- This topic makes me so happy.
I can't believe I haven't done a video on this yet.
What's up socials?
Welcome back to my channel.
Today I wanna talk about what you need
to go after the life you want.
If you're not familiar, I usually say the same thing
at the end of every video, essentially,
what you need to do in order to go after the life you want
and it has something to do with
what we talk about every day.
It's tailored to whatever that subject was.
You guys have known, I've said this for a while,
the reason I wanted to talk about it is
because I feel like at the root
of why people watch these videos is that
they are trying to achieve something
that is ultimately going to fulfill them,
get them excited about life or business or career
or whatever it is and I just like reminding everyone
the larger purpose behind if you're gonna make video
or if you're gonna use social media,
if you're gonna network with people
or what you have to do to achieve certain areas of success.
I feel like pointing out the big picture
is important, on a regular basis.
That being said, I think maybe sometimes people feel
really excited by that sort of phrase
when we talk about it at the end of the video,
but also are always wrapping their mind around
am I really pushing myself forward in that direction
or am I only focused on the short goal.
So I thought it would be kinda cool to talk about
what exactly do you need, in order to mobilize yourself
to be able to go after what you want,
no matter what that is.
No one is telling you to start a business
unless you want to.
No one is telling you you need a new job,
unless you think you need one.
Anything you want, what is it that you need
in order to make that happen.
That's what we're gonna talk about.
So here we go.
This is so fun.
First and foremost, you need clarity.
You can't go after what you want
if you don't know what you want.
That being said, you can be kind of inclined to understand
what you want and maybe not be full on
like this is for certain.
That's what happened to me.
I left my job, whatever it was, six years ago
and I thought this is gonna be it, I think,
but I have to try it first to really know.
And if I didn't try it, I wouldn't have had that clarity.
I had to taken certain risk in order to
achieve that clarity, but I eventually got it.
You do wanna start to get familiar with
what are you excited about, what lights you up,
what do you wanna spend your free time doing,
what is it that's happening at work
that you actually really enjoy?
What are those things?
So that you can start to get clear around what you want.
Maybe it has nothing to do with your career.
Maybe it has more to do with your personal life.
Maybe it has to do with your home life.
It doesn't matter what it is.
Get very clear about it,
because it's super easy
to do the day to day stuff on the ...
What are those things the hamsters ride on, the wheel?
You can do this stuff every day,
but if you don't have the big picture in mind,
it is going to feel like you never get there,
because quite frankly,
you never gave yourself a destination to get to.
Clarity, first and foremost,
none of the rest matter if you don't have it.
Next you're gonna need belief,
belief in yourself.
Belief in the process.
Belief in the hard road ahead of you.
It is really, really difficult when you know what you want
and the people around you may or may not understand it
and therefore are so inclined to impact you
with their feelings about it.
It's amazing when you're not really sure
of your belief in yourself, but everybody else
is pretty full of belief that you can't do it.
I remember having very difficult conversations
with people close to me where I would try to explain
this is what I want, this is what I'm gonna do,
this is how I'm gonna make it happen and them say,
"I don't think that that's something
"that you can or should do."
And that's never going to be helpful.
It's going to happen.
So if you don't have that belief in yourself
or the belief that you have the ability to at least try,
you're not gonna get anywhere very quickly.
Then you have clarity and no belief
and it's like what do you do with that.
What do you do with that?
Just sit in your head like, yep, pretty sure
about what I want, but too bad nobody's gonna hand it to me.
That sucks.
So you have to have that belief in yourself,
even if it feels like you're just pumping yourself
with belief you're not quite sure you have yet,
which I've been there as well, because
there's gonna be other people
who are gonna let you know that they think you're an idiot.
They don't seem to mind.
They're just gonna load you up with that.
Do you really want that?
You better have someone in your camp, you,
to fight against that when it's time.
Next you're gonna need your word.
Your word is a big deal,
especially, let's say, if you're going after
a new career path and you're gonna have to do
some free, unpaid work for a while,
you definitely need to be able to say,
I'm gonna show up, I'm gonna do this
and I'm gonna get it done, so that stuff really does pay off
for you in the long run and you can actually say
look what I've done.
Maybe I didn't get paid for it,
♪ But look how great it was ♪
Because now I'm further along.
I've grown because of it, because I showed up
and said I was gonna do what I wanted to do.
So I got really clear about it,
I believed I could do it and then I actually did it.
When I said what I was gonna do,
when I said I was gonna be somewhere,
when I said I was gonna get something done,
when I said it would be done by the deadline it happens.
I can't tell you how bewildered people are
by the fact that when I say I'm gonna do something
and I do it that those two things come together,
because there are so many people
who don't stick to their word.
Don't be one of those people,
because when you're not it's amazing
how much further ahead that you are than them.
Instead of just being average, mediocre or to be expected,
because most people don't stick with their word,
you get to be the badass.
There was no other word for it.
I'm sorry, I had to cuss.
The fourth think you're gonna need is the lesson.
You got clear, you have the belief,
you did the thing you said you were gonna do it
and you did it and now you have to learn from it,
because it might be some you're like,
eh, I thought I wanted that, but that was not that great.
Actually that wasn't all it was chalked up to be at all.
Or maybe you did it, maybe you got closer,
maybe it wasn't as easy, maybe it wasn't as amazing
as you thought it would be, but it was
because you needed to learn some things.
Maybe it was because you don't have enough experience yet.
Maybe it's because you didn't treat people
the way that you probably should have
and you need to reassess how you're doing that.
You always need a lesson from everything you do
on your way to getting what you want
or doing the things that you want,
because if you want it to continue
you need to follow a positive pattern
and the only way you're gonna do that
is by learning the lesson.
So learn those lessons.
Do not regret anything.
If something didn't go as planned it's okay.
You showed up, you did the thing you said you were gonna do,
now learn from it and then fix it next time
or do the same thing again next time, if it went great.
Oh, my god.
Success stories are my favorite lesson, obviously.
Those of us who have a hard time taking criticism
love the success stories,
but if they were not good, it's okay.
Do not freak out.
Just
learn the lesson.
The final thing I think you absolutely need,
in order to go after the life that you want,
and this is something I always have to work on,
because I'm constantly on that hamster wheel
and I'm always doing, I'm always doing.
I say I'm going to do something and then I do it
and then I say I'm gonna do something and I do it.
I'm busy and I'm freakin' busy
and I'm doing all these things and sometimes I'm like,
Oh I just wrote a book and it's a best seller.
Awesome, cool, wait, what?
What?
The last thing you need is celebration.
Celebration can take the form of anything that you want.
It can just be gratefulness.
It can be just sipping a cup of coffee, like yeah I'm good.
Yes.
It can be whatever you want,
but if you don't take that time to reward yourself,
I think it's a lot harder for you to feel like
you're actually achieving the thing that you set out to do.
I certainly, like I said, have that issue,
because I'm constantly doing and I'm forgetting
to reward myself unless it's like for tacos.
I'm very good at rewarding myself with tacos,
but you're not supposed to do it with food,
I don't think, that's what the healthy people will tell you.
But you have to find those ways of saying to yourself,
nice job.
Those opportunities to award yourself,
whether it's just like to go get a massage
or to take a day off or to do something.
You have to set that thing out and say,
I can't have that until I do the thing.
It's not just bait at the end of the stick or whatever,
the pole, I don't know.
It's the moment that you get to have that celebration
and say, okay, your job is to celebrate now, Amy.
Turn your brain off.
Celebrate and realize the reason
you're sitting in this moment is because you did something
and if you don't fully absorb it
and you just keep doing, doing, doing, doing
it may or may not set in that you're doing a good job.
So those are the five things that I think you need;
clarity, belief, your word, the lesson
and a celebration, of course.
What's missing?
What do you think I left out?
I would love to hear what you think.
Leave that in the comments below.
What else do you need to go after what you want.
That's all for today, socials.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it.
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When you subscribe it's one of
those celebration moments for me,
where I get to say, oh, I'm making good videos,
because people want to watch them, yay.
Remember to follow these five pieces of advice
and get them in your life, so that you can continue
to go after what you want.
Cheers.
I feel like my jacket made a lot of noise.
I'm sorry. (laughing)
Woo.
Oh, the wine refrigerator just kicked on.
Timing.
Fabulous