By the end of this video,
you are going to know what they are and
yes, they do have them,
yes, I know you think they don't, but they do.
So, stay tuned and find out what they are.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am a narcissist negotiation expert, a lawyer and author and
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All right, so let's talk about what it takes
to actually become powerful against narcissists and
really find out what their weak spots are,
they do have at least six weak spots and
we're going to talk about what those are today.
They are so greedy.
Yes, I know you might not think that that is a weak spot,
but it is, and especially in negotiations,
because they don't know when to stop,
they don't know when to stop themselves and
so there's a dance that happens in negotiations,
there's a dance as to when to stop,
as to when to know, okay, when is enough enough?
When is it a good time to actually make the call to get the resolution done,
to actually enter into the agreement,
so that, all the parties can be happy and
you can actually sign the agreement and
especially during litigation, and
the reason I'm telling you this is because
if you sign an agreement during litigation,
then it is a contract, it is done, all the parties are done.
It is now bound by contract law.
If you don't sign during a litigation and
it proceeds to a trial of some sort,
even if you win a 100% of everything,
the other side can appeal.
That means that you can go on forever and ever and ever.
Well, not really, but it kind of seems like that
because appeals can take a long time,
they're very expensive and hard to win.
So, it's really, really better if you can actually settle in a mediation
or arbitration or a dispute resolution setting and
the fact that narcissists are so greedy is actually a weak spot for them.
So, that's number one.
They are greedy, huge weak spot for them.
They are super insecure and that makes them super weak
because they look over at people, they feel like,
Why do they have this? Why do they have that?
Who deserves that? I deserve this,
so they can never be happy for one thing and
it also makes them weak,
it exposes them to all sorts of weaknesses,
the people who are happy for other people are way stronger,
way more powerful than the people
who are constantly looking at other people.
I always say like, the people who are running their own race
are way more powerful than the people who
are like looking behind them constantly,
that slows you down, right?
You know how when you're running a race and
you're looking behind you to see who's like behind you,
that does slow you down and
that's what happens with narcissists,
they’re constantly looking to see what's going on and
surveying to see what's happening and
that really, really does slow them down and
so their jealousy does slow them down and
that is definitely a weak spot for them.
So, that's number two, they are so jealous.
They have absolute blinders on, they have no ability to see
anybody's points of view other than their own and
of course, this is a huge weak spot when it comes to negotiations,
when it comes to having conversations with people,
when it comes to being open to any kind of resolution,
because obviously, if you want to get anything done,
if you want people to feel like they matter,
I wrote a whole book on this, Negotiate like you M.A.T.T.E.R.
You want people to feel like they're being seen and heard
because that makes things much more likely to move forward,
then you should be able to see other people's points of view and
the fact that they don't have that ability
is definitely a weak spot for them, and
they don't even realize what a weak spot it is for them and
they tend to lie all the time.
I did a whole video by the way on
What happens when you catch a narcissist in a lie and
they lie about everything,
even things they don't need to lie about
which is very, very puzzling to me, by the way,
I don't even understand that at all, but that's what happens.
Anyway, you can definitely check out that video if you'd like.
I always joke that narcissists hear tones and people's voices
like dogs here whistles, like even if there's like no tone at all,
you're just saying something,
they hear tone.
I mean, they're hyper, hyper, hyper sensitive
because they have no sense of self,
they have no inner sense of value,
so they're very, very thin skinned people,
I mean, they definitely are those people that can never take a joke,
you know that old saying like
“They can dish it out, but they can't take it”,
that is so definitely them,
they can never take criticism,
they can never like, learn from their mistakes,
they can never take even like criticism
that might be good for them, like feedback,
that may be good for them, that might actually help them,
so obviously that is a weak spot if theirs because
it might actually help them to improve.
Even when people aren’t.
They just think people are against them constantly,
they see the world is black and white,
they see the world as people are for them or against them and
if they're not for them, then, they must be against me and
if this person isn't on their side,
then, they must be their enemy,
they live in this world of friends, enemies and
absolutes constantly and everybody believes this,
or no one believes that and
it's a very, very slow sucking environment.
I know when I was dealing with it, that's how I felt like,
just like energy sucking all the time.
I know you guys don't think that this is a weak spot,
is a huge weak spot and
this is something that you can definitely use as leverage
when you are going to negotiate with them and
it is a huge thing that I tell people all the time,
when you're creating your strategy,
when you're creating your leverage,
when you're creating your whole negotiation, strategy,
I talk about this in my S.L.A.Y program a lot,
but you can definitely use this against them,
they're huge liars, it's a compulsion for them and
it is something they will not think that you will be able to
pick up on the patterns and actually use it against them.
But for sure, it's a huge weak spot for them.
So, if you are dealing with a narcissist,
in any kind of situation in a negotiation setting,
for sure, grab my free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet
at winmynegotiation.com.
It is a free e-book, it's 15 pages,
do not go into a negotiation without it, totally free,
I've had people win their entire negotiations with that,
so just grab it at winmynegotiation.com.
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or what other weak spots you guys have seen.
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Please remember that narcissists are always the worst
right before they're ready to give up,
so never give in, never give up.
Today is always a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am so glad you're here and
I will definitely see you in the next video.