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- [Narrator] You think things are going well
with your woman.
Then out of nowhere she says,
"We need to end this Kyle."
Maybe you've tried getting a woman back with no success
and you are not sure why.
You need to understand that at different ages
and phases of life,
women respond differently to what they find attractive
and how they will behave with you.
A 33 year old woman will want you to show her
you are willing to commit and provide.
Whereas an 18 year old is likely to place more importance
on looks and exploring her options.
In this video, you'll gain an understanding
of the phases of a woman's life.
You'll gain more power over your dating life,
waste less time and become better
at attracting and keeping your dream women or woman.
This is a book summary
of "The Rational Male - Preventive Medicine"
by Rollo Tomassi.
Part one, understanding hypergamy.
Hypergamy is the instinctual desire
of a woman to get the best possible mate that she can get.
Hypergamy is made up of the good genes aspect
and the good father aspect.
Women want the most genetically attractive partner
they can get.
The second is the good father aspect.
They also want a man who sticks around
and has resources to share with her and her children.
But rarely do these characteristics appear in the same man.
Men who are good looking and can sleep with a lot of women,
don't have the incentive to stick around,
while men who are willing to provide,
aren't necessarily attractive.
Men with both of these qualities are rare.
Therefore some researchers have suggested
women have evolved a dualistic sexual strategy.
Over evolutionary time,
women may have maximised reproductive success
by doing two things simultaneously.
Seeking good genes by mating with someone
other than her primary partner during ovulation,
and maintaining a longterm pair bond with a partner
who provides resources for the children.
In simple terms, she coups up with Winston
but bangs Chad.
Keep watching because at the end of part three,
you will learn how to help prevent your woman
from banging Chad.
But first you must understand biological hypergamy.
The ovulatory shift.
There is a multitude of scientific studies that indicate
that a woman's sexual preference for facial characteristics
shifts depending on her menstrual phase.
When women ovulate, they prefer masculine faces.
Faces with features that indicate
high levels of testosterone, like wide faces,
beards and defined jaw lines.
Men with high levels of testosterone indicate good genes
because only men with good genes
could afford the taxing effects,
testosterone has on the immune system.
And fun fact, high rates of testosterone
are associated with high rates of offspring abandonment.
At other points during the cycle
women prefer feminine male faces
as they might signal a higher willingness
of the males to invest in the offspring.
So what does this mean for men?
Well, now that we know about hypergamy
and that women desire the best genes during ovulation,
ask yourself,
how would this affect your relationship with your partner?
Can you accept the fact that she has an instinctual desire
to trade up with a good looking alpha male during ovulation?
If this makes you uncomfortable, embrace the discomfort.
Know that in theory, no woman who sees you
as her hypergamous best interest will want to cheat on you.
That's why it's important to never stop becoming 1% better.
The trap so many men fall into
is they get into a relationship.
After a few months, they stop going to the gym.
They become lazy, and delude themselves that their woman
will love them forever for who they are.
Let's move on to part three,
where you will under the phases of a woman's life
which will help you identify a partner
who is less likely to bang Chad.
The woman's maturation timeline
describes how the situations and behaviours of women change
based on what phase of life they're in.
The first phase is the formative years,
ages 15 to 25.
Women in this age range, highly value the looks of men.
An introverted shy guy can be perceived
as an attractive alpha male, if his looks are on point.
Other factors like status, confidence, and game,
while beneficial, I've valued less due to the fact that
a young girl likes a real experience of a guy with game,
social savvy or a real need for provisioning.
Phase two is the break,
when women are at the end of their late teens.
At the start of women's college lives,
they are inclined to end their relationship
with their high school sweetheart
and enjoy their new found options
because their sexual market value is at its highest.
A common trap men fall into during this phase,
is committing to a long distance relationship
with their woman, because they or their partner
have to move away for university.
That, or they change their careers
so that they can attend the same university as their woman
only to be broken up with after a few months
because she is inclined to explore her options.
Phase three are the party years, whoa whoa!
Ages 20 to 25.
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In this phase, women have boatloads of sexual options.
The physical looks she prioritised in high school
will remain the top attraction priority.
However, as she matures and gains new experiences
wealth and status will also become important factors
for attraction.
In phase four, we enter the epiphany
which is ages 28 to 30.
Women become more aware of their declining looks
and their diminishing ability to compete with younger women.
They feel more urgency to lock in a male partner
with superior genes, who will also stick around to provide.
"Where is this going?"
Is the most common question a man will be asked
during this phase.
She might stop having sex with you
or threaten to break up if she doesn't feel that
you would get down on one knee for her.
Phase five, the transitory phase ages 29 to 31.
She is anxious that she'll never find
a suitable longterm mate.
Feminine social conventions allay women's anxieties
and pressure men to settle down with them.
That's why you hear some women say,
"Men should date women their age.
"Men are shallow for adoring single mothers.
"Men feel threatened by successful women."
Onto phase six, security, from ages 31 to 34.
If women have not secured a suitable partner
they have two options.
One, continue to look for a partner
that fulfils both alpha attraction and beta provisioning,
as their looks declined further,
or settle for a partner with less value than her,
who can't provide alpha genes
but can provide longterm security and provisioning.
As women continue to age in their thirties,
wealth, provision and capacity and status
become the primary attractive traits to them.
Women in this phase are the toughest to date
because of the heavy desire for you
to commit and entitlement.
"I'm more valuable than those younger girls,"
she tells herself.
A mixture of feminism, her achievements,
and fear of losing her value manifests as entitlement.
Men are repelled and the high value ones
are dating the younger girls,
so she is left with little options.
Phase seven, redevelopment, ages 40 to 48.
A new alpha reinterest begins to emerge.
While security may still be an important concern for her,
she turns her attention to the excitement
she used to enjoy with her past alpha lovers.
And finally phase eight, late phase security,
ages 48 plus.
Her primary desire is security and provisioning
as her appearance decays.
Now as promised,
to decrease the likelihood of your woman banging Chad,
you have two main options.
Number one is to ditch her,
and date a woman age 28 to 34, and 48 plus,
because they'll be in a phase where they value
longterm beta provisioning more than short term alpha fun.
The obvious drawback is that you may settle
for a woman who's youthful beauty is declining quickly,
not to mention breaking up with her could be a poor choice,
if you are implementing option number two
which is to commit to becoming 1% better every day,
so you can increase and maintain high value as a man.
High value and consistently bringing excitement
into her life, will encourage her or even them
to stick around for you.
The ideas I shared with you from this book
are Rollo's observations,
based on over 15 years of discussion
of thousands of men's experiences with women.
But Rollo still encourages you, to seek truth for yourself.
I'll leave you with a final piece of wisdom
from Rollo Tomassi himself.
With a healthy understanding, respect and awareness
of what influences his condition,
a man can overcome and thrive within the context of them,
but he must first be aware of, and accepting of,
the conditions in which he operates and manoeuvres.
You may not be able to control the actions of others.
You may not be able to account for women's hypergamy,
but you can be prepared for them,
you can protect yourself from the consequences of them
and you can live a better life, no matter your demographic
age, past regrets, or present circumstances.
Let's recap.
In part one you learn that hypergamy
is the instinctual desire for a woman
to get the best possible mate that she can get.
In part two, you learn that a woman during ovulation
is likely to find alpha male traits
more attractive than beta male traits.
And in part three,
you learn the different phases of a woman's life
and how it affects their behaviour and preferences in a mate.
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