Tik Tok influencer has some strong
thoughts about what is and
is not acceptable on a first date
and she's getting
a lot of backlash for it.
She's a makeup artist by the name
of Cornelia, and
let's hear her thoughts.
>> I do not accept a coffee or
a walk as a possible date
option and neither should you.
First of all, I'm not a dog that
needs to be walked second,
I have a on espresso machine
at home works fabulous.
We're not doing drinks either.
You're going to try to get me drunk
and they come back home.
No, we're doing dinner.
You're going to pick me up.
We're going to come to
the restaurant.
We're going to see your
table manners.
We're going to see what you order.
We're going to see do you hold your
chopsticks correctly?
We're just going to,
you know, study you a bit.
Okay, so dinner.
There it is.
>> Okay, so I think you can
probably understand why she got
a little bit of backlash for that,
and I disagree with her
on multiple fronts.
First of all, let's just note
the assumption that if you go out
to drinks with a guy or
with someone you're on a date with
there just attempting to get
you drunk like that.
Needless pre emptive like,
I guess that cynical nature.
It's unnecessary like
there are a lot of things in
life to be cynical about.
I think that goes a little too far
in my opinion.
>> Well look, do a lot of
guys try to get you drunk.
Sure, right but doesn't every guy,
of course not right and it depends
on what you're looking for.
And so I I have mixed feelings
about the store because I think
it's really interesting in in it
culturally and
in terms of relationships, etc.
So on the one hand,
she's unbearable, right?
We're going to see what your table
manners are like.
>> How you hold your chopsticks
what you order,
like too judgmental.
No.
>> Live,
come on >> No I when I was sick,
went on a million dates so I've
been on dates with folks like this.
Okay, I don't give her, well, you
know what I don't get I don't give
a crap but let's put it that way.
What you think at my table matters.
I don't care.
Have you judged my table matters to
be inappropriate and they're not
met up to your ethical standards.
I need you to piss off like,
in a big way could not care less.
I find you generally loathsome and
then she says
that then a study you a bit.
Will you?
Okay, well,
I already studied you and
decided you ain't worth it.
Okay, so now why does she react
the way that she does because
obviously she's very attractive.
So, >> Yes.
>> A lot of guys,
I'm sure try to come up to her and
buy her a bagel or whatever it is.
And she thinks, no,
I'm going to sell myself for
more than that.
I'm not sure that that's like a big
selling point, right like, >> Yeah.
>> And so but the one thing I
agree with her on and
why I have mixed feelings is well
that video is clarifying.
So, good that would tell me I don't
want to date you.
I have no interest in you.
>> That's true, yeah.
>> It's spares me a lot of time,
swipe left or right or
whatever the kids do these days.
>> Yeah. >> Okay, but I'm
done with you.
>> No, that's a really great point.
I mean, put your cards I don't know
why I keep saying this [LAUGH]
>> I know its essential putting the
cards on the table, they're fine.
They're on the table.
Everybody knows they're
on the table.
You've always had
them on the table.
Like what did you never, why did
you not have them on the table?
>> Right? But I'm just saying for
her, she's being up front she's
putting her [LAUGH] cards on
the table, she let the guys know.
>> She's saying you have to spend
a lot of money on me and
that is how I will judge you.
>> But here's how, >> Okay,
good I don't want you then.
>> Here's why I disagree with her
though, and everyone's got their
own preference.
For a first date, I do not prefer
dinner for a first date.
Because dinner takes a long time,
right?
I remember that very short period
of time when I was single
between my ex and my now husband,
I went out on a lot of dates.
And at first I was like yeah,
take me out to dinner.
[LAUGH] >> You really say it
like that?
Did you or [LAUGH].
>> Or were your cards on the table?
I guess your cards were on
the table then, right?
Dinner?
>> [LAUGH] Take me out to dinner.
[LAUGH] Okay.
>> Did that work?
I guess, guys are easy.
>> It did, I went out
on a lot of dinners.
And then I realized dinner for
the first date not a good idea
because, on the bad dates on
the guys were like I knew within
five minutes not for me.
Every minute felt like an eternity
and it's like I remember feeling
terror when the waiter or
waitress the server, I apologize
when the server approached us and
asked if we want to dessert and
I'd be like, no, I'm okay.
I'm okay. I don't want dessert
because I wanted it to end already.
Like I wanted to go home.
It was awful.
I remember one day it was so
bad that I literally went to
the bathroom spent, like maybe five
minutes in there came back out and
was like, we gotta go.
I'm sorry.
There's an emergency.
I got to deal with it like, >> it's
like the oldest trigger number.
And after I did that,
I decided like,
no more dinner dates for
the first date.
And I love the idea of grabbing
coffee.
First of all coffee is great see
the guy or the girl or
the non binary person, whatever,
in day light and decide whether or
not you actually are attracted to
them because I did go out on a date
in like this lovely restaurant
once beautiful on beyonds like.
But it was dimly late and
I thought like he's alright look,
I don't care what anyone says you
have to be physically attracted to
the person, right.
>> Of course.
Second date broad daylight got
coffee.
No.
>> It happens.
It's real cards are on the table
cards.
Okay coffees on the table.
A lot of things are on the table.
>> Here's a bad idea, I think.
>> Yeah, mainly of course take them
out for too strong coffee.com
slash TYT ,alright, no seriously.
Look, it happens both ways.
I've been on disastrous dates.
I never pulled the I got
the emergency call.
I'm needed in the situation.
[LAUGH] >> But, but I remember one
day I was on an M, this person just
would not stop talking.
And I'd like that's
an interesting point.
And then, and then like,
I'm trying to help you, I'm trying
to have a conversation, and
then I'm going to agree with you or
whatever.
Nope.
And just and I couldn't wait for
it to be over because she and
her stories were incredibly long
and uninteresting and unabated.
I mean, her stories were
on the table.
They were all over the table.
And, and it's okay a lot of
stories, but
it's got to be back and forth.
So these things happen.
But that's why I'm telling you this
stories mixed because,
I know I'm not interested in that
kind of person.
Maybe some people are like
Donald Trump.
I mean, let's be honest,
this is this is Melania Trump,
right, but she came in and yeah,
then she went to certain parties.
And with certain men.
And Donald met her at one of those
parties and both sides
knew what they were getting into.
>> I just realized something.
Obviously dinner is pricier than
like going for a walk or a coffee
date or just going out for drinks.
So, God I'm so naive.
I'm still going to
give her the benefit of the doubt.
But if one doesn't want to give her
the benefit of the doubt, and
you're just assuming that
she's looking for
a dude with money, then yeah, her
whole life is going to be spent.
With an endless dinner with a bad
date, but you're getting dinner, so
go for it.
>> And I cannot say this
loudly enough.
Of course I didn't see that.
>> Because my mind doesn't
operate that way.
It doesn't I remember when I met
Christian when he was working at
a club, and we exchanged info and
we didn't have our first date until
literally a month later because he
was flaky.
I was flaky.
Neither one of us would actually
commit to like the first date.
But I remember one of the times
that we were texting back and
forth trying to set something up.
I was already off of work.
I was like having drinks with my
friends, but I was about to leave.
He didn't have to work that night.
So he's like, hey,
why don't we hang out tonight?
I was like, awesome.
Let's do it.
And you know what he told me?
He's like, so why don't we meet at
the park because I'm broke.
I have no money.
And I was like, okay, cool,
because to me,
it's like Cuban boys fine.
And I want to have a good time.
Right. And if we have
an interesting conversation cool,
but I'm actually
interested in the person.
Like, >> Yeah, no,
that's the part you're missing.
She doesn't care.
Yes, she's telling you,
I mainly care about your money and
being able to get a nice dinner.
So that's perfect truth and
advertising.
Somewhat accidentally.
>> Yeah, >> But
barely accidentally, right?
So yeah, I've been in that position
and I remember this person I went
out with in DC I was like,
I owe you money.
So, >> Yeah.
>> Can we go to CPA and
you got a job.
>> Can you please delicious.
>> Yeah and so she paid for
stuff and and that's because one
person sometimes has money and
the other one doesn't.
And that's what normal human beings
who like each other do and
they adjust and etc.
But for a lot of folks,
it ain't about whether they like
their personality, right.
Melania Trump did not pick Donald
for his personality.
>> Okay.
Yeah.
Let's keep it real.
Let's keep it super real.
And so, and in terms of what kind
of date you should go on?
It depends, right.
I, when I first met Wendy,
I met her at a club too.
She says, no, it was a restaurant.
[CROSSTALK] Anyway, so,
when I met her she was skeptical
about me which makes sense.
She should
have followed that instinct but
I asked her out to lunch.
Because I wanted to make sure that
she felt comfortable and
safe in broad daylight.
And this doesn't know this guy just
met him gives the number so
let's play cool.
Let's go have lunch outside right
and see if we like each other,
then we can go to a date or
not right or go to a dinner or not.
So it depends but that's if you're
mainly using the date to figure out
if you guys match and
if you have similar personalities,
similar likes, dislikes and
you would actually like each other
as human beings.
If you're using the date for
other reasons, mainly financial,
well then you wouldn't want that.
And at least she's
being clear about it.
>> So she did address some of
the condemnation.
So I'm going to give
you her quote she says.
>> You would also need
condemnation.
Of course if things go well, but
okay, yes.
I'm here all week [LAUGH] on
a date with me like okay,
now glad it was lunch.
Glad it was.
>> Okay, she says I
mean I understand that you guys say
dinner is high maintenance.
But that's just like what I'm used
to, where I come from and
that is Europe, Croatia.
Men pay for the first second third
or whatever, you're so
right It was about the money,
like all the dates and I'm not
going to change my mind about this.
That's how I was brought up.
I could never be with a guy who
makes me pay for
my meal on the first date.
Wow.
Let me just say and then she was
saying all this while she
was pouring that wine or champagne.
I don't know if it was champagne or
wine or whatever,
but, >> On a private jet seemingly.
In other words, don't come at me
unless you're really rich because
all I care about is your money.
The private jets cinched it,
if you weren't super duper clear,
she takes the picture and says,
you need to have a lot of money
because I'm looking for money.
If we're going to have
a relationship.
>> Dude,
relationships are really hard.
They are like, and
I'm not talking about like, this is
new butterflies super exciting.
I'm talking about marriage like,
I don't know if she's looking for
marriage, but
if this is her mindset and she ends
up marrying simply for money,
you're going to have a hard time.
>> No, he's going to have a hard
hard time.
Okay?
So because at the end of the day
if they get divorced, they might be
mission accomplished for her.
So, I mean, buyer beware and
she couldn't have been any clearer.
So, again I support it because I'm
in favor of clarity.
You know where I like cards
on the table.
[LAUGH]