Hey YouTube, Breakup Brad here… have you heard about my “Covert Jealousy” technique?
If not, it’s a sneaky tactic that allows you to safely make your ex a bit jealous,
helping to change their mind about breaking up and take you back.
So if that’s something that sounds appealing to you, keep watching and you’ll learn more
about how to use this powerful and effective technique yourself.
Now I need to begin by issuing a bit of a warning here.
While it’s absolutely true that jealousy can be a very useful tool to get a second
chance with your ex, it can also go horribly wrong if you execute this technique improperly
or without really knowing what you’re doing.
Before you go out and start using this on your ex, be sure to watch my full free video
tutorial at BreakupBrad.com.
In that video, you’ll learn more about the key fundamental principles of winning back
your ex, as well as more on how to use jealousy safely without having it backfire on you.
You might think that you already know how jealousy would help you make your ex want
you back… it’s as simple as going out and dating someone new, right?
Wrong.
That’s just part of my Covert Jealousy technique… because, as I mentioned, subtlety is critical
here.
That’s where the “Covert” part comes in.
There’s also more than one way to make your ex jealous beyond just dating someone new.
So, what are the keys to using Covert Jealousy?
#1 - Employ a period of No Contact.
Yeah yeah, I know you don’t want to hear me explain how the 30 Day No Contact rule
works again… but please understand that it’s very important to use No Contact as
part of a bigger plan to make your ex jealous.
In fact, not only does No Contact help incite jealousy in your ex by itself, but it also
makes the other aspects of Covert Jealousy more effective.
You need to “shock” your ex into experiencing what life is like when you’re completely
gone, for starters… and by completely shutting down all communication for a month or so after
breaking up, you also set the stage for using the Covert Jealousy technique.
#2 - Get out there and start living your best life.
This is something that a lot of people tend to overlook when it comes to making your ex
jealous, but it’s also really important.
Your ex isn’t expecting you to really thrive in the weeks and months immediately after
breaking up… in fact, they’re expecting you to lie around the house feeling sorry
for yourself.
That’s why you need to do the exact opposite, and get out there and live life to the fullest.
What does this mean, practically speaking?
It means going out and being as social as possible.
It means making new friends, reconnecting with old friends, and joining a club or taking
up a new hobby.
It means going to the gym and getting fit.
It means kicking ass at work or at school, achieving your goals and really thriving.
#3 - Go on dates and/or hang out with members of the opposite sex.
As I said previously, this is only part of the Covert Jealousy method, but it’s still
an important component.
I know that you probably don’t feel like going on a date with someone new right now,
but you need to put yourself out there and start dating again as soon as humanly possible,
regardless of whether you actually think it’s going to lead anywhere in the long-term.
Create a Tinder profile, put yourself out there on dating sites, pick up a new hobby
where you’re likely to meet new people of the opposite sex… doesn’t really matter
how, just go on some dates and have a good time.
Again, it’s not important whether you really feel a connection with whomever you’re seeing
casually, it’s just going out and doing it that really matters.
In fact, you can even just hang out with friends of the opposite sex, and that can have the
same effect.
The more you date, the more your ex will think, “Hey, I used to date this really high-quality
individual.
Why on Earth did I dump him/her?”
So go out on as many dates as you can.
I’m not saying you should sleep with the whole entire world, but make it known that
you are highly sought after and that members of the opposite sex want you.
In the dating world, this is what we call pre-selection.
Being wanted is desirable to the opposite sex.
So mingle and flirt your heart out!
#4 - Leverage social media to communicate things to your ex.
Yeah, it’s no secret here… your ex is going to visit your Facebook profile, no matter
what.
Unless your relationship ended so poorly that he or she has blocked you, you should have
absolutely no problem making your ex jealous using social media.
So, post pictures of you doing really fun things that your ex wouldn’t expect you
to be doing.
You could post pictures like you snowboarding, bungie jumping, or playing the guitar.
Remember to take some pictures of whatever fun social stuff you’re doing… show your
ex you’re popular and that you have a bustling social life.
And just like I mentioned earlier, take pictures of yourself with really attractive members
of the opposite sex to show that you’re high value.
Do everything you can to convey to the world that you love life and that you’re happy.
There’s one important caveat to this strategy: you need to be SUBTLE and not make your underlying
intentions obvious to your ex.
That means that you don’t want to post things that are totally out of character for you…
so, if you’ve never been very active on social media in the past and you typically
only post a photo on Instagram once a year, don’t suddenly start posting one every day.
Instead, maybe start posting once or twice a month, making sure to be subtle about what
and how you make the post.
Just remember that you want to convey the message here to your ex in an under-the-radar
manner that doesn’t make it obvious you’re actually doing so purely to send him or her
a message.
#5 - Use mutual friends to your advantage.
If you and your ex share any mutual friends, then you can definitely use those friends
as a way to communicate things to your ex.
Tell your mutual friend about all the crazy adventures you’ve been going on.
Tell them about all the people you’ve been dating (and definitely tell them about all
the people that are chasing after you).
Once you tell your mutual friends about all these positive experiences, chances are they’ll
“tattletale” and run to your ex to tell him or her about the news.
People love to gossip… so you might as well make use of this.
Look, I know this sounds like a lot of manipulation, and maybe you feel fake and disingenuous doing
these things, but if you’re subtle and careful about this, then it is a very effective way
to make your ex jealous and get them interested in you again.
As I mentioned, be sure you’re not too obvious or overt in doing this, because you don’t
want to set off any alarm bells in your ex’s mind and let them know you’re actively doing
so to try and win them back.
#6 - Create mystery and curiosity when talking to your ex.
This is perhaps one of the most effective parts of the Covert Jealousy tactic, and it’s
also one of the least ‘dangerous’ or likely to backfire.
By casually dropping a seemingly innate reference to a new “friend” you’re hanging out
with, without giving much detail or further explanation, you can make your ex really wonder
what you’ve been up to and what they’re missing out on.
One of my favorite examples of this is something you can do over text message… so, for example,
let’s say you left your favourite sweater at your ex’s house and need to pick it up
from them.
When you arrange to pick it up from their house in a text message, you might say something
like this in your text…
“Hey, taking a friend to the new Avengers movie tonight at that theatre by your house…
could I drop by to pick up my sweater on the way?”
You can also achieve the same effect if you’re meeting your ex and chatting with them in
person.
One way to do that would be to tell an interesting or funny story about something you’ve done
since breaking up, and drop a reference to a “new friend” during the story.
For example, you could say…
“I went scuba diving with my friend Tom last week, and on our second dive we saw an
entire school of dolphins…”
Don’t go into any more detail about who “Tom” is or what your relationship with
him or her is… just drop that reference in a natural way during the course of your
conversation, and leave it at that.
When you do this effectively, you’ll leave your ex wondering to themselves WHO this new
person is and what your relationship with him or her really is… regardless of the
truth, they’re going to assume the worst and their mind will be going crazy with wonder.
If you’re struggling to think of a way to do this safely -- or if you just want some
help crafting a plan to use Covert Jealousy on your ex -- I’m happy to learn about the
details of your breakup and offer my ongoing guidance as the situation unfolds.
All you need to do is visit BreakupBrad.com/Coaching and register for my 1-on-1 coaching service
and we’ll get started today on coming up with a plan to get your ex back into your
arms as quickly as possible.
Again, to see my current coaching availability and sign up, just visit BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
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