Hey there, are you in a relationship
and you're wondering if it's maybe a narcissist.
I'm gonna give you
So that you can spot them before it even begins.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung
and I'm a narcissist negotiation expert
and I've seen all the signs.
I have helped millions of people through this channel.
Thousands of people through my law practice.
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I wanna make sure that you spot these suckers.
So that you can ward them off
before they even come near you.
Alright.
So early red flags of narcissists,
before they even come near you.
I wanna make that you get like this cone of safety.
Cone of safety around you.
Right?
So maybe, you've been in a
relationship with the narcissist.
Maybe we're trying to get out of one right now
and if that's you,
if you're trying to get out of one right now.
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But if you are even thinking
that you might be in a relationship,
these are the early signs.
I'm gonna give you six of them
and you're gonna wanna stay all the way
to the end and see what all six of them are.
Alright?
So number one is
it's overwhelming fast.
You know, they gotta get to it.
Get to it.
And you're almost overwhelmed at how
quickly they're moving along this relationship
and you know, you don't have
a chance to catch your breath.
That's how it is.
By the way, this is business or personal.
I was in a business relationship with a narcissist,
and I felt this too in the business relationship.
It moves very, very quickly.
So that's number one.
Number two,
The second big major red flag
of a narcissist is that
You know, they'll start saying things
that will make you feel like,
‘‘wow, where has this person been all of my life?’’
Right away.
I mean, they might even say that on the
first date or maybe even before the first date
they'll say things like that.
So that's number two early red flag
that you are in a relationship with a narcissist.
Number three.
I mean, they might even say at
how horrible their ex is with their kids,
if they're alienating them with their kids,
and it was just an awful
traumatic situation with their ex.
That's another massive early red flag
that you are in a relationship with a narcissist.
If you are with a person that has
great relationship with their ex.
That's a good sign.
That's actually a good sign.
Okay?
Conversely.
The number four early red flag that you
are in a relationship with a narcissist is
What narcissist do is they study you.
They actually study you and they start mirroring you.
They actually be kind of become you.
They start figuring out what it is that you like
and now all of the sudden,
they almost want to align with
everything that you love.
So that you almost sort of fall in
love with yourself in a way.
They're very, very good at reading people.
They've been doing this four years.
I don't know if many of you have read the book
Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell,
where he talked about.
It took 10 thousand hours to achieve mastery.
Well, this is way more than 10 thousand hours.
These are people who have taken years
and years and years to achieve
mastery and manipulation.
Since they were children,
it's a survival mechanism
and so what they have done is actually
studied people since they were children
and what they needed to do was
to survive was look to see
what they needed to do to be
calm that person to become likable
and so they really almost become that
person just to get in with them.
Just to become assimilated.
Just to get to that next level of commitment.
They love everything that you love initially
and I have a whole series of
videos on this love bombing
and then they go into devaluing
and then the discard phase
and you can check out my videos
on the three different levels of
a narcissistic relationship yourself
if you would like.
And now after all of this,
your eyes will be wide open.
So I want you to put that in the comments right now.
‘‘EYES WIDE OPEN!’’
because that's where you'll be from now on.
Eyes wide open!
So that's number four.
Number five early red sign of narcissism is
You know, maybe they had a horrible childhood.
Life hasn't been fair to them.
they'll tell you all about how awful things have been
for them so that you start to feel sorry for them.
Maybe their parents weren't good to them
or something happened to them because they
want you to start to empathize for them,
have compassion for them,
take care of them,
start giving them that narcissistic
supply that they're seeking.
They're going to look to see if you are
going to be a good source
of narcissistic supply for them.
That's what they're going to be looking for.
Alright?
So they're drawing you in,
bringing you in to and starting to test you to
see if you are going to be a good source of value,
a good source of supply for them.
Another early red flag of
narcissism telling you a sob story.
Alright?
That's number five.
And number six,
The last one
You're just gonna feel it because
it's gonna be rushed along.
They're gonna be moving you along.
You're gonna be feeling like a man.
Put the brakes on.
Something is happening.
It's going way too fast and even when you start to go,
you know what?
Maybe this is moving too fast.
I don't know about this.
They are going to be going,
‘‘oh, no this is not moving too fast.’’
Weird soul mates.
This was meant to be.
They're gonna be every time
you start to have concerns.
They're gonna have an answer for you.
They're gonna be right there,
not even giving you that chance to breathe,
not giving you that chance to think
because they're gonna be right there in your face
with the emails flooding your inbox showing up
wherever all the time,
and they're gonna know exactly what to say.
Be perfect at every moment until they lock you in,
and that'll be the next level.
So those are the early red flags
that you are with a narcissist,
and I'm sure you guys have seen it.
If you do see it next time,
you're gonna know I've seen this before
because you're gonna know eyes wide open.
Right?
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Remember that today is a great day
to start negotiating your best life.
They only win if you give in you don't need to do
because we're here to support you.
I'm Rebecca Zung
and I will see you in the next video.