- Hey, what's up.? It's me, Jessica J.
And I was just wondering
if you've ever sat and thought to yourself,
"Uh, Jessica, what's the number one way to know
if she's flirting versus being friendly?"
Well, like so, I'm glad you asked
'cause I can't tell you how many times
I've been on these dates, and I've been friendly
because I wasn't actually interested.
And these dudes thought that I was inviting them
to band camp.
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Okay, so guys always try to look for the signs like,
"Uh, Jessica, she flips her hair a lot."
Or even, "Uh, Jessica, she maintained eye contact
the whole time."
And I'm just like,
"Sometimes I just gotta flip my fucking hair
'cause it's so heavy and I'm so hot,
so I'm gonna fucking flip it all the time.
And I actually have great eye contact. What can I say?
I'm a good communicator."
Men will also unfortunately confuse a woman
just talking about sex as her wanting to have sex with him,
which is the reality of my existence
and why I probably get at least three dick pics a day
from dudes I've never even met in my life before!
If you've sent one, please fucking stop
and all my friends have seen it.
So what brought about this topic
was because I have girlfriends
that do my Spotlight Speed Dating program,
where you come on and practice talking to a girl
in front of me while I critique you in the moment
and help guide you along to find your blind spots
when it comes to attracting the women you want.
And sure enough, because I am introverted as fuck,
all my girlfriends are extremely extroverted
and the epitome of just being nice.
They're the girls who would go out there
and start conversations with mother fucking anybody,
no matter what you look like,
'cause they just love having conversations and shit.
So back to my one friend, Tina,
who does practice calls and spotlights speed dates
for my guys.
The guys have mentioned that they've never come across
a girl like Tina, who has talked to them
and engaged with them.
And they've also admitted that,
"Yes, I do think she's interested in me.
What do you mean she's not?
Let me try to get her number
and meet her outside of Jessica's program."
But I'll tell you right now, my girl, Tina,
has one telltale sign when I do know
that she is into one of my clients
and it's the same exact sign
that all my girlfriends give off
when we're out or about in a bar.
Again, my girlfriends are the ones
who talk to all and dudes in the bar, no matter what.
Any guy who comes and talks,
says they're going to talk to them.
They're talking to everybody.
And I know they actually want one of these guys
when they start talking about us.
My girlfriends will say things like,
"Oh my god, like, I totally need a guy like you. (giggles)
'Cause I can't fake shit."
Or even, "Oh my god. Stop.
Like, we would totally fight all the time.
I'm totally going to fight you."
For me, I know when I'm out on a date
and I'm not interested in this dude at all,
I will make an adamant point
to never reference us at all,
because I don't want him to think that ever at all.
And all women subconsciously do this
when we are flirting with you,
because it's not always a hair flip,
and it's not always the eye contact.
It's the us actually thinking about me and you, as in us,
which is why I always talk about flirting
can be as simple and as subtle as talking about us together.
Whether it's, "Oh, my god.
Like, your totally wifey material."
Or even, "Oh, my god.
You're totally the type of girl that I would need
if the world was gonna end."
Positioning the two of you together at all
is enough to plant the seed in our heads.
And that's what we women do to plant the seed in your head
to hopefully have you plant your seed in us.
So if you actually do know the girl
and you do talk to her on a regular basis,
I would absolutely look for these key distinctions,
'cause chances are,
she's not talking to anybody else with an us.
And if you notice that she's also
not talking to you in us's,
then chances are, you're just like everybody else,
which is somebody she thinks she just has to be nice to.
And probably does enjoy talking to as well.
And if you know you need a little bit more help
in your interactions with women and moving things forward
to create that chemistry and connection
that you're looking for once and for all,
I've since opened the doors once more
to my Spotlight speed Dating program,
which you can now apply to at
speaktosparkarousal.com/ppd.
And the link is somewhere here.
That is the most forward women will be
when it comes to shooting our shot
is suddenly and often subconsciously
talking about us together.
I'm tellin' you, we're too chicken shit
to shoot our shot in a more overt way.
We're too trained otherwise to make things sexual
because that's your realm.
And also, you know, it is just not us.
The egg does not chase the sperm.
But we will absolutely put that fucking egg in your face
to make it easier for your sperm to get to.
So be on the lookout for those us's
coming out of her mouth.
Apply for Spotlight Speed Dating at
speaktosparkarousla.com/ppd.
Thanks for watching as always.
And I'll see you guys next time.