't be afraid to express the real you,
to express what you really think and feel.
To be vulnerable, that's really one of the biggest keys
of empaths, is to actually be vulnerable.
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And then also, there is a video right here that
is going viral on empaths.
If you haven't checked it out yet,
it's one of the best videos that you can watch.
If you are an empath, watch this video right here.
In this video, I believe is one of
the most profound ideas that has changed my life
when it comes to understanding what
it means to be an empath.
And recently I was in a live Q&A
I was doing for one of my groups,
and I shared this idea and I could tell that it was.