Hate being left on read? You’re not alone. Here’s what you need to text him when he
doesn’t text you back…
Hi, I’m Amy North. I offer simple dating advice for women who are looking to make a
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First off, when a guy doesn’t text you back, don’t panic. A guy not texting you back
isn’t the end of the world, or even the end of your flirtation, necessarily. The truth
is that people often just get busy, don’t see a message and then forget to respond.
You need to know that everyone has a different relationship with their phone. Some people
actually leave them in the other room and forget to check them for hours. Some people
get anxious when they haven’t responded to a text right away so they opt to just never
respond at all. I think we all have that friend who is horrible at texting back. We know that
this doesn’t mean they like us any less, so why do we fall apart when it comes to men
acting the same way?
That said, I think you’ll agree that it’s very rare that we actually “don’t see”
a text, especially when it’s from someone we’re genuinely interested in. This can
mean that he’s really just not that into you… just yet. If this is a guy you’ve
been out with a few times and you can’t get him to respond to a message then I’d
take it as a pretty clear signal to move on. But if it’s a guy you only met in passing
who you’ve failed to really connect with, don’t lose hope just yet. You’re going
to have to put in a little effort to win his attention at first but once he’s realized
this, things can only improve from there.
Another important question is: did your message actually warrant a response? If it was a direct
question then, of course, him not texting you back is more significant. But if not,
then chances are he isn’t even aware that you think he’s left you on read. The same
is true of something like “hey” or “what’s up?”. These kinds of messages are just generally
forgettable, especially if he doesn’t know you that well.
So here are the situations where you don’t need to worry that he didn’t text you back:
1. It’s been less than 24 hours 2. Your message wasn’t a direction question
or doesn’t require a response 3. You know he’s super busy with something
important
But if none of these apply, then chances are he’s either truly not interested, or trying
to send you the message that he’s not interested, which is probably worse.
Here are a few things you shouldn’t do when he leaves you on read:
Obsess for hours about the perfect message to send that will make him respond.
Ask why he hasn’t returned your message. Send him a single question mark.
Post something cryptic on social media. Lash out at him in anger.
Contact his friends Block him
Or seek out a witch online to put a love spell on him.
Yes, unfortunately, as fun as some of those things may be, they won’t get you what you
want: his love and attention.
Do this instead:
First, get up out of your chair and go for a walk. If you have time to watch this video,
you have time to stretch your legs even a tiny bit. This is going to clear your head,
give you a few endorphins, and remind you that there are more important things in the
world than whether or not this guy responds to your texts.
When you’ve done that, I want you to take your phone, and turn it off. That’s right,
off. Now doesn't that feel good?
Now that he actually CAN’T text you back, you can focus on things that actually matter.
Things that you actually have control over.
As long as you keep sitting there “waiting on a text from him” then every moment that
passes is going to make you more upset. Instead, go out and live your life. Remember what you
were doing before the two of you even met? That’s a great place to start. And when
he does finally respond it will be a nice surprise rather than an overdue message that
will only make you wonder where the hell he’s been the whole time. Instead of operating
from a place of FEAR or ANGER, live your life from a place of ABUNDANCE.
If you two have simply been playing telephone tag, it might be the time to reach out and
end this cycle. Don’t berate him or be passive aggressive. Just shoot off a short text and
ask him a question about himself. Keep it casual. This shows him that you’re interested
in talking more and that you don’t take his failure to text you too personally. If
he doesn’t respond to this one, it’s time to think about moving on.
If you’re looking for the perfect text message to send to him when he doesn’t text back,
I’m sorry to say that there isn’t one. The truth is that once you’ve been left
on read, sending more messages just makes things worse. Apologies for the clickbait.
Take it from a dating coach: dating is tough. It often feels like there are no rules and
that you don’t have anyone in your corner to help you when things don’t go the way
you’ve planned. Well I’m here for you. Go over to CoachNorth.com right now and check
out my free video there. In it, I explain why it’s so much more difficult to make
a relationship last these days, and what you can do to change that. That’s CoachNorth.com
So what about when you do when you two get back in touch? Should you just act like nothing
happened? Well, yes and no. If you’re still interested, then wait until you two are together
in person to really talk this through. In the meantime, remember how he made you feel
and maybe reevaluate whether or not he’s a good match for you. I’m not saying missing
a text is a dealbreaker but if you’re someone who is anxious about this, then maybe a guy
who leaves you on read for several days at a time isn’t really your perfect match.
Don’t think of it as losing a potential guy, but freeing yourself up for a man who
will treat you with the respect you deserve.
I’m Amy North, thanks for watching and I’ll see you in my next video.