- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers.
It's no secret that navigating love and relationships
can certainly be a tricky business,
but with the help of psychology,
we can tell a lot about how to decipher
a person's words and actions
to uncover their true feelings,
and love is no exception to this.
So if you are someone who's been worried
or wanna know your partner's true intentions,
then put your mind at ease
by learning more about whether someone is genuine or not.
Number one, they're only affectionate in public.
Think about how your partner shows you affection,
be it through a touch, a kiss, or a hug.
Now think about when they like to do this.
Is it usually when you're alone or with other people?
While it's certainly nice to be with someone
who isn't afraid to display their love for you in public,
it's another thing entirely when it's done only in public.
They might just be doing it to keep up appearances
that everything is fine in your relationship,
to keep other men from making a move on you,
or to make someone else jealous.
Number two, they prefer to spend their time with friends.
Does your partner spend more time
with their friends than with you?
Do they often cancel plans with you to be with them,
or prefer to keep you and their friends separate?
If the answer is yes,
then this is unfortunately a very telling sign
that while you and your partner might connect romantically,
they don't enjoy spending time with you
as much as with their friends.
That shows they might just be pretending to like you.
Number three, they don't prioritize your relationship.
It should go without saying
that you should never settle for someone
who doesn't make you a priority.
Does your partner not make time for you?
Are they not as dependable as you want them to be?
Do they often break their promises
or cancel your plans at the last minute?
Do they act like their life is more important than yours?
No matter how much they might say
they love and care about you,
it's all just empty words when they can't show up for you
and be there when you need them.
Number four, they don't give you their full attention.
Similar to the last point,
even if your partner finds the time
to see you and be with you,
they're still not giving you their full attention.
Their mind might still be at work,
distracted by their friend's drama,
or constantly checking their phone.
Their body language could be closed off and disinterested,
and they might not be making eye contact for long.
They're probably not really listening
to anything you have to say.
Number five, they try to change things about you.
When someone really loves you,
they'll accept you for the person you really are,
flaws and all.
That's not to say they would willingly turn a blind eye
to all of your faults,
but they certainly wouldn't force you to change either.
But someone who's only pretending to love you
will most likely try to change
the things about you they don't like
so you can better accommodate
their tastes and their preferences,
whether it's the way you look, what you do, or how you act.
Number six, they don't open up to you.
Have you been dating this person for a while now
and still know nothing about them?
Do you ever get the feeling
there might be a lot of things they keep from you
or hold back from telling you?
Achieving emotional intimacy
is one of the greatest milestones
we can have in a relationship,
so if your partner doesn't want to open up to you
but does so with other people,
then that's a sign that their feelings may not be genuine.
Number seven, they don't ask for your opinion.
When someone asks for your opinion,
especially when it comes to making important decisions,
it means that they truly care about what you think
and care about how their actions might affect you.
They value your opinion
and wanna see things from your point of view
because they respect you and view you as an equal.
And number eight, they don't make you feel loved.
Finally, but perhaps most importantly,
always listen to your intuition.
Does your gut feeling tell you
that something's not right in your relationship?
Even if everything seems fine at first glance,
listen to that feeling.
If your significant other isn't making you feel loved,
if their words don't align with their actions,
then it's going to bring about
a lot of confusion and insecurity from you.
As bestselling author and relationship expert
Charles Orlando once said,
"It's really simple: if they love you, you'll know it.
And if they don't, you'll constantly wonder if they do."
So, do you relate to any of the signs we've mentioned here?
Did this help you see more clearly
how your partner really feels about you?
If you've found yourself in a relationship
where your significant other
isn't being honest about their feelings with you,
then the best thing for you to do
would be to talk to them about it
and work out how to move forward from there.
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