in This video I'm going to be talking about how to know if you have social
anxiety and five key hallmarks.
So you can understand if you suffer from these symptoms and it's social
anxiety, all that's coming up.
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So I, um, like I said, in, in the start I have autism and autism comes
with a bunch of different things.
And one of the main things is social anxiety now, social anxiety.
is Something that can impact someone's life a lot.
And it seems to be on the rise.
Now, a lot of people in the, uh, the developing world, uh, are suffering more
and more with mental health conditions.
There's no mental health conditions.
They can really impact your life in very serious ways.
Um, that impact can have a huge, devastating effect on your day-to-day
life, your relationships, your love life, your family, life, everything.
Well, one of the things is to know what something is, identify it,
and then look for the, on the right assessment, the right treatment or
the right therapy for that thing.
So some people may think like, Oh, Hey, you know, I'm having these issues.
What is it?
Is it anxiety?
Is it social anxiety?
I don't know.
So I'm here to help you and I've mapped out.
Five of the most, um, uh, common symptoms that you can really think about.
And that, that relates to social anxiety to know that you have no social anxiety.
So it was going to go through those right now, before we do, let me
know where you're watching from.
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Okay guys, so let's go through it.
So number one is feeling overwhelmingly, worried when out
in public slash in busy places.
And what I mean by this is if you're in a shopping center or a mall or
in a city now, a lot of people think that this would be agoraphobic, right?
But this is actually one of the main common characteristics of
social anxiety, because there's a.
Well, there's a lot of social interaction going on.
There's people walking past you as people trying to sell your stuff.
There's people that trying to sell you stuff on the street.
You have to interact with shopkeepers and like people at tills, and then you
have to interact with security guards.
And especially now with the whole COVID-19 thing, you have to sometimes
have your temperature check.
You have to wear a mask.
The whole like shebang is this busy-ness of noise.
It's a noise.
Is going on around you and it can feel overwhelming.
And that overwhelming feeling that like urge to feel safe and relaxed, um, it gets
overshadowed by this overwhelming worry and that worry is something that eats
away at you and it causes a lot of issues.
Now, this, this feeling is kind of like.
If someone was to describe it, it would be like throwing a
bucket of cold water over you.
And you're out in public yet.
Ah, you know, I'm freezing and I'm so uncomfortable.
I feel really awkward, but it's overwhelming.
It makes you worry because you know, that going into that situation is
going to make you, uh, overwhelmed.
So you worry about even going to the situation, let alone
being in that situation.
And feeling overwhelmed and worried.
So this is very, very common.
Now, if you know somebody who's like this, and this is typically probably
a hallmark of social anxiety and you know, what's funny, a lot of
people feel like this when they go to shopping centers or public things like
parties or pubs or clubs or whatever.
And they don't know that it's actually social anxiety and they just go with
it and they deal with it and they feel like crap because they're trying.
So just overcome this to be normal and on what is normal.
But I just wanted to say that, you know, it's not a bad thing.
A lot of people do this and there are therapies for it,
and there are ways to help it.
And I'm going to do a video, all about therapies for social
anxiety and ways to treat it.
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Okay.
So number two is panic attacks.
In large public gatherings.
Now panic attacks can happen in like, you know, you can have all families
Christmas and you have an overwhelming kind of like, Oh my God, you know,
there's so much going on, you have a panic attack, pressure on your chest and
you look like breathing and he start kind of like crying and get all emotional.
And you have this huge panic attack.
Panic attacks happened because of anxiety.
And if you're in a.
Public gathering a public space.
If you're in like a mall or a parent's house or a restaurant
or a club or a party that is a public gathering of large people.
And if you're having a panic attack, when you're in those situations, this
is probably down to social anxiety.
I mean, yeah.
If you combine that with the overwhelm, worry about going to a public place, then
getting there and having a panic attack.
I mean, there you go.
That's that's your, your issue then?
Okay guys.
So number three is avoidance of seeing friends due to anxiety.
Now this is a common something that is missed because people like
say, Hey, you know, we're friends, we'll call you up and be like, Hey.
Do you want to come out, we're going to go to this pizza place and then
we're going to go probably hit up.
Like, I don't know, a club or something or games kind of club or whatever.
Right.
And then you're like, Oh, you want to see your friends?
Do you want to eat pizza and play games?
But then you also, like, I don't want to be around loads of people and I just
want to chill and I feel safe in my home.
And there's nothing wrong with that.
Right.
You, you, you should allow yourself time to feel like, uh, like that.
And that's absolutely fine.
But the, um, the, the overwhelming, uh, avoidance or of wanting to see
friends because you go, no, no, it, it literally is just too upsetting for me.
And it's too kind of overwhelming for me because you know, you're
going to get anxious about it.
You know, it's causing you anxiety and you know that it's going to cause an
overload or meltdown or a panic attack.
This is caused by social anxiety.
That kind of fear of wanting to go out that avoidance.
Is it again, a hallmark of you not going out and.
Friends will be like, Oh, you know, you never can not, you gotta prompt this once.
And it might be pressured into going out and it causes a whole kind of thing
and you don't feel great about it.
And I mean, I've been there all the time.
I've been there and I don't do it anymore because I go, it's my life.
I need to take charge of it.
I need to take care of my health and everything.
So yeah, just remember that, you know, you are your own person as well, so
you don't have to do those things.
But It's a very common thing in social anxiety.
Number four is chest pain and neck pain when in social settings
or in social environments.
So if you're in a club or if you're in a party or, or a gathering of something or
on a dinner, or there's lots of family around and stuff, what happens is that
the anxiety causes a stress in you.
And that stress impulse starts to tighten up things like shortness of breath,
which then could cause and like attack.
But the pressure is on the back of your neck.
And you're like, Oh, you know, it just needs that tension going.
If you get this in social situations, I'm telling you guys it's because
you have social anxiety and kicking your butt and you don't even know it.
Social anxiety is probably the most annoying part of being on the
spectrum, but it's something that, like I said, it impacts your life.
I mean, when are you not in a social situation, unless you're laying in
bed or in your house all alone, right?
Or in the shower?
You never out of a social situation.
So these are all very interesting.
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I'm reaching you and you and stand.
Um, and so we're going to go through the last one now and at that number five.
Is post social interaction crash.
Now what I was saying before about friends kind of pressuring
you to go out and do something.
If you get pressured into doing those things and you'd go out and do those
things and you get this overwhelming pressure to do so, and you go out and you
kind of like, ah, you feel anxious and overwhelmed and you're sweating a bit, but
you're going through it and you have your piece and you go to the game club and then
you come home and you just crash, like, boom, you know, you just hit the deck
and you feel like you've drunk all night, but you haven't drank a sip of alcohol.
You feel hung over.
Your head hurts.
You need to go sleep.
You don't know what to do.
You're irritated, but you feel sick, but there's nothing happened other
than the fact that you went out to see your friends and you went to like
maybe a club or, or someone that is social anxiety, giving its full effect.
And that is the outcome from it.
Okay.
But that's something that you need to avoid that outcome.
It has no place in your life because that's not going to be any good for you.
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